Curious...

[andee]

How do you learn to trust that one person?
it's like doing a free fall... the adrenaline, the risk seems too high to gamble.
what if everyone around you has tried to do it and failed miserably, ending up getting hurt?
do u still take that free fall?
is it worth it?
is it the terms and conditions that comes along with "love+relationship"?
does time plays a part?

really curious how people actually place so much trust in one person...

 

[sad_gal82]

trust is not built overnight. for me, i realise that its too high a risk to take to place too much trust in one person. however, being together for a longer period doesn't mean that you can put all yr trust in him/her because people change. i think its more like a gamble. if you happen to find a person who is trustworthly by nature, then you are lucky.

 

[ex7rema]

for me.. i think trust is needed in a relationship... n i gave my partner almost 99% of trust... i always believe in "if it is not meant to be yours, den be it"

 

[powder]

one of my favourite quotes is from 'City of Angels' when Seth was asked if he had any regrets... he said,

<font size="+1"><font color="aa00aa">"I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss of her mouth, one touch of her hand, than eternity without it."</font></font>

 

[andee]

lovely quote!!

 

[powder]

distrust is hardest to deal with... for me i live my life trusting, i'd rather be hurt trusting others... than for others to be hurt by my distrust... it's others before myself... always

 

[miloice]

For me, trust is not gained but lost. Learn to give others the benefit of the doubt.

 

[sheezh]

There must be trust in a relationship. And it is very tiring to have to analyse every single word that was spoken from someone you don't trust.

I will first trust a person, until he lost that trust, which he will have to work on it if he wants to gain it back. But someimes, what's lost can never be found, because seeds of doubts will always be there. Yet there are times when I am a lovefool, when love clouds everything and you simply just trust that person even it is evident that he don't deserve that trust.

 

[shirleypoise]

I think e saddest thing in life is Regret. How u could do a certain thing, to get a certain someone, to live a certain life, but never got to because of fear.

End of the day, do u want to regret for not trying, for not trusting, or do u want to tell urself that u've done ur best even if it fails.

Unless, of course, u know for sure that it's wasted time n effort even b4 u go fwd.

 

[texasholdem]

distrust is hardest to deal with... for me i rather hurt others... than for others to hurt me first.!!!

 

[alcifertoh]

Living life in suspicion can be real tiring. I live by the motto of trusting than suspect.

 

[vios]

Yeah.. or Cao Cao's migraine, you will get.

 

[alcifertoh]

Poor Hua Tuo.

 

[jeankris]

I know what you mean, when I was so much in love, I was also afraid to trust at the same time. Always wondering 'what if he's lying to me' or 'what if one day i realise he's been cheating'. Constantly worried about getting hurt. It takes time to build that trust, you gotta see if the 1 you love treats you right, is he/she honest towards you, brings you out together with his/her friends for outings, let you even reply sms on his/her behalf etc etc. Things like that will show how committed he/she is. But of course I do not agree with 100% trust cause you can imagine your world will fall apart when proved otherwise. Don't be too suspicious either as it will be tiring for you and will hurt your relationship. trust in moderation (maybe 90%) and always keep your eyes and ears open.