Hi all, just wanna share & probably at the same time hear out anybody who is in the same circumstances like I do.
Moved into our new home about 6 mths ago. MIL is currently not staying with us but told the hub that she wants to. Currently she only comes during the weekends. Actually it's not the first time she hinted in front of their family already. She's considered an ok person less those times when she will comment a bit here & there. For eg, commenting that the floor is dirty/oily even when I had already done the chores for the whole day.
So recently, the topic of moving came back again with the hub telling me his mum want to move in (she is currently living with the relative). Hub asked me how again & ask me to give him a reason/excuse to tell them. He told me that he doesn't want to be unfillal & wants his mother/family to move in. Actually I was quite upset cause all along I thought he was standing on the same side as me. Not that disallowing to move in, but like can stand from my pov to understand me. I feel that like nobody bothers about my view at all (cause it's our own home afterall), like don't even bother to ask me so is it ok to move over, but rather now the stand is like, so I can move in or not, cannot then I will just be unhappy about it, that kind. The hub can even say to me things like so now you are showing your true colours. I was like WTH? All I told him was if whoever eventually moves in, please don't expect me to be the kind of individual who will give a very warm welcome when back home or dont always say that I show face when all along I am this kind of pattern. When I'm tired or don't feel like it, my face will show up. Is it that I'm not allowed to do that even in my own home? I don't want to be judged even at home, that's how I feel. My friends/family who knows me well enough will know me.
Anyway before this time round happens, actually we had few quarrels happened already. I'm the kind of introverted individual & am the RBF type. Doesn't really like to interact much also. Also I'm quite particular when it comes to my own home, like cleaning dishes, laundry & stuff like this. My concern is like what I mentioned above, not getting judged at my own home, do whatever I want & no need to feel restricted cause you know having another person other than your hub is different. Different lifestyles of one another as well.
Moved into our new home about 6 mths ago. MIL is currently not staying with us but told the hub that she wants to. Currently she only comes during the weekends. Actually it's not the first time she hinted in front of their family already. She's considered an ok person less those times when she will comment a bit here & there. For eg, commenting that the floor is dirty/oily even when I had already done the chores for the whole day.
So recently, the topic of moving came back again with the hub telling me his mum want to move in (she is currently living with the relative). Hub asked me how again & ask me to give him a reason/excuse to tell them. He told me that he doesn't want to be unfillal & wants his mother/family to move in. Actually I was quite upset cause all along I thought he was standing on the same side as me. Not that disallowing to move in, but like can stand from my pov to understand me. I feel that like nobody bothers about my view at all (cause it's our own home afterall), like don't even bother to ask me so is it ok to move over, but rather now the stand is like, so I can move in or not, cannot then I will just be unhappy about it, that kind. The hub can even say to me things like so now you are showing your true colours. I was like WTH? All I told him was if whoever eventually moves in, please don't expect me to be the kind of individual who will give a very warm welcome when back home or dont always say that I show face when all along I am this kind of pattern. When I'm tired or don't feel like it, my face will show up. Is it that I'm not allowed to do that even in my own home? I don't want to be judged even at home, that's how I feel. My friends/family who knows me well enough will know me.
Anyway before this time round happens, actually we had few quarrels happened already. I'm the kind of introverted individual & am the RBF type. Doesn't really like to interact much also. Also I'm quite particular when it comes to my own home, like cleaning dishes, laundry & stuff like this. My concern is like what I mentioned above, not getting judged at my own home, do whatever I want & no need to feel restricted cause you know having another person other than your hub is different. Different lifestyles of one another as well.
