Sky_Pandas
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I am 36 and he is 30, we were together for 8 months. We broke up on weekends (4 days ago) and had our final talk on Sunday. We were in serious relationship and it had always been stable, no fights or any big arguments. He expressed how much he loved me was always needy and wanted me to be around. Just few weeks ago, he was still afraid that I do not want to be with him.
Everything changed 2 weeks ago due to a false pregnancy scare which made him turned cold feet towards our future. He said he cannot see our future will work out and that he doesn't want to drag my time further as I am not getting any younger. He also emphasised that our cultures are different (he is European & I am Asian) and getting into my family to accept him may be also difficult.
We ended our talk very well and were opened and honest with our feelings. He also admitted that his feelings towards me never get any lesser, he still love me but just not strong enough to let him see our future. He was pretty determined to break up and told me his mind is set like... forever. As he didn't want to mess up our feelings and then back together like we used to, we agreed to give ourselves few weeks to focus back to our lives, to adjust and to re-adapt so we can meet up as friends to hang out coz we really enjoyed being with each other a lot. Till today, both of us still keeping our FB profile pics (photo of us) unchanged.
I am applying the no contact rule but I still have my things that I need at his place. Right now, I really just want to give ourselves space and time to discover ourselves and I know I am not ready to make any contact with him as I know I will bring myself feel negative all over again after the contact. Will 2 or 3 weeks sufficient for the no contact? His birthday is also exactly 30 days from now and I am hoping to have dinner with him (we did talk about that during our talk). I wish to turn up looking fresh and great to pick up my items before his day, and then to see how he react to the birthday invitation. Or should I skipped the collection and invite him out few days before his birthday?
Somehow I am feeling better as I am feeling positive that we still have chance to get back together, I know its unhealthy to feel that day but if I don't think this way, I will start going back to our past and make hell to my own emotions. Any advice?
Everything changed 2 weeks ago due to a false pregnancy scare which made him turned cold feet towards our future. He said he cannot see our future will work out and that he doesn't want to drag my time further as I am not getting any younger. He also emphasised that our cultures are different (he is European & I am Asian) and getting into my family to accept him may be also difficult.
We ended our talk very well and were opened and honest with our feelings. He also admitted that his feelings towards me never get any lesser, he still love me but just not strong enough to let him see our future. He was pretty determined to break up and told me his mind is set like... forever. As he didn't want to mess up our feelings and then back together like we used to, we agreed to give ourselves few weeks to focus back to our lives, to adjust and to re-adapt so we can meet up as friends to hang out coz we really enjoyed being with each other a lot. Till today, both of us still keeping our FB profile pics (photo of us) unchanged.
I am applying the no contact rule but I still have my things that I need at his place. Right now, I really just want to give ourselves space and time to discover ourselves and I know I am not ready to make any contact with him as I know I will bring myself feel negative all over again after the contact. Will 2 or 3 weeks sufficient for the no contact? His birthday is also exactly 30 days from now and I am hoping to have dinner with him (we did talk about that during our talk). I wish to turn up looking fresh and great to pick up my items before his day, and then to see how he react to the birthday invitation. Or should I skipped the collection and invite him out few days before his birthday?
Somehow I am feeling better as I am feeling positive that we still have chance to get back together, I know its unhealthy to feel that day but if I don't think this way, I will start going back to our past and make hell to my own emotions. Any advice?