Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

Huichin,

SAHM - stay at home mother. heheh..this one, haven't include to your dictionary as yet.

Next week, I'm only available on tues n thurs.Seems everybody's timing clashed. Unless, we allocate a saturday.
 


lol...i see, ally!

yea manz....but for me weekends are super previous - either family, or bf. cos weekdays, rarely c them la...

Ok ladies, how abt next thurs?

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Ally: That maid super daring....Really creeped me out for a sec to see someone hanging by the windows then...

Huichin: Next week, I'm ok with any day, except Friday. So Thursday looks good...

I think if I were to have already bought my parents' place, I'd also be over-zealous renovating my place. Um..I think Pergo brand of the flooring can be laid on top of your current flooring (without hacking). You may want to check it out?

Interrace: Wahh! You very fast already trying clothes out...? When is your PS? Mmm.....don't recall you mentioning to us when your wedding is?? *blur* Sooo exciting one of us getting married........!

Charsiew Rice: That's quite a distance still to drive from Punggol to Bishan. What with the peak morning traffic and all. Do you drive on your end to send your baby or does your hubby drive and you attend to your baby?

Elaine: Don't worry. I had to wait 2-3 weeks before I got my quote. June/middle July is the peak period for Malays to get married.

IC: Are you going to be able to join us for the meeting next week? It'll be good to have you join us too...
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Huichin,

Aiya!..next thurs me got exam at 6. But mayb can meet u all after my exam. Anyway, it will take me about 1 hr so shd end at 7. Thurs is fine with me. Any changes will get back to u by this wed.

Charsiew,

Ya man..distance no big joke. U send ur baby daily to ur mum's place?
 
Marnie
I started to drive with bb alone like two months back. But must make sure she's well-fed, diaper changed, etc.

Ally
Yeah, quite a long distance. bb ever cried during the journey, the recent one was when there was a super super big jam. panic man, but no choice lah.
 
Marnie,
I can't promise, yeah.

CharsiewRice,
if me sure panic... but you made your baby sit beside you right, next to the driver seat.
 
IC
Yeah, bb sits next to the driver seat. we don't remove that bb car seat, so if hubby and me in the car, one of us will sit behind, like rich man like that.
 
Hi gals..

Wow... so many posts to read yet so little time !! gosh.. anyway just drop a line to say helo to all.. will read it one by one when I am a little free later.. when are you gals meeting huh ?? I cant make it this week liow sorry
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I cant make it every tues, got to go back aunt place, let me know again ya... looks like quite diff to arrange a right timing ya.. hehe

Marnie..
Yeah lor.. I like got to beg him for quotation and beg him the time to meet me.. finally he got the time to meet me this coming sunday but in white sand .. wow lau so far.. nvm lor.. just go and listen to what he can give me.. thanks again Marnie..
 
CharsiewRice,
hahahah.. then if 2 ppl inside the car, the driver also have to attend to the baby?
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I know what you mean by don't remove the bb car seat. Quite troublesome to fix up right especially when you're in hurry.

Ladies,
just wondering, what do you look for in a guy before you marry him? Anyone regret marrying?(-> those who are married)
 
hi, i know this is pretty far out of the topic you are discussing right now.. but i need some advice..

im malay-chinese (but essentially malay) but my bf is chinese. hes serious abt me, and has been wanting to get married. and i gradually begin to like the idea of getting married to him.

but of course we cant just jump to our "happily ever after". i dunno how to go abt helping him convert.

and when he attends lessons, must i go along, and if i do, what is the proper attire.

pls help coz this is essential. my family is quite pious and does not really supporting my bf and i (ok mainly my grandma).

and i think if my bf were to take teh course from now, by the time hes done with NS, at least some work would already be done.

thanx..
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Da jia haoooo...

Charsiew,

So good ah ur baby..can sit in the car seat. Both my kids will struggle esp my little one. But now better both will either sit on the booster seat or usually we strap them up. Tats all.

IC,

Me get married when I'm 20..so wat u think..tat time still thinking - wah my hubby like prince charming - thin, thin, tall, tall, handsome(not so lah), well-mannered, parents say not he gallivanting type..hahaha!!! now..aiya!..tummy like preggie mth but always follow wat FIL say leh..sigh..if can.. I turn back clock..I would think twice on marrying that early. But then again..I wouldn't have my two angels rite?
 
Hi Gals,

How's ur tuesday been?
Me staying in Jurong E., ally.
Marnie, my AD in sep but photo shot this end mth, thus tried the gowns for the photo shoot.
Have not went to pick my ROMM kerbaya yet.

CharsiewRice, pei fu u leh, can drive alone with baby, can be quite stressful if ur little angel starts to cry. Hope that wouldnt happen.

Hi Shanobyl,
me chinese with malay FH (repeating myself, charsiewrice,look familiar bo? keke).
me gg through the conversion class now, actually is the beginners course of islam, introduction of islam and stuff, taking my salah class end of this mth.U may like to enrol ur bf for the orientation class first, it takes place every sunday at darul-arqam (www.darul-arqam.org).

http://www.befrienders.net/convert/c01.htm


actually i am also not very sure how my FH family feels abt me being chinese and converting, so far no major objection from both side.
Me getting married, so no regrets yet..haha..anyway, dun think will regret loh, cos i noe he is the one whom i wanna spend the rest of my life with, through good or bad times.
we noe each other for few yrs as frds before becoming a couple, so i do feel that he is my best frd and soulmate.Tend to take him for granted now and then though, cos we are so comfortable with each other.
I choose him cos he is a faithful and loving guy(shown from his r/s with his ex,another long story) and he is a SNAG .
Love is patient, love is kind...he is the love of my life...are you all freezing yet?
 
Hi everyone,

how abt fixing next Thursday on the 16th? at 7.15pm.

Hi Shanobyl,
u and ur bf sounded very young. Haven finish NS somemore! lol...okok back to da topic. 1st, ask him if he got interest into the religion Islam. THen u can heed Interrace's advise to go thru the conversion courses. TO give him more moral support, it's better if u can go attend the classes with him, and it helps u to understand how a convert-to-be goes thru this process when u dun really know much abt this part. If ur bf is keen on the religion and being with you, of course, i dun see y ur family cant accept him
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Like for my case, same like Interrace. Me being chinese and my bf malay, i took up the course on my own will, without anyone asking. Haven convert yet though. Cos i wanna know more abt the religion 1st b4 i do it. therefore it's really up to every individual abt the timing of starting for classes...

Hope this helps!

And
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Interrace,

oh..u stay J.E..icic.

Huichin,

Thurs no prob with me..anybody else?

Shanobyl,

welcome,welcome!I'm also a mix (ch n mly). But hubby malay. Hmm..as wat huichin said, best is u also go for the same class for morale boosting. Ya hor, ur bf still NS...how young are you?
 
Ally,
Hahah..guess at that age, looks and feelings play more important role!
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Interrace,
wah..yes..freezing man.. suddenly feel like i'm in antartica. All my hair stand the moment i read.
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Shanobyl,
yes, it doesn't come happily ever after so easily. wow..you sound so young. Does he really want to convert & change his lifestyle? Can he accept that? Can his family accept that? Can your family accept that? Usually at the converts association, a lot of ppl covered up (wear the headscarf) if that is where you leading at. But if you don't, dress decently. Don't wear spagetthi straps to go there. Definitely will have strong glares.
 
IC,

But all is not too bad lar..Most impt, my hubby got responsibility wor!! I do have some of my classmates who got married a yr earlier than me to guys who are like 9 - 10 yrs older. That time, I thot, WAH!! married to these type of guys - mature, financially stable, no worries.. can live like tai-tai liao..But then - I'm wrong..now one by one asking for divorce - turns out their hubbies no sense of responsibility. Wifeys have to be the breadwinners. Sick rite?
 
Ally,
I agree. Doesn't mean marry older guys they can be mature or financially stable. Sometimes, it can be the other way round.
 
IC,

Yup, he is protective of his younger sis. Very helpful indeed. Mayb its bcos of the 4 yrs gap. Ya..they are in my childcare.
 
hi every one.. yeap me and my bf are pretty young.. only 21.. but we've been together for 2 years plus.

thanx for the advice.

i just wanna know what to do so we can better plan for the future. and yeap im very scared abt pressurising him.

he said its fine with him, but i have the jitters u see. i mean, im taking him into an unfamiliar realm.

his parents are fine with it. but i feel really bad abt making him go thru this route.. he must love me alot to want to go thru this.

rest assured i will go to the classes with him, so he wont feel too left out..
 
Ally,
Just wondering, when you got married at that tender age, did you have any objections from your parents? Coz i know chinese parents don't really like their kids to marry so young.

Shanobyl,
Why you feel so guilty for? Relax.. you guys still young. His parents maybe fine NOW. But you haven't seen nothing yet. Probably later on when they realize you guys are SERIOUS. Becoz to parents, they think probably it's just bf-gf relationship. Won't lasts.. Yah..this moment now all love. But it takes more than that into marriage.
 
Good Morning!!!

IC,

My dad was actually against the idea. Cos he wanted me to finish my studies b4 getting married. So my hubby was under a whole lot of 'grilling procedures'. In the end my dad relented.
 
Interrace..

Sorry for the late post ya... my shorter block actually already 5 years of age, just that few units still empty, so last year they open to public for walk in selection, just beside dawnson place, not the white ones you are talking about, as when i select my flat, white still under constuction. One of my friend's brother got the white ones, WOW.. he got it at five hundred over thousand for 5 rooms flat.. aiyo.. so expensive can get a condo liow... your reno added up to be 11k very cheap lei.. what does it come with ?? hows your class doing so far ??

Ally... your children is really cute ya.. hehehe...
 
Ally,
i think i know what is your friend's childcare centere..Yasmine@ frankel early learning centre at siglap plain. Do you know any malay/muslim infantcare? So far, i've not come across a single malay/muslim infantcare in singapore.
 
IC,

Malay/muslim infantcare - none so far. Mostly secular type one lar. But will help u check it out. Preferably which area that ur comfortable with?
 
Shanobyl,

wah..ur still quite young..Have lots more to explore. I agreed with IC. Now both of u still bf-gf stage. His parents may not have any qualms about it. But to have a son converting to another religion esp Islam, u may need to confront a lot of prob. If both of u are serious about each other muz be prepared for such 'bombard-ment'.
 
Good afternoon gals!!

Ur daughter look so cute in the bikini,Ally!!
she sure is busy at school...
ur children both look so adorable in that shot, think is a joy to have children hor.
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Hi elaine,
no problem on the reply, take ur time always!!
oh i noe which blk u are at liaoz.Wa, ur frd's bro very rich hor..the five room only diff from the 4 room is the living room slightly bigger only.Paying for the location i guess...too ex for me liaoz, tat time din even consider 5 room,cos 4 room is very ex for me liaoz.
btw, my reno only include shoe cabinet, kitchen cabinet,MBR cupboard, MBR toilet vanity cupboard, plus the paintings for the whole hse, camo of the bomb shelter and the other pumbling works and electrical stuff.

Ytd went to visit the mosque, so finishing my BCI 1 next wk, gg for the solah class thereafter.
Haiz,just worried abt the evaluation part only..tks for asking though elaine. Hope will be able to do well..
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Ally,
What you mean by secular? What i meant is an infantcare own by a malay/muslim. Not those religious childcare like jamiyah where the toddlers go to sch have to wear tudung. I'm comfortable with east area.
 
Interrace..
Dont be too stress up about the evalulation.. if not it will be more tough, you know like a keong cheong spider ?? haha ... shouldnt be a problem for you.. will you be going for the BCI 2 ?? that will be maybe after your wedding la.. lots to prepare before hand sia... but do you know if you dont pass the evalution, they will not ROMM you.. so work hard sia...
 
hi. my wedding is tentatively planned between 8 months to a year from now. i'm a malay and my fiance will begin his conversion courses soon. in the meantime i'm left to sort out the wedding details - can anyone recommend a good malay bridal package? i don't need anything too fancy - just looking at 2/3 outfits with the services of the make-up artist for two days only. thanks.
 
Hi Elaine

there WAS a BCI 2 leh...wanted to con't after completing my BCI 1, but i was told by the bookshop uncle that it was put on hold, and when i called, was told the same thing too.

Ally: which childcare are u from and where? u working there or u own it? heh..kaypoh ah...

ok ladies,
so how's the meetup? tentatively set next wk can? but we confirm the day again next mon or something...cos so far..haven get real answers from u all leh...still wanna meet up?

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IC,

Secular means - no religious teaching in the centre. Okie, east side ah? I check with my other frens if they know of any. Mostly infantcare chinese owner or NTUC.

Huichin,

My school -PlaySchool Childcare Centre. Me working there as the principal (save money abit)n a partner too.
 
Huichin,

*Ally lifting up her hand eagerly*

Me can! Me can!

*Calling for Marnie, Elaine, Interrace, IC*

YOO HOO!! U all can or not?
 
*puts hand up* Me me me!

Of course I can...except Monday, Tuesday and Friday....So left only Wednesday and Thursday. *sigh*

Eh...sorry for giving you girls only 2 days to play around....Paiseh.

Welcome welcome Cuclainne & Shanobyl!
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I haven't been a good forummer lately - work has been too hectic and chaotic. Bleh...

Cuclainne: I think I gave Interrace a few contacts for bridal shops. Interace just signed up with www.zulradibridal.com You can also try RH Bridal at Arab Street? Modern and quite okay pricings.
 
Thanks Marnie. I am interested in a few with Versade Adi being on the top of my list - just not sure how the prices/ packages are. I thought the package by Anggun Andaman is just a bit too steep for me - $1888.
 
Cuclainne: Versare Ade is not bad. Not too sure about the price package though...cos' the rest of the girls will know that I am contesting Huichin for the "cutest" body in this thread...
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so have to make to measure.
 
Morning all!!

Elaine,i will try not to be too gan cheong.
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got to pass cos i already booked my romm date, die die have to go through with flying colors.xixi!tks for the tip though.

Welkum cuclainne!!
Like what marnie had mentioned, i signed up with zulradi.Went to fatimah monshih(like their gowns but their attitude sucks), inai gallery(service is superb but gown not very trendy), went to mona J(nice gown and service but their package slightly more ex than fatimah ones)
Din went to Versade Adi , only called to enquire abt package, they are on the high side.

Cos for me,am only having a one day event, only two outfit is enuff, and one day make up artist.

Guess u still have plenty of time to source ard.
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Take ur time loh ..i wish i got time too, but for me is quite last min. liaoz.
 
marnie: "cutest" body? will have to fill me in on this.
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interrace: i made a list of places to enquire packages from and made my mom in charge of the calling. hehehehe - gives her something to do mah. at the moment, only planned for ROMM and sunday lunch. FH wants dinner but that depends if his family/ friends are coming down to attend - otherwise we'll just have a small reception back home lor. why did you say fatimah mohsin staff's attitude sucks?
 
Goooood Afternoon ladies!!

How's Thursday so far? Sigh..mine - alot of prob esp staff probs (but then again which company dont have such prob?).

IC,

Dun mention. I cant promise much tho'.
 
Hi gals..

Please count me in if your are meeting next wed, thurs I might got to work late but still not sure yet hehe..

Cuclainne..
I agreed with interrace, fatimah attitude really sucks, went to expo for their exhibition somewhere last month, they dun serve you with their smiling face, they never explain their package in detail, simply face black black la...
Anyway I signed up with Inai bridal, as they are quite cheap, will be going to try theic costumes next monday.. will bring the photos with me if we meet up, please give some comments ok gals ?? can ?? hehe..

Huichin..
BCI2 on hold is it due to not enough students to start a class ?? if I am not wrong, this course got to pay right ?? I shall find out more and see what they say ya..

Interrace..
Gam Ba Teh !!!.. hehehe
 
I just checked out this website - http://www.urusanpengantin.com and found some bridal packages that seem worth looking into. My colleague had told me before that Fatimah Mohsin packages are really expensive but the costumes seem pretty nice. Mmmmm... attitude hah.

Elaine, you must show me the photos you take of your costumes. Must be very nice one
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Hi cuclaine,

First time i went,the lady who served us,no smile,no initiative to show us the packages they have.We questioned then she answered.
Fine, i tot cos i am chinese so she look down on me or smthg.

Then 2nd visit,the part time gal was slightly more pleasant, quite okie with her.

3rd time, wanted to place deposit, asked one of the well-groomed lady if can take a look at their costumes, then she look at us with her nose (u noe those nose pointing high high in the air type).After we are done, she asked sacrastically "oh u have finished looking at the gowns(in malay)" wa, my FH cannot stand that tone she used, in the end, we din booked package with them.
Their customes are very very modern and nice i must admit, but their attitude really sucks, so disappointed.I love their gowns the most.

Hi elaine,
Thanks!!
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That bad huh - then I know my FH would definitely not want me to book a package with them, no matter how good their costumes look. Thanks for the warning!
 
Maybe u might not face this kinda attitude from them.
U can still go and have a look, since u still got plenty of time.
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Maybe their service attitude have improved these few days leh..
 
Ally: icic..u're a principal! so kool! like my fren too! hoho...

haha...peeps, how abt Thurs? Lemme know who can make it k.

Elaine: really ah? then must check again liao. hoho....

Marnie: i really hope i can slim down more by my big day leh...Next yr maybe Sep/Oct 2005.

U all think achievable? Sighsss...
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Huichin,

The job....sounds cool..but it is not! Aiya! always kena sandwich from top n bottom. But its nice working with kiddies, lar. Are u in any weight loss program or not? err..pardon my directness. After my second delivery, I also put on alot of weight like....32kg. From 50kg to a hefty 82kg. Wah biang, my hubby calls me humpty dumpty (really leh..looked like one!)After birth only managed to lose less than 10 kg (my little girl quite small)..Sigh..so all those while mummy's eating up all the nutrients.. After trying out all sorts of diets - I went to my family doctor n he recommended reductil. Now I'm about 59 - 60 kg. Still trying to get back in shape!

Cuclainne,

Welcome, welcome! Good luck on ur preps!

Gurls,

Thurs meeting, me confirm. *Confirm booking with Huichin for seat on Thursday* Hehehe..But can meet u all at 7.30-ish like tat.
 


interace: perhaps we can look at this as an experiment. let me try to get in touch with them and see how their attitude is. will let you know.

huichin: hi to you too. is your AD next year?

ally: sounds like i'm in the running for the "cutest" body too. I weigh 67kg now - put on a bit more weight since i came back from holiday. hehehehe. must lost some weight so can wear nice clothes for my wedding, right.
 

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