Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

Girls,
Eh..don't say Geylang Geylang..must say Geylang Serai. Coz to the chinese, Geylang is red light area. So you mentioned Geylang, 1st thing that pop into their head is the red light area. Coz some chinese equate that area as prostitute territory or low class ppl (including my in-laws lah)
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Remember hor, must say Geylang Serai
 


Ladies,

I'm officially off duty for the rest of the week. Darn! My camera went bonkers last nite so later have to quickly rush to Harvey Norman n get a new one. After tat is cooking time!

Shld I have got no time to come in later at home..wishing u gals -

SELAMAT HARI RAYA!! n MAAF ZAHIR BATIN

Enjoy ur Raya!! Dun eat too much hor..muz 'jaga badan' ya?!!

See you gals next Mon!!
 
Selamat HaRI Raya ladies!!! Sorries my wishes came soo late...me on 'leave' on the 3rd and 5th...so did got chance to go online! heh...my com at home rosak la...lol

how's everyone's holiday??
 
Hi Huichin!

So how were your hols? I'm very sleepy cos' I didn't take leave at all apart from the public holidays. Didn't do much visiting. Instead went around looking at bedroom sets and wedding bands - YEAY! Meraj is finally getting used to the idea of wearing a wedding band.
 
Hui Chin, hope you've had a good time with your leave and all ... how was your visiting and such?

Marnie, me too - sooo sleepy now!! Lucky you that Meraj is saying ok to the wedding band. I'm still facing a bit of opposition from Ah Boy (I know he's allergic to metal but rings are ok, what!) but I think I might get my way eventually... heheheh.
 
Selamat hari Raya to all....

Sorry for not posting, been soooo danm busy, helping in-law with the cookies baking,plus PC at work fall sick, so as me jus one week before raya.. Aiyo !!! how's everyone ?? really miss reading all posts here, didnt managed to reall every post lei, during Raya, my in-law and her whole kampong relatives came to my place to have dinner, me panic man.. first time cooking for 30 persons and my malay cooking is so lousy compared to them.. really cold sweat man .. luckily everything seen over and should be able to come back to my normal life.. hahahaha
 
SELAMAT HARI RAYA!!

How's ur holidays? Me back from Malacca at 3.30 am last nite..n back to work today..
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Marnie,

Wah..so any specific wedding bands that u have in mind?

Hi Elaine,

So wat did u cook for Hari Raya?
 
Ally..

Your eyes must be half open now, poor gal..
Me cook sambal chicken wings,sambal ikan, and curry prawns.. prepared some agar agar for kids la.. that night was really like war at my place sia.. told them to come after 730pm, they came before 7pm.. make me kalang kabo... 6 families came and each with at least 4 pax.. nearly fainted, but luckily everything went smoothly as when they left my place at about 11pm.. i was like phew !!! hahahaha.. is like a pratical test for me.. hopefully i pass !!! hahaha
 
Elaine,

U bet!! My eyes are like panda eyes now..Practically every nite came back home at such wee hours. So tiring!!

Can understand how u felt. 6 families at one go..phew! no big joke..sure can pass one lah! So far any comments from them?
 
Wah Elaine, you should have invited us too .. then can create more chaos for you. Heheheh .. just joking la! I'm sure you've passed with flying colours la...

You sure travelled far for your Hari Raya visiting, Ally.
 
Cuclainne,

Bo bian, my husband's relatives are mostly in Malacca.

Tonite have to make sure..I plonked in early to catch up on my sleep
 
Elaine,
Salute you!
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I hope i won't face such ordeal when i have my own house. But currently already faced such thing at my parent's house! Argh!
 
Wah piang Elaine! I salute you girl! Cooking for 30 people is no mean feat man - I think you pass already....the mere mention of those foods, even I'm salivating right now!
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Ally, very havoc eh at Raya.....
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But Raya-ing at kampong shiok right? So when can I plonk at your place to eat?
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(I sound like such a pig right?)

Cuclainne & Ally : Both Meraj and I will go for platinum since the engagement ring he got me is in platinum. Plus for muslim man, platinum is the way to go lah. We're both looking at plain bands. We both want matt but when we tried on a couple last night, he says, it will look best if I take the normal shiny platinum to match the engagement ring. We'll see though.

Cuclainne, platinum is hypo-allergenic so Ah Boy has got no excuse. You can always work on him with your assets lah...wink wink and bat eyelids a bit like what Ally suggest. And if all else fails, tell him you'll go on diet and there'll be no more tummy roll for him - that ought to get him to agree to it!
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K, Girls, so the next few weeks, I will be busy building my wedding website. If anyone is interested to build it, I'd recommend www.weddingannouncer.com - it's free without any ads or pop-ups. And idiot-proof!

IC, how was your Raya with baby in tow?
 
Wah Ally, even I didn't feel like going visiting round relatives' home in Singapore and you went all the way to Malacca .. wah, salute you la!

Hahahaha Marnie. I know it's mean but I told him that I was beginning to be feel allergic to the engagement ring HE wants ME to wear all the time ... so now he's changed his mind and said it's up for discussion. At least it's a step yah!
 
Cuclainne, Meraj and I are wanting to go to that just to see what's offering in the Singapore version cos' we went to the one in AUS a couple of times.
 
Marnie,

Raya at kampong - ya shiok..but journey from house to house is really jialat. Furthermore, my place is in Senawang - 1 1/2 hr journey to Malacca, daily to n fro kampong is really tedious! But the trip was worth the while..the lemang and dodol was simply yummy-licious!!

Talking about plonking at my place - are u girls free on this Sunday?
 
marnie,
This year is the first time i didn't get to go much visiting because of the baby. You know lah, with baby around, the baby controls our time not the other way around. His feeding time, his changing of diapers, his sleeping time etc. But i think most of the relatives understand lah. Coz anyway, once upon a time, they also had a baby with them.

cuclainne,
What is that? Selling sex stuffs ah?
 
Wah Marnie, you went a few times? Heheheeh ... we don't have enough adult novelty stores here ah. FH and I went to one in London cos he said those are better than the ones you'd find in Sweden .. the ones in Stockholm are so discreet that I didn't even know that there's a shop there.

Where is your place, Ally?
 
Hi all..

Hope u guys have had an enjoyable Hari Raya...me so tired, everyday sleep at 2 am plus...sigh,..but it was enjoyable always laughing

Ally
Wah so shiok raya at kampong...!! must be so much fun..

IC
how old if ur baby? gal or boy/
 
Ally ... waaah, you should really try to get that driving licence to drive your car ah ... at the other end of the island from me la.

Exciting times or not, IC? Hehehehe ...
 
Hi Cuclainne! ahha...mine was not bad..cos i took leave...so had time to take a gd rest. Had gone for visiting here and there, but hor...still longing to go for a <blink>REAL</blink> holiday! like my HR manager just send me a reminder to CLEAr my leave! haha..

Had abit of sore throat, so got alil' restriction on eating the goodies! lol...

ELAINE: jia you! haha..so nice u can learn to cook malay food! haha..i want...got any good receipe? haha..like sambal prawns, ayam chili api (i think), and etc?? hehe...

Sunday...Ally: can try to arrange hor! haha..who can make it this sunday? Ally u gonna prepare nice yummy stuff for us izzit? hehe..(i berry evil, who wants to cook on a Sunday? hehe)

Girls, Sunday @ Ally's for 'jalan raya'. haha..anyone? say, afternn abt 2-3pm?
 
Hello everyone... hope i'm not intruding coz it seems tt u peeps are so chummy wif each other &amp; hv known one another for a long time. I seldom post messages and got to know of this thread by chance. Hope u dont mind me joining in... hehehh... Hope to get to know &amp; share information with u..
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I'll be marrying a Chinese next yr but so far he hasnt reli got a Muslim name yet. Any idea which sites we can go to, to see see look look? I'm also looking for a photographer &amp; videographer during the wedding. I'd like those stylo stylo one like those engaged by the Chinese during their weddings lah... Any recommendations? Btw which BS are u all engaging?
 
Hui Chin, wah you still have leave ah. I took 2 months no-pay to go to Sweden and when I came back, the HR ate up all my leave for the year(!!!) even though they said that it's going to be pro-rated. Until now they haven't rectified it yet so not sure how much leave I really have but I heck care when Ah Boy was here - went on leave for two weeks. Hahahahaha. Evil ...

Hi Sandra, welcome welcome.

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How much have you planned so far?
 
Chin &amp; Ally, me me me!!!
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I should be able to make it cos' my relatives are coming on Saturday so I can help my mom out in the kitchen. So Sunday I can stuff my face like a pig!
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Cuclainne, must be prepared mah....
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Welcome welcome Sandra!
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We're all one big happy family here. A couple of us have met over a pig out session and a wedding. Have been trying to arrange another meet up session, hopefully we can all make it to Ally's.

Aye..don't worry...I think all of us here like the stylo mylo photographer and videographer. You can ask the mommies here - Ally, IC and Lilies. The newly married Elaine or Interrace (where is Interrace by the way?). Huichin, Cuclainne, Zierella and myself will be married next year and in Huichin's case, early 2007. Can share share ideas. Hs your FH converted and have you guys set the date yet? *kaypoh Idyll emerges*
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Cuclainne,
Oh...
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. Aiya..no need all these stuffs lah! Ehem....

Sandra,
Welcome to the thread!
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. I give you a welcome flag later ah... coz now using another computer.
Firstly, define your stylo mylo. Because seriously i don't find all chinese bs stylo mylo. Maybe to you as a malay is something different. But if you compare with the chinese friends, you'll find that almost all have the similar package that is WG, EG, Kua (Either MTM or OTR). And almost all will have similar photoshoots for outdoor location. Their photography quite similar. Majority of chinese bs follow Taiwanese fashion. Usually those cheena ones give you value for money package. And the sales personnel like your designer and make-up artist cannot speak english. If by luck, you get lah. There are some upmarket bridal studio such as Dang, Ted Wu, Tan Yoong, Bridal Veil, Flamingo. These kind of bs their sales personnel / designer / make-up artist can speak english. And usually these kind of bs budget around $4k above. And don't expect to get baju kurung or nice kebaya there. Some even don't have such outfits. So for malay outfits, either you tailor-made or you have to get it from malay bs.
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My personal experience, i was with Golden Horse Awards bs. (partly to please my in-laws. What a dumber i was. Crap..shouldn't have done that when i think of it now.) Quite cheena bs but luckily my designer can speak english. However, my make-up artist for the PS cannot speak english as she's from Taiwan. But my AD make-up artist could speak. Spend nearly $3.8K with GST (if i can remember correctly).

Based also on experience, you should get your venue first. Because the designer will definitely ask where you are going to hold your wedding. And from there, he will design your gown to suit the theme and venue. (if you take MTM). So, if you're going to hold it in a restaurant, he'll probably design something that suits the restaurant venue. If you'll holding a malay wedding, seriously, if you go cheena bs, they'll be blur. But those upmarket ones, they'll probably think of something. IMO, if having a malay wedding, it doesn't suit. Coz the package is usually for 1 day event.

What you mean which sites to "look-see"2X? As in finding muslim names? If finding muslim names, can always get a book on muslim names from the The Converts Association of Singapore bookshop. (Darul Arqam). Doesn't cost much and in fact you can even keep the book for future use like naming for your children.
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Talking about children's names ... did you ever cast much thought on that?

FH keeps saying that he wants a boy but maybe a girl is better ??? I even picked out a name ... hehehehe ... I know, I have way too much time on my hands.
 
Hehehehe ... how many names did you come up with? Me and Ah Boy have agreed on the name for a girl but we're still stuck when it comes to a boy's name.
 
Woohoo.. this thread sure is very active
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! I didnt expect such a warm welcome fm u ppl (so touched.. heeehee).. and such quick replies! Wow IC sure live up to her mommy title.. thanks for the very detailed advise... xiexie nie..

Basically FH &amp; I hv more or less settled most stuff. FH converted recently
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but so far has not found a Muslim name that is 'it'. Saw such books at Darul Arqam but the names indicated are kinda err.. boring
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We went to spore expo last June, if i'm not mistaken, and we kinda did our 'one-stop shopping' and booked our BS and reception venues, as our AD is next July. A bit regret lah... coz right now I feel tt we shld hv looked ard somemore before making the downpayments. Saw Fatimah Mohsin's works &amp; outfits, &amp; I kinda like them. But sayang leh, want to forfeit the downpayment FH made to Inai
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. Oh yah, anyone has any comments abt Inai?

We hv also engaged a Chinese bridal studio to take our pics BEFORE the wedding. FH feels we shld go for it as it'll be strange if the Chinese dinner reception does not showcase any of our wedding pics. I know this is not the norm for Malay weddings.. but it's kinda nice to hv them during the dinner itself yah? But IC is rite... the Malay costumes tt they hv are.. urgghh.. darn ugly! So we might hv to simply pick one of theirs or bring our own.

We are still sourcing for AD photographer &amp; videographer. Wat I meant by stylo is that, the Chinese photographers tend to take pics which are more artistic while the Malay photographers are more 'traditional' in the sense that they like to instruct all the relatives taking pics with bride &amp; bridegroom to stand straight like soldiers before snapping away
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. Any idea wats the 'market rate' for videographers and photographers? I kinda like wat I see in this site: www.flipside.com.sg. I was told they chrg abt $900-$1800. Ok not? Advise pleeeease..
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IC,

speak like a true blue wedding planner..hmm..mayb u shd consider tat leh..

Sandra

Hi! welcome.. If I read thru ur post correctly - ur looking for a stylo mylo photographer/videographer. U can browse thru our archives, the girls here do mention a few photographers + BS.

Regarding about Muslim names - not only u can get at the Converts association but most muslim bookshops or jamu shops do sell such books. Pick out a comprehensive one n u will be spoilt for choice.

Marnie, Cuclainne,

Alamak..now aredi thinking of choosing baby's name liao ah?

When come to my time - I had trouble choosing names. Hubby had two names, so he wanted the same for his kids..+ both kids muz start with the same alphabet. I had taken a liking for the name Danial but too bad there isn't much meaning to it except for its a prophet's name. sigh..Instead we name our boy Danish.. Now both my kids' name are as long as a choo-choo train....kekeke

so let me tabulate - currently. Hui Chin, Marnie can make it to my place on Sunday. How bout the rest?
 
Sandra, you mean you want the journalistic AD pictures yes? I've engaged a Chinese photographer. He's listed on the Singapore Brides. And he's Malaysian so can speak Malay with all my makcik pakcik and yet modern and open to fit Meraj and I and our hip friends.
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We've "interviewed" a few AD photographers so let me know if you need any other help.

I've also met up with Nor of Flipside. And their prices are really tempting. Their quality of work is also good (very MTV style). The only problem we have with them is that they do not return the entire raw footage which Meraj wants cos' he wants to pass them on to his film director brother to work on. So we're still sourcing for videographer. I feel though that I need to engage a good videographer who is versed with the malay culture and Flipside is it. Hmmmpppff.....think I need to work my charms on Meraj....

Cuclainne, I need lessons from you to charm my darling lah...
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So far Nur-Iffa Zahira if a girl. Need to think more for a boy - tough one!
 
Hello!
Hi, Can I pleeease join this thread too?? I chanced upon it and you gals all sound so warm and helpful.. I am getting married in Aug 06 and everything here is what I've been thinking about day in day out. Only catch is I'm not marrying out of my race or culture.. I'm Malay-Muslim and FH is same-same lah.. hehe.. Been planning our wedding and doing a LOT of research.. will be glad to share and also get some views.. you gals sure have a lot of ideas!! So can I join??
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Ally

Hahahahaha, must spend our time doing something mah. Hehehehe. Ah Boy's name is also very long ... three first names and surname.

Marnie

We have decided that our kids(s) should have Swedish/ Malay names so for a girl, we have decided on Ulrika Nadra. If it's a boy, he want the boy to have his first name (which is also his Dad's name) and I wanted the name Johan. Still on the drawing board.
 
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Nur....you're lucky we're not imposing any club membership fees...
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Of course you can come join us in this thread. The more the merrier eh? So give us a low down of your preps/research so far.

Cuclainne, yeah....Bengoli/Urdu (an ancient language some Bangladeshi people still use) names are very much Persian/Arabic in nature so it ultimately sounds very much similar to er..malay names, for a lack of a better word. Zahira is a very Bengoli/Urdu name. What I'm thinking about is whether I want the "Bin" or "Binte" or use their family name as it has been practised in Bangladesh.

Aye...me want to learn from you the art of "charming" to just "sway" Meraj into agreeing to engage Flipside. I thought hunting for AD photographer was difficult. Looking for an AD videographer is hellish...!
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Sandra, sorry girl, I think I must have missed out on the last part of your question. I've engaged Rouz Couture as my BS. You can click on my "nickname" and see who else are my wedding vendors. That ought to give you a "feel" of Meraj's and my tastes.
 
Marnie

Will you be using the 'bin' or 'binte'? My nephew didn't and I don't think that I will use that too..

My kid(s) are going to grow up so confused ... Swedish name or Malay name? A friend of mine asked me this the other night and I was also unsure ... hahahahaha.

Waaah ... I still haven't decided who to engage for the photos ... very stressed now.

Sandra

I went to have a look at Padi and Rias Andaman about two weeks ago. Padi didn't impress me with their service (the ladies at the expo were more helpful *false impression?* hahahahaha). The lady at Rias Andaman was very patient and she even let me try the clothes, even though I didn't make any commitment to sign up with her.

Just not sure if I should go and have a look at other places too ..
 
Ally, I will try to come to your place this Sun ... you're going to present a feast for us, right?

Hehehehe ... tak malu when it comes to food!!!
 
Cuclainne, Meraj and I are likely to omit the "Bin" and/or "Binte" so it'll be Nur-Iffa Zahira Huda. Wah...I just realise all "a" sounding names...
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You engaging someone for your ROMM and then another one for your wedding day right? You better get a move on then girl!
 
Cuclainne, I think his prices are okay for the quality of pictures he takes. He charges me S$1K for a whole day shoot with photos in slot in album with all pictures in CD in black &amp; white and one in colour.

If it's a 6-hour, I think it's S$500 or so but that is without hardcopies. If half day, I think it'll be cheaper if you just develop the photos yourself cos' he charges S$150.00 extra to develop about 200 photos (when it would cost about S$100.00 for 200 4R photos) - need to check my email from him. Let me know if you need to see the quotes he gave.
 
Cuclainne
The name ulrika nadra is soooo cool...very unique! For AD photography actually there are lots of good ones in the market and i agree that malay photographers are kinda boring always take the ones with people already posed for the pics,..nothing interesting...anyways u should try wedwedwed..i kinda like it...
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marnie..can give me the quote from eulee also? did u take any videographer yet?

Marnie..that name is sooo cool too! wah u all planning ur kids' names already? heheh

Sandra and Nur..WElcome welsome
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I've sent the quotations to you Cuclainne.

Zieralla, thanks for the compliments. Leave me your email addy so I can forward them to you? I've not engaged any videographer yet. I'm still hunting for one that speaks to both Meraj and I.
 
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