Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

Well, they've asked for his CV now so we're keeping our fingers crossed. In any event, he's trying his best with other applications too so we'll see what happens. I miss him leh ...

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Aiyoh...at the end of the day today, I felt so brain drained that I didn't trudge my way to Fancy Paper.
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Oh well, just as well, I can work on my "soft" Save-The-Dates. Need to have that sent off beginning of July (and it's already the first tomorrow! EEKKKKK!)

Elaine : I have re-sent the email. The list is in .doc attachment to the email. Let me know if you can/cannot open it.

Ally : Wah....can REALLY be a tai tai liao....Can cheong for a few weeks. Such a luxury...I am just dreading the fact that my office is embargoing everyone's leave for 2 months cos' of the move....

Huichin : Come 3 October, I am not going to be your neighbour on Shenton Way. Me going to be on Robinson Road liao...got shiok, downstairs got Starbuck's! Everyday can "eat snake" there....
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K Girls, pretend that you did not hear that I just said that.....
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Cuclainne : Oh yippee!!! Good good. Keep us updated then we can have congratulatory cheers when he gets it. (Anything to go cheong after work lah...
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Eh...you Girls notice how today everyone is rather "productive" at work (thus not much posts here)?? Real or not you Girls? I won't tell if you won't tell.....
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Yah la - today a bit busy because end of the month, rosters have to be sent out .. people falling sick all of the sudden .. that sort of thing. Hehehehe ...

Excuse to cheong?? Always la ...
 
Good morning girls...

So yesterday, I was determined to do some actual work on my invites, Save-The-Dates and have come up with a design. *drumroll please*

I've posted it here - http://www.alifeextraordinary.com/love.htm Please let me have your comments Girls.

Essentially, Meraj and I wanted to do some sort of photoblog of everything about Singapore and us (so as to entice our overseas guests to quick make that travel reservations!). Of course, there'll be the mandatory writes-up. Just not worked everything out except for the welcome page which conveniently I have not put up.
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Dunno where to have the wedding site hosted - another headache..

Woo hooo Frrriiiiidaaaaaayyyyyyyy!
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Marnie - so VERY VERY nice one. I wish I have the patience for doing something like that. Very unique leh ... two thumbs up.

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Yay! Today can go cheong after work ...
 
Cuclainne : Me happy....cos' Meraj is in town..but rather busy at work. Plus all the "side" work I am doing re. the wedding and helping Meraj out with the one.org.sg

Have lunch and working (and posting posts!) all at the same time!

What happened to the rest of the girls, huh?
 
hallooo!!

me very bz these few days..juz dropping in to say hi only..now muz rush for classes liao...

c ya..have a nice weekend!!
 
Allo Girls! (((HUG))) Miss you girls!

K. I got my mas kahwin/mehr (after much going around from Geylang to Orchard Road to Serangoon Road! (One more thing off the To-Do Wedding List) Finally settled on a necklace - all gold 916. Gold price is going down a bit, for your info.

Anyways, Huichin, Cuclainne, Elaine, found out for you girls that the next Malay Bridal Fair is at Singapore Expo from 28 July to 31 July. I suggest, if want to go, we do it on Friday (29th July). Let me know k?

Lani : Can tell your sis to go take a look at the Expo so at least she can survey survey. Best to go to the bridal shops before the fair to see and feel and try their dresses. At the fair can get promos, if offered.
 
marnie,
Thanks for the suggestion - will ask my sis to do so. Aiyah...she ah...giving us headache. She very fussy liao!!

Now she tells us she wants to design her own wedding outfit - a kebaya-inspired gown. Plus, her fiance also said he doesn't want to wear baju kurung or those songket outfits with tanjak and keris, but instead wants an Asian-inspired suit. Never mind lah, let them both settle their own outfits lah!

And most likely we might have the wedding reception at Tepak Sireh, as they both like the idea of having everything done there.

Anyone here know of anyone who had wedding reception there before and can therefore give me feedback?
 
Hi Lani,
Isn't wearing baju kurung or songket outfits an asian suit as well. Can just wear those without the tanjak or keris.
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Good morning Girls! How was your weekend?

Lani : I've been to 3 weddings at Tepak Sireh - one a sit down banquet dinner and twice a lunch buffet. I don't recommend the lunch buffet as I went about 3 pm once and the food was already running out! Dinner is okay cos' it' banquet style and they provision the food properly to the no. of the pax. The food is alright, I suppose cos' ultimately, I think you are paying for the ambience and the experience of dining in a historical place.

IC : Wah....long time never see you leh....You've been busy with your baby, huh?
 
ic,
He wants to wear a Western suit but the design is slightly Asian lah. He's not comfortable wearing baju kurung or songket...

marnie,
Yah, I heard the same thing too - that food has a chance of running out around 3pm! Aiyoh...like that how ah?? How many guests were at the wedding you attended? How is the standard of food? What dishes did they serve? We planning to have max around 200-300 guests. Do you think the same thing will happen again?? Cialak lah if food run out before guests have eaten - very malu you know!!
 
Lani If 200 to 300 pax, I suggest your sis go for banquet (minimum 200). If you take buffet , it's a minimum 1000 pax (plus run the risk of the food running low). I had their menus/packages somewhere but have to rummage through to see if I have it still.

The food is okay. Not fantastic (personally) but like I said, you pay for the ambience and the fact that it's a historical place.
 
Well, I was given this advice by a close friend of mine .. to never let it be that "everyone enjoys your wedding except you".

I know that planning for a wedding can be quite stressful (accommodating people's feelings/ opinions and such) but never forget, it is YOUR special day after all.
 
*agrees with Cuclainne*

That's why Meraj and I are not having the sappy mushy love songs at our reception! (So not us...
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I think if I had left the music arrangements to Elias, he'd probably have synth songs played all night ... lol

But luckily, his Dad had planned to play some music at our dinner - Father is a jazz musician. Maybe if I ask him nicely, he might compose something original for us? Yippee!!
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Cuclainne : Awwww......How sweet of Elias' dad!
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Yes, yes, you can always flash a sweet smile and just sweetly request for an original....
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You wouldn't believe it but our music is going to be soo eclectic - from 60s to current. I'm just wondering how my parents are going to take it all in.
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marnie,
You mean if take lunch buffet at Tepak Sireh must have minimum 1000pax? But the brochure my mum has says their venue can accomodate up to 500 guests only...so how can they fit in 1000?

We definitely won't have a sit-down banquet - you know how some Malays are lah, they are not used to an "allocated seating" banquet-style wedding. You invite the husband and wife only and allocate 2 seats for them, end up they bring the whole family to the wedding! We can forsee problems with this system...

Just yesterday, my parents went to a Malay wedding dinner at Crown Prince Hotel - same thing happened lah. My mum said got some guests brought the whole family to the wedding(ie. 3-4 kids), end up no seats for the kids (of course lah!) and they had to sit on the adults' laps...
 
Lani : The venue can accomodate 500 pax at one time. If it is a buffet - it's a come and go as you please system. As the buffet is not a one-time seating, they have a minimum of 1000pax for the buffet.

I'm having a dinner banquet style (I will have a RSVP system) and will personally go around with my parents when I give the invites out and explain the situation. All of Meraj's relatives and our friends are used to the RSVP system so no worries there.

Cuclainne : Yeah, both of us are working on the song list. He has his favourites and I have mine. It's not exhaustive but we're working towards 5 hours worth of music. I think we have about 3 hours now...so..we're quite happy with our progress on that front.
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marnie,
Ohh..if 1000 pax then must let my mum know - they would probably have to go down personally to negotiate a package. Maybe they will make an exception if my sis also having the nikah ceremony there...thanks marnie for all the info! Really appreciate it!
 
Lani : Yeah best if your mom can negotiate something with them.

Eh...what happened to the rest of the Girls? Yooo hoooooo..........roll call time.
 
HI gals...
A very good morning ..

Hows things with you gals?? been busy for the past days.. no time to log in, thats why no posting too lor..

Marnie..
I got the email .. thank you very much, my wedding decor also settled with Kasaisayang.. told you about the purple theme that I wanted for the dais ? ended up I took the baliness becoz I dun want it to be too malay and also the multipurpose hall surrounding with plants and greens, so Zahrin suggest me to take the bali concept. How are you ?? how you spent your time with your Meraj huh ?? hehehe.. mushy mushy ya.. hehe ok.. I got to get back to work.. post later if I have the time.. count me in for the bridal exhibition.. you suggest it on a friday night ?? coz i off work around 645pm.. where is the exhibition huh ??
 
Elaine : Yeah..wondering where you went.....Was dying to know about your meeting with Zahrin....and glad that everything worked out well!

Actually, when I was communicating with Zahrin, I was interested in the Balinese concept. Oooh...it's definitely much more exotic plus I'm sure your hubby won't mind the theme cos' it's not too much of a girly concept, right?? Must say good choice..!
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The Bridal exhibition is at Singapore expo. Your office is at Cuppage right? We wait for you lor. Can make it.

I've been rather busy at work - trying to clear the office cos' we're moving at the end of September. I never realised I have so many files! I'm getting all kinds of rashes and sneezing way too much today....
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hey girls...

been pretty busy since da last time i posted......read until eyes
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haha...anyway, yea i wanna go to the fair! but hor...got Figh module 1 class on Fri..sobsob..how leh...
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Whoa...Tepak Sireh can accomm. so many peeps? how much will the rental roughly be?

hmm.......

btw when will our next meetup be? hehe
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Huichin : The lunch buffet reception is about S$30.00 per person minimum 1000 pax. Banquet is about S$700.00 per table of 10. Minimum 20 tables.

How long is your class? The fair is on 28th onwards. If cannot make it on Friday, we go on Friday. But I am just afraid, Friday not all would have set up their stuff. But if we go about 8pm-ish, should be ok, I suppose.

What say you Elaine and Cuclainne?
 
Hello ladies,

I do aplogise if I am intruding but just a quick question for those who are converting or have a partner who is converting into Islam.

I am wondering if anyone of you can shed some light as to what is the official procedure for one to do their conversion? Is there an 'exam' or a 'test' required by the individual? If so, what areas will you be tested on and how specific or fluent will the 'examiner' require from the individual?

Is there a crash course for any converts wanting to convert at Darul Arqam ie attend a full 2-3 day course and doing the official conversion straight after? My concern is the time factor as at the moment, we are not based in Singapore and there is not an Islamic Centre available in the area where we are.

Thank you so much in advance and I look forward to hearing some opinions from you ladies soon! :-)
 
Hi ladies..

wah ...so many postings..read till blur liao..been very bz with my classes..currently undertaking a heavy subject. Tomolo's my final presentation, then i will be having 3 weeks break after tat. Phew!!

Me abit off liao from all the wedding venues..so far this whole yr no wedding invitation at all. Guess all my peers..married liao.

Huichin,

so far no takers for the next meeting? sigh..

Sya,

im a born muslim though im a peranakan..cant help u much on tat.but i guess, the rest of the ladies here mayb able to shed some light.
 
Ally : Very long leh....We've missed you here on the thread...And don't forget to pass your driving test...I'm booking a seat in your Wish....
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Huichin : Count me in too for the meet up! Where are we meeting?

Sya : Hi ho! I'm no help either, I'm sorry....But let me holler the girls for you - Huichin, Elaine, Interrace - please clarify Sya's queries.
 
Sya: Perhaps you might be able to find your answers at this website: www.darularqam.org.sg This is the website for the Muslim Converts' Association of Singapore.

My FH will be converting at the Islamic Centre in his country so I'm not certain if it's similar to how it's done in Singapore.

Aside from the conversion, you will also have to undergo a marriage preparation course before registering for ROMM.

HuiChin, Ally, Marnie: I'm here. Just a bit busy with work - might even have to work the weekend. Darn!! So when are we meeting up? As for the bridal exhibition outing, I'm fine with anything you guys suggest.

By the way, I have a piece of good news .. Ah Boy managed to get a reply from one company yesterday, requesting him to come for an interview when he's in town. We're keeping our fingers crossed for that one!!!

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Cuclainne : That IS good news! When do you reckon Ah Boy will travel here?....I bet you just want him to book the first flight out of Sweden? *kaypoh-ness whipped out*
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Girls : I went to my BS last evening and had my measurements taken. Talked abit about the designs...yada yada yada.....Now on the way home, it just dawned on me that I want to have a pair of bridal clothes for keeps (!) - for sentimental reasons. Cos' I'm not wearing the BS' dress for the solemnisation, I was thinking the modern malay dress. That way, I get to negotiate a better price and get something I can wear for the photoshoot and after, for keeps. Good economic sense, you think? I've made an appointment to speak to the manager at the BS this afternoon - wish me luck that it goes my way.....*demanding me in action*

Oh....and did I mention I'm presently craving for oil drenched fried calamari rings from Fish & Co.
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He's going to book the tickets next week, so it'll give him time to see if he gets replies from the other companies so he could go for several interviews while he's here. Yeah, I sure wish that would be the case ... him being here next week would be great!!

I'll probably go and have my solemnisation costume done, so that I can keep it. Ah Boy also mentioned that he would like to keep his so we'll probably get his done as well. Yah lor, have something for remembrance right ...

Have craving ah .. I might be going to Fish & Co this evening .. I eat for you ok?
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Naughty naughty Cuclainne - tempting me only......Hmmpppffff.....

Meraj wants to go to the British Club to eat fish and chips or so he says. I reckon he wants to join in the party at 6.30pm to see the results of who will host the 2012 summer Olympics - I tell you, Meraj is a basket case.....too much of a sports fanatic.
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Right - I have decided then. I'll make for Meraj and I baju melayu modern for keeps. I can shop for the material myself - Arab Street here I come!!
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HI gals....

looks like I lost tread with all the topics you gals talking now.. coz have not been posting for the past days, anyway I got my internet set up at home finally, till I have the time, I will slowly read all the posts ..

Marnie..

Looks like your next meeting wanna to be at Fish & Co ? hahaha.... Marnie.. me not working at cuppage lei ?? where did you get the info from huh ?? me working at lucky plaza.. hahahaha.. you got mix up liow .. hmm... I agreed with you, not all will set up in time on Friday, maybe Sat will be a better day to go, but I off work at about 430pm lei.. I very "Ma Fan" right
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I also know.. hehe maybe you gals just settle amoung yourself, and let me know the time slot, and will join your if I can make it .. how about that ??

Huichin..

When is the next meeting before the bridal exhibition ??

Sya..

There isnt any express class for convertion, is a must to attend the 11 sections of the beginner of islam, then another 6 sections of the prayers before you can take the evalulaion test where they will test you on the prayers and the topics you learn, you have to pass the evalulation before you can finally can convert. they dun want you to rush and dunno anything about islamic and ended up regret.. anyway cuclainne already given you the website to check it out. hope it will help you in any ways..
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Elaine : Yippee!!! You're now online at home...!

The last Bridal Fair - I kiasu - went on all 4 days....
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It was set up fully on Thursday night. Do you want to give it a try? Weekends will be a too crowded, I think. What say you?
 
Yeah Ally, I was telling the girls how I am craving for oil drenched fried calamari...Still salivating. And to think I just had lunch.....
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Marnie...

Sorry ya.. I mistaken, tot bridal exhibition open on friday.. hehehe... in that case we go on friday, but by the time I reached expo MRT will be around 745pm.. will try to leave early.. what say you ??
 
Hi girls,

eh...i oso dunno when's da next meeting...cos no one propose anything yet...hmm...how abt next Thurs 7 July / Saturday 16 July? Girls? what ya all think? If Thurs then meet at abt 7.15pm, then Saturday - what time is convenient for everyone? Kindly propose what time u girls can make it for these two days.

Sighs...my class is from 8-9.30pm every Fri. till then i think haben finished yet...sighs...u girls can go ahead to go to the expo. Most probs i'll go wif my bf. sighs...

so sad...
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Dear gals!!

Missed me bo?? hee..hee..been busy with work since coming back from my long long wkend.
Pimples popping due to all the stress...
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So when is the next meet up?

Hi Sya,
welkum to this thread, full of warm helpful friendly pple.
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Actually hor, is not a MUST to attend the BCI classes,but is encouraged.
For those who already noe what islam is and what the religion is abt, they can take the pre-conversion session and conversion(can take on the same day if the person who do the conversion is ard) then the evaluation.
Two male muslim (non-converts) must be present during the pre-conversion and converstion section.

Evaluation consists mainly of the theory and practical part loh .Theory will be what is islam, list the 10 angels name,the faith and the obligatory actions of being a muslim.
Practical will be doing the prayers in front of the examinor ba ( this part i have yet to go through). U may like to do the marriage prep talk thingy concurrent, however if u take from darul, it will take u 3 full sundays (from morning till evening), got a faster way with another place near bugis ( my FH went to find out ) only half a day can complete and get the cert, BUT that one will cost u 100bucks more i think. hope this helps
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Btw, sisters, me converted on last sat liaoz,hee, was pretty nervous but hor the person who did the conversion was talking abt alot of general affairs before he did the conversion, so still not too bad.Next step will be the evaluation liaoz.wish me luck ..
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Marnie,

U wanna make a gown and keep ar?
i wish i can also, but hor, no $$.
When i was having the PS on last wkend, i cant get enuff of the gowns loh ...so nice ...
Anyway, i went arab street last wkend too, cut a green cloth to make kurong for the upcoming new yr, so will be like xmas tree, green in color, haha.
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The cloth all feel and look so nice, feel like buying those lacy ones, organza ones to make my kurong, but too expensive liao, next yr then make a better one, cos this yr very bad drought in bank liaoz.
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Ally : You "complain" and all the girls come here....Think they got scared that the principal come looking for them....hands on hips and all...
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Interrace : Wah...so fast you've converted. I remembered like it was only yesterday that you were afraid that you'd not make the conversion. Glad it went well.
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So how did your photoshoot go last week?? A few more months and you'll be walking down the aisle - sooo fast!
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I just want to make the baju kebaya. Nice nice material and then can use for PS and keep for Raya next year. Since a few shops down at Arab Street also have GSS, I think it makes economic sense for Meraj and I to make full use of the opportunity.
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Elaine & Huichin & Cuclainne : Can we make it on Thursday? I think if we go Thursday night, there's a high chance that the fair will be fully ready. Cos' poor Huichin will not make it on Friday (she's got classes), we go on Thursday...can look see look see...then over the weekend, Huichin can go with bf if she wants to show him some stuff. How - Thursday ok?

Girls : I'm okay with either of the dates suggested by Huichin. To be prudent, I will block those dates. How are the rest???
 

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