Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

Marnie: Haha...no leh...never tried lomo cam b4 - though it's fun!

WHoa...welcome Lani!

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Huichin: What exhibition?? Are you talking about the Malay bridal exhibition? If so, the Malay bridal exhibition will be coming in July/August. So you may want to keep your ears and eyes peeled for that.

But I advise you to go to the BS (if you haven't decided on the BS) to try their clothes cos' at the exhibition, they will not bring their clothes. Then you can sign up for their promos at the exhibition.
 
Aiya..read until my eyes blur. Someone mentioned about make-up and bs. Ok..my evaluation on make-up:
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1. More natural looking
2. More up-to-date in terms of make-up like for eg. natural, dramatic etc. Like day, they tend to use natural. In the evening, more dramatic or depth in colour.
3. Hairstyle more simple. Usually, Day bun up. Evening, let down and usually use crown or simple sparkling accessories
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1. More traditional looking. They usually either use red or pink lipstick.
2. Thicker make-up. No difference between day &amp; evening make-up.
3. Can opt for natural make-up but must tell beforehand.
4. Hairstyle tend to be like "bee-hive" so that can insert the headgear. They seldom let hair down. And usually have something on the hair. Either flowers, feathers, crown, headgear etc..never empty.

Evaluation on bs:
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1. More expensive even though in terms of package.
2. Only 1 day make-up &amp; usage of gowns meant for 1 day event.
3. More varieties of dresses that is from the dramatic to very modern simple.
4. Can MTM.
5. Balance of outdoor photographs &amp; indoor photographs. Outdoor photographs are usually taken with nice surroundings.
6. Lack of other cultures wedding costumes. Usually very basic like chinese, japanese, western.
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1. Price reasonable though bs like zulradi etc can be expensive for their package.
2. They usually provide 2 day events for ROMM &amp; malay ceremony.
3. Dresses are usually very grand complete with headgear. Quite hard to find modern simple dress.
4. Usually off-the shelf.
5. Majority of outdoor photographs the surroundings not nice. Focus more on the couple. The indoor photographs are much nicer.
6. More varieties of other culture wedding costumes. Have chinese, japanese, korean, western, arabic, indian, javanese, boyanese etc..etc..

Lani,
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Spa,
Who also want to tag along? Someone mention... blur already.. one day we organize go spa session together. Of course, must be on weekend..sorryah.
 
Hi ladies,
Thanks for welcoming me. Actually I am probably the oldest here - married at the age of 25, so can calculate how old I am now already lah! And no 7-year itch lah! Because me and hubby have been together for 14 yrs already!

Marnie,
We are not sure how many pax yet - you know how a Malay wedding is like lah! Mine was 1000 pax! But my mum says this time they wanna make it a small affair, so probably around 300-500 pax? Outdoor setting seems nice, but we're hesitant because of the weather. And you know how humid the weather here can get lah! Wait all the Mat Sallehs melt ah!! Haha! And most likely we only want a venue, as my parents may have a caterer in mind already. But do bear in mind that all of the above are not confirmed yet, so do feel free to offer ANY suggestions and ideas.

Perhaps you wanna elaborate more on your choice of venue (Asian Civilisations Museum) and what they have to offer. It sounds very interesting. My sis probably wants a "westernised" reception, as most of her friends are non-Malays, but she would still like to have some Malay flavour present, so that at least her in-laws can experience how we get married over here.
 
Hi Lani,
So you want a venue with air-con? But already have caterer in mind. Quite limited leh. Suggestions:
1. ACM
2. Singapore Art Museum
3. Community Centres (there are some with air-con)
4. Fort Canning
I have another suggestion since your sister would like some malay flavour present that is to hold in Tepak sireh restaurant. You can have an alfresco style (they have place for that) but malay food. Or best hold at hotel, they can do western concept but malay food. Both places air-con and not much hassle coz no need to think of the decor, florist etc.
 
Lani : You may have read my post to Cuclainne about why we chose ACM. Mostly due to its central location and the beautiful setting (re. an architectural splendour with interiors marrying our asian cultures and accents of the west) - perfect for Meraj and I. You may log into http://www.museum.org.sg/MCC/VisitorInfo/ACMempress/ to find out more info (rental and stuff like that).

Singapore Art Museum has tonnes of construction going on so you may want to take that into consideration. Further, from my "investigation", the space can only accomodate up to 120 pax.

There's Burkill Hall (rent is S$3K for the weekend) at Botanic Gardens. Upstairs aircon, downstairs is al fresco.

Fort Canning. I think IC held her wedding there. Burkill Hall, SAM, ACM and Fort Canning all allow you to have your own caterer.

Can I suggest you take a look at The Arts House too - http://www.theartshouse.com.sg/home.html ? It's a beautiful place. You can give the mat sallehs a running commentary of the history of singapore.

Oooh...and agree with IC. Can try Tepak Sireh though that's a full restaurant. Their package is all inclusive (except for bridal clothes lah).
 
Hey ladies - hope everyone is having a good morning so far.

Marnie: I've received the details from Little Bali. Will have to check out with Elias what he thinks of it. This man has sooo many ideas.. you know he wants our flags to be on the wedding cake? How weird would that look - blue, yellow, red and white... hmmm. Trade fair or what??

Lani: Hey Lani - welcome to the forum. When is your sister's wedding?

If anyone is attending any bridal exhibitions, can let me know or not - then can go together.
 
Cuclainne: From what you know of your Ah Boy...what do you think he'll say about Little Bali?

Re the wedding cake - it's a FABULOUS idea...I'm thinking of suprising Meraj with a football pitch cake...(ala Liverpool - he's a fan for yonkers!) or a Simpsons one (we're both fans - though he's a fanatic). I reckon it'll cost about $200-S$300 for a cake which can feed about 200 pax.

About the bridal exhibition - no worries - I'll be yours and Huichin's eyes and ears! I also want to kaypo (though I settled most of my stuff lah) at the Fair.
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Interrace : Your PS this Thursday right? I hope you apply for leave on Friday also, girl. It's loong day ahead on the PS day. Better rest more after.
 
I think Ah Boy might be open to the idea. But I really have no idea what he's thinking of right now - he seems to have his own perception of how the wedding should be but only one problem... he hardly tells me what he wants!!

I scanned/ emailed some photos from the Anggun magazine (the caucasian guy modelling some malay costumes) and he insisted on not wearing the tanjak or any kind of 'headgear'. Sigh...

Talking of cakes, have you decided where you will get the cake? Is the Patissier any good? I'm thinking of what I can do to incorporate the colours into the decor and such ...
 
<font color="ff0000">Correction</font>,Marnie,
Not me who held my wedding at Fort Canning. It was CharsiewRice. I held mine at Hilton. So if want to know more about Fort Canning, must ask CharsiewRice. If one to know more about Hilton, then can ask me
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Marnie &amp; ic,
Thanks for all the suggestions and ideas. Will take all of it into consideration. We will probably look into ACM and Burkill Hall more. We may even make enquiries at the Malay Village (that's where I had my Malay lunch reception and Chinese wedding dinner).

Tepak Sireh is prob out of the question - my mum was considering that place, but she got feedback that they are quite stingy with food, and customers have experienced food running out at around 3pm and guests had to eat fried noodles instead!!!

Anyway, she wants to get her own caterer - my brother got married last Nov and my mum really like the caterer, so she wants to engage them again.

Btw, what is Little Bali?

cuclainne,
My sis is planning to get married in Feb 2006. Her fiance's parents own a farm, so they will be very busy from Oct-Jan, tending to the farm.
 
IC : Woops, sorry IC for the mix-up. I was actually thinking maybe..just maybe i got mixed up between Charsiew Rice and yourself...Hmm...thanks for the clarification!

Cuclainne : Funnily, Meraj is excited about wearing the malay "headgear" though not the indian one. Weird...

Patissier's cakes are delicious!
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But for designs other than the normal wedding cake ones (ie. frills and flowery sugar pastels), Pine Garden's cakes are delicious and designs are equally beautiful.
 
Good Morning gals...

WOw... so early already so many posts ???

Welcome Lani... guess marnie already given you all the info about what you wanna to know.. Me still not up to standard to give suggestion anyway.. most of the thing I also ask Marnie for help... hehehehe... my wedding holding at multipurpose hall and mine will be more to the malay wedding. So at the end of the day, I must thanks Marnie for all the information, really a great help for me..

Marnie... hehehee.. okay now I know what you mean by diff culture.. sorry hor after so many posts.. hahaha....always tot you are a chinese.. malu liow...

IC..
Yeah I have decided to take chinese for my PS, got to save up lor coz is a little ex.. I have two in mind.. one is 'say yes" and the other is "bridal concerpt" still looking around.

Interrace..
Must let us see your beautiful photos when its ready ya.. how was your first class of the solat lesson ?? who is your teacher ?? mine was sis Joriah.. quite a nice lady, will never feel bored during class ya.. hehe

Ladies..
Me also wanna join the bridal exhibition with you gals if time allow... count me in hor... thanks a million...
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Lani: My wedding is scheduled for either Feb or March 2006 too. Gives the folks and friends the opportunity to escape the harsh winter in Sweden.

Farm - so nice!!
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Is your sis moving there after the wedding?

Marnie: Just have to coax him into wearing it lor. I think it would look cute. Hahahaha.

Do Pine Garden have a website?
 
cuclainne,
My sis and hubby both now working in S'pore, but they do intend to return there permanently in a few years' time, but definitely not back to the farm lah! They will probably look for jobs in Melbourne, and stay in the city area. Besides, that's where her fiance has been staying since he started working after uni. He moved out of the farm when he started uni! They only go back to the farm for X'mas. Actually my sis, my hubby and myself are all familiar with Melbourne, as we all studied and lived there for several years.
 
Ah - i see, Lani.
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whoever is getting photos and such done before our next meeting should remember to bring these so we all can SEE
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by the way, i think Ah Boy might get a chance of working here already - keeping my fingers crossed.
 
Elaine : Aiyah...don't say that...I paiseh....If I can help, I help lor cos' I know how difficult it is to shop for things wedding. Mine's very different from siblings cos' a mix of cultures and also I am the kind who likes to shop within a certain budget - like that save money, right?

Okie. Will inform you when there's a Fair then we go for the "expedition"....
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Lani : Ooh.....so we do have another one intending to move to Melbourne yeah.....? Meraj and I will definitely move back to AUS in a few years (in 5 or so) as Meraj is already very homesick. It's toss between Sydney or Melbourne.

Cuclainne : It's www.pgcake.com I have got the latest pricelist for the cake/flavours so buzz me if you want it and I can forward it to you vide email.

OOooohh....sooo exciting. I hope and pray Ah boy gets the job! Keep us updated...!

Okie girls...roll call.....Ally? Charsiew Rice? Huichin? Interrace?
 
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I very much wanted a real three-tier wedding cake for my wedding, but expensive leh. In the end, cut a fake one, but the fake one looked good also ;-)
 
Hey Marnie

Thanks thanks thanks. I have PM-ed you my email address for the price list.

Charsiew Rice: Fake one - you mean like dummy cake? Hmmm ... how does that work?
 
The hotel provide me a 5-tier dummy wedding cake. But i decided to have a real one instead. Coz it was my birthdaylah. Just share with you girls. I had 2. One was a present from my parents during my ROMM. The other one was baked by the pastry chef in the hotel. Very simple lah..coz i like simplicity. It had fresh calla lilies as decor, my favourite.
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Wedding cake for ROMM It was blueberry cake

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Wedding cake for Dinner It was blackforest ice-cream cake
 
thanks for the photos - your cakes look soooo sweet!!

Elias doesn't like cream on the cakes so looking at other alternatives.
 
Hi gals,

So happening today ar!! Hee..hee..
me friday mood , tomolo taking off and friday also (dun worry marnie, i will not torture myself).
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Ally,
me dun not into euro cup,hee..hee..still at world cup and EPL stage.
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Love ronaldo.. esp when he had the "cute" hair cut at the last world cup match!! i even cut out newspaper article and paste on my cupboard to be admired daily haha!

I dun think will be able to get the photos instantly leh, wait till i get the soft copy, then will share with u all!!
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ic,i love the cakes!! esp the white one.

Elaine,

sama sama, joriah osman rite?
think am the poorest in recitation in the class, got a few experts there (non-muslim).
my tongue very short lah, cannot pronunce properly.
The shahadah end with laah rite ? my FH prounce it like ending with a "wor"
 
Ah I see - I think Elias prefers real one so we can share with the guests. Maybe should look into miniature cakes for everyone huh?
 
Cuclainne : I have sent you the price and types of cakes list.

You can actually talk to the baker and designer (yes, they have a designer) at Pine Garden if you want to have miniature cakes. Personalised for the guests. Also if you have one great big cake, you need to arrange who to cut into smaller pieces and give away to guests. That was my main worry.

Charsiew Rice : Long time never see you liao....Been busy huh??

IC : You are tempting me with your wedding cakes - look so delicious!!!
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Was actually deciding whether I want to surprise Meraj with cake or something else, after seeing pictures, I too want to have and eat cake too....

Elaine : Er...I think I never ask you. Did you end up meeting up with the guy from Kasaisayang?
 
Thanks Marnie. Received the email and going to have a look at the list now.

That's what I thought too - very leceh to have to cut the cake and serve to guests. But Elias says HE wants to cut the cake - like so happy to be able to do that. Having big headache with table arrangements too ...

I think I need to go and colour my hair already ..
 
Interrace...

yeah la.. same teacher.. her mandarin powerful wow.. can speaks quite good.. pronunciation thing i also blur.. two teachers also pronuce differently lei..

Marnie..
You never ask me, but I told you lei, met him up liow, meeting again tomorrow night to talk about the details.. wow they dam young ya... can said they are the cheapest so far hor...

Charsiew..
The fake cake you have is it expensive ?? I tot of order one for my AD..
 
Elaine : Yah yah...Kasaisayang quite young. I thought only one guy? Zahrin or something like that. Now he got many stuff, huh? I kaypo, are you taking the deco that's on his website?

I have the cake type and price list...can email me to [email protected] with your email addy then I have in on my mailing list and can forward you the list.
 
Marnie...
Zahrin and one of his staff came to talk to us.. his staff like chinese lei.. wanted to ask but paisay to .. i wanna purple colour theme for my decor, so I see what can he suggest me tomorrow and shall update you again.. try not to take his decor from his website.. he also said they dun quite like to repeat their past work.. macham very creative sia.. you do not have my email address ??
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Cuclainne,
It's not butter cream. It's Fresh Cream. So when you eat, don't feel like vomitting. Cons is that Fresh cream doesn't last long. But anyway, my wedding cakes finish fast!
 
IC : I wouldn't think your cakes got any left-overs. Looks too delicious girl!

Elaine : Kekekekke...I sent you to your starhub email addy liao, the cake type and price list. Don't salivate when you go through the list, k?
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K. Tomorrow you let us know about your meeting with Zahrin, k?

I'm going to Fancy Paper tomorrow to go get some paper to test-drive at home - to do some mock Save-The-Dates and invites. Too exciting!
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Hi ladies,
Can you recommend a Malay BS that will rent out 2 sets of costume for wedding, and also do the hair for the bride as well? I don't think my sis wants them to do her make-up, as we will get our own makeup artist to do that (Malay makeup artists don't know how to do "natural" makeup lah, always too drama!) Also, the male wedding outfits must be able to fit a big-sized Aussie bloke lah...thanks.

During my time in the dinosaur ages, I rented 2 sets of outfits from Som Said's bridal shop for only $350, but now she no longer operates that business anymore, so we need to look for a BS that is willing to ONLY provide the outfits plus headgear/hairstyling. Thanks.
 
Lani: My bridal shop is Rouz Couture. Supposed to be for BIG brides/grooms. Technically ah....caucasians not that kind of big. Just bone mass bigger. Think your sis' FH can fit into large singapore size or not?
 
Wah so many postings..read till my eyes..crossed eyed liao..
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IC,

Ur cake looks so nice , esp the white one. Wah lao..Looked back thru my wedding pics..I realised something - my photographer did not even take one pic of my wedding cake..Aiya!!
 
Aiyoh...he very big sized one, and then the peru very "boncet" some more! Haha!! He can't really fit into local-sized clothes. His size is XL I think, and that's Aussie/American XL!!

My sis also on the plump side. She and I same height - around 1.5m, but her weight I think over 60kg liao! Whereas mine at full term 9mths pregnant was 59kg! Before pregnant my weight around 43-45kg.

Eh...I think I really digressed leh...oops!
 
ally - so sayang that you didn't have a photo of your cake.

ic - my fh is adverse to creams of any kind (edible ones, i mean). for my birthday, he bought me a cake and he didn't even want to share with me ...

so when is the next meeting, everyone? getting all excited already ... hehehe
 
Lani : Aiyoh...you haven't seen huichin and I lor - then you'd think we're big.....Your sis not that big lah.......but hor, if I buy clothes in US/Europe, I feel so "normal"...
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In any case, I think these days, you can get the BS to do make-to-measure for rent. What are the two types are your sister wearing? Wedding dress and songket, is it?

Ally : Mana you pergi huh? Wah....yesterday go half day...shiok..eh....
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Yeah yeah...me agree with Cuclainne. Excited liao....to meet.
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When ah??? Er.....Huichin, you are the organiser/contractor...when huh??
 
Marnie/Lani : Ya loh...must see us then u know!

haha...ok peeps, this week is a no-no to meet up, cos most of us can't make it. Let's try to arrange next week, probably weekday after work or a Sat, how abt that?

Any opinions? Lemme know k!

ehhehe...
 
Huichin : I can't make it on Tuesday or Friday next week. Actually, the whole of next week now can't make it cos' Meraj is in town....YIPPEEE! And I'll be busy helping him do flyers for One.org.sg (which he wants to set up in Singapore).

But I think if most can make it next week, I will try to go. No problems - just let me know.
 
Good morning gals...

Marnie..
I got your email, but no price list lei ?? only a few fathers day cakes ?? no wedding cakes ?? hehe.. me very troublesome hor..

Lani..
I dont think you can just rent their costumes and take their hair do but without their make up lei.. I was also looking for that, and then no bridal shop wanna takes me if I dont engage their make up. I am so worried now if I looks good on my AD.. cos I really looks very ugly on my ROMM day lor...

Huichin...
I cant meet up on tues and sat for next week.. hehe..
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Elaine : How come huh?? The list is attached to the email.

But why is it that the email I sent you bounced back??

Let me try again.

Cuclainne : No need to be jealous lah...Your Ah Boy got chance to work here soon, right?? When will you know?
 
Elaine : Me email to you at starhub.net.sg got bounced back to me. I think you need to give me another email addy?
 


Marnie,

I'm baccccccckkk!! alamak..paisay, paisay..yesterday whole not around..my ah lao is back from biz trip mah..muz koochy-koochy..mushy-mushy abit mah..hahaha.

Aiya..i write till my own hair stand liao..

Meeting up..next week me got class on mon n wed..n then I'm free till end mth. kena exempted from a particular module. So can cheong lor..

I think best is on Sat lor..like that IC and charsiew may be able to attend
 

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