Hello girls!
So nice to read all yr threads! My FH has left singapore, 2 days ago so that explains why I can come back to this forum.
Thanks for all your replies!!! (u know who u are)...
Anyways, for my wedding, my FH and I are paying for the entire wedding ourselves...that's why FH was pretty cheesed off when the first thing my mom asked him after not seeing him for like 8 mths is abt the dowry issue...and 3/4 of the time at dinner (we treated my parents) was about money.... *sigh* Anyways, my dad has confirmed that he's not expecting dowry from FH since FH is non-chinese and we're paying for the whole dinner... my mom also said no need for dowry. But I know my parents lah, they may say one thing but in their hearts they are still wishing for dowry.
Anyways, FH and I talked to my pastor and his wife (Australian-singaporean) also. We think we shd give a token sum for dowry. But haven't decided how much. Do any of you know if you give the dowry before or after the wedding? I'm like hoping to give it after so as to see whether the dinner breaks even or not and how much we can afford... but dunno if that's the norm....
Deluxe; - MGS same family of schools... Wld be interested to know more about your "complicated and personal" details about yr church and stuff. That's if u're not too bz to chat over email or smth? my email is
[email protected] =) I think yr parents r really understd in regards to yr wedding. My parents are Christians too, but its like sometimes I honestly feel they are not happy for me. My dad was even saying that he doesn't want to step into my church for the wedding (AKA, he might not walk me down the aisle). I'm mentally prepared for smth like that happening and I have a back-up friend to walk me down in case my dad really doesn't show up.
Hey, my FH is currently trying to find out how to register marriage in germany...can let u know also.... oh can send me the article on chinese customs too?
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Cuclainne - what's a gift registry? Is it liek telling ppl what you need? So ppl can buy for you? does it work in singapore? but i guess it doesn't really apply much for pple moving abroad cos money wld be the most practical right?
Really happy for you that yr FH is coming so soon? When? In dec? My FH is coming end Jan 06.... one more month than yours but sounds so much longer, cos its still next year haha.
Oh with regards to registering marriage in singapore. My pastor's wife told me that they don't keep a record unless you and your husband buy a flat in future. Then they will need records of your marriage cert...but other than that they like don't care leh.
Oh i decided to hold my wedding at Grand Shanghai. Its a really nice restaurant beside Grand copthorne waterfront, with amazing deco and food! Superb... word of mouth.... no wedsite yet. But all the weekends are like fully booked with weddings and functions. Its a miracle that my FH and I got the date we wanted, cos we were almost going to sign the contract with grand copthorne when i had to pop by grand shanghai to check out the menu prices for my fren's birthday. Turns out the place is like super beautiful lah and we asked for our date 25/2/06 availability. It was originally booked by this one guy tentatively and we were like "oh no'! but we asked them to call him to confirm his booking and get back to us. All this while, praying that God will open the vacancy for us if we're meant to use that place. A few hrs later, she called us and said its available! We were so happy and went down to sign the next day. There's even a live band... grand piano, saxaphone, cello and 2 live singers to perform the entire night! that's like everythng we wanted! And also space in front of the stage to dance.... yeah lah.... so we're really really happy.... plus its slightly cheaper than grand copthorne too... =)
Elizabeth - thanks for your wonderful words of encouragement. Very sweet... i'm thinking of doing smth like u also... giving dowry only after wedding... but FH is saying that it's better to decide on a sum to give before the wedding so that it's a faith thing, like trusting God to provide if we decide in our hearts to set apart a certain amount of money.
DeniseK. I have some online pictures of Burkill Hall. Do you want access to them? if so, can pass me yr email addy and I can authorize you to view the photos. Burkill is good, but thing is if you have more than 100 ppl, u'd have to split yr guests upstairs and downstairs.... upstairs got air-con downstairs don't have. Yah, my parents did ask for dowry... but after talkign abt it with my FH they 'reluctantly' say no need, but i know they ko3 shi4 xing1 fei1..... so we'll still give lah. Yah, i got MSN, its
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