icequeenie
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Hi all,
I had been thinking for awhile before deciding to post this for advice.
We romed last October and just had our customary last week.
Things changed since after ROM actually. We started arguing and fighting over alot alot of issues, even simple ones.
Not only that, now my parents also cannot stand the way he do and say things and dislike him. To me, my parents’ blessing is very important to me. Hence, our relationship eventually drifted.
Not long later, I realized that I am pregnant. If not for the pregnancy, I doubt he will even want to go thru the customary with me as he is a divorcee and thus he cannot be bothered with another customary and wedding dinner as it would cost him money. Initially his mum sided him and acted like they dont want the dinner as (like i said, he's a divorcee) thus his mum says that they do not want to invite any relatives. But my dad insisted on the customary and wedding dinner as i'm the eldest daughter. (I almost quarrelled with my dad coz of this too, coz i really tot that they didnt want the customary and dinner due to he's a divorcee.)
So when my dad insisted, he asked me,'Why ur dad must insist on these? He want to earn all the ang bao money is it?!"
I believe u all can guess how i feel. How could he say such things abt my parent?! I was so angry and really hated him to the core!
However my parent insists that we go thru customary and dinner cos of our bb, even thou i did not want to! (They have not seen thru his true colours when they ask us to have our customary.)
Out of no choice and for bb sake, i have to go thru customary with him.
Can you imagine we argued at every single thing? I must admit that sometimes PMS do get into my head but why cant he as a husband understand we pregnant woman can be quite temperamental?
Anyway so much so until I decided not to tok about anything on the wedding, i did not bother abt any little thing about the wedding, not even my gown, the restaurant etc, simply EVERYTHING.
Soon, I realized he actually is not really not keen to go thru this wedding. For the simple reason that during the wedding dinner, his family n him were nowhere to be seen when all my relatives start coming in to the restaurant. It's like they totally cannot be bothered!
N my parents have a hard time answering to my relatives and friends when they were asking where's the groom and the in-laws? (Even i'm the bride and i'm pregnant, i'm also have the courtesy to go out entertaining all the relatives and friends, even though i do not have to!)
Why does he make me go thru these agony? He don’t want to ‘recognize’ me as part of his family?
Even right after the wedding dinner, i found him shouting at my mother and i was so damn pissed off about that. Even his mum, without finding out what happen, shouted at my mother, thus i lose my control and shouted back at his mother too. Only his dad is the only reasonable person and keep apologising to my dad and mum. Tell me, how can i live with this kinda person and his mum? Somemore i am preg, how can i take it?!
And during GDL, he did not even present the things that my parents request and not only that, the amount of 'ping jing' he gave can really make me feels that I am nothing in his heart.
He wouldn’t believe how heartbroken and angry my parents are towards his attitude and things he say and does.
This really sadden me alot. I really wonder why would I marry him in the first place?
And there are far more details to be elaborated here and even before the wedding (since dec till now), I did not stay with him and I DO NOT EVEN want to tok to him.
So now, I need to seek advice on whether can I request for an annulment for my marriage since its less than 1 year? How much will annulment cost? If I cant annul, can I seek divorce straight?
Please help me!!!
I had been thinking for awhile before deciding to post this for advice.
We romed last October and just had our customary last week.
Things changed since after ROM actually. We started arguing and fighting over alot alot of issues, even simple ones.
Not only that, now my parents also cannot stand the way he do and say things and dislike him. To me, my parents’ blessing is very important to me. Hence, our relationship eventually drifted.
Not long later, I realized that I am pregnant. If not for the pregnancy, I doubt he will even want to go thru the customary with me as he is a divorcee and thus he cannot be bothered with another customary and wedding dinner as it would cost him money. Initially his mum sided him and acted like they dont want the dinner as (like i said, he's a divorcee) thus his mum says that they do not want to invite any relatives. But my dad insisted on the customary and wedding dinner as i'm the eldest daughter. (I almost quarrelled with my dad coz of this too, coz i really tot that they didnt want the customary and dinner due to he's a divorcee.)
So when my dad insisted, he asked me,'Why ur dad must insist on these? He want to earn all the ang bao money is it?!"
I believe u all can guess how i feel. How could he say such things abt my parent?! I was so angry and really hated him to the core!
However my parent insists that we go thru customary and dinner cos of our bb, even thou i did not want to! (They have not seen thru his true colours when they ask us to have our customary.)
Out of no choice and for bb sake, i have to go thru customary with him.
Can you imagine we argued at every single thing? I must admit that sometimes PMS do get into my head but why cant he as a husband understand we pregnant woman can be quite temperamental?
Anyway so much so until I decided not to tok about anything on the wedding, i did not bother abt any little thing about the wedding, not even my gown, the restaurant etc, simply EVERYTHING.
Soon, I realized he actually is not really not keen to go thru this wedding. For the simple reason that during the wedding dinner, his family n him were nowhere to be seen when all my relatives start coming in to the restaurant. It's like they totally cannot be bothered!
N my parents have a hard time answering to my relatives and friends when they were asking where's the groom and the in-laws? (Even i'm the bride and i'm pregnant, i'm also have the courtesy to go out entertaining all the relatives and friends, even though i do not have to!)
Why does he make me go thru these agony? He don’t want to ‘recognize’ me as part of his family?
Even right after the wedding dinner, i found him shouting at my mother and i was so damn pissed off about that. Even his mum, without finding out what happen, shouted at my mother, thus i lose my control and shouted back at his mother too. Only his dad is the only reasonable person and keep apologising to my dad and mum. Tell me, how can i live with this kinda person and his mum? Somemore i am preg, how can i take it?!
And during GDL, he did not even present the things that my parents request and not only that, the amount of 'ping jing' he gave can really make me feels that I am nothing in his heart.
He wouldn’t believe how heartbroken and angry my parents are towards his attitude and things he say and does.
This really sadden me alot. I really wonder why would I marry him in the first place?
And there are far more details to be elaborated here and even before the wedding (since dec till now), I did not stay with him and I DO NOT EVEN want to tok to him.
So now, I need to seek advice on whether can I request for an annulment for my marriage since its less than 1 year? How much will annulment cost? If I cant annul, can I seek divorce straight?
Please help me!!!
