Advice on brothers during gatecrash

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ABCA

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Hi!
Just seeking out advice from those who have done gatecrashes or have been a jiemei or xiongdi in one.

Does the number of brothers have to tally with the number of jiemei?

I'm asking this because i only have about 2 or 3 xiongdi that I can really trust and bring along for my gatecrash, while my significant other, being the social butterfly that she is, has about 8-10 jiemeis.
So will it be weird if I turn up with such a few people while she has so many jiemeis?
 


ABCA said:
Hi!
Just seeking out advice from those who have done gatecrashes or have been a jiemei or xiongdi in one.

Does the number of brothers have to tally with the number of jiemei?

I'm asking this because i only have about 2 or 3 xiongdi that I can really trust and bring along for my gatecrash, while my significant other, being the social butterfly that she is, has about 8-10 jiemeis.
So will it be weird if I turn up with such a few people while she has so many jiemeis?
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It all really depends on you and your bride... There's no fixed rules when it comes to the number of xiongdis or jiemeis. Of course, if you have a matching number, then there will be more symmetry in the photos but even if you don't, it's still ok. My groom had 2 groomsmen while I had 2 bridemaids (we wanted to match up so we can get a nice symmetry in the photos). That said, he ended up with 5 xiongdis in total in the end as apart from the initial 2 groomsmen, there were 3 other male helpers being roped in for all the prep and subsequently roped in for gatecrashing games as well. Our group photo turned out well in the end despite the lack of symmetry now. I stood with my hubby in the middle on the steps to a stage while my 2 bridesmaids stood on each of our sides (1 level down) while his 5 xiongdis all fanned out in a semi-circle pattern in front of us at the bottom of the steps... Similarly, you and your bride can decide on what configuration or pattern you will want when it comes to the group photo or if you're like us, just leave it till the day and play by ear and it'll still turn out alright... ;)

Ps. Just a random thought on a suggestion for your "fun shot" group photo... You and your bride can stand in the middle. You can have one xiongdi standing on each side, acting like your personal bodyguards, while you have 4-5 jiemeis on each side trying to "break the defense" of your "bodyguard" xiongdi to get to you and your bride... ;)
 
hahaha, thats a nice suggestion!

alright, thanks for your input :) then i'll stick with my 2-3 xiongdi
 
just recently i attended my cousin's wedding... she had like 7 of us as jiemeis.. and her hb only had 1 xiongdi with him.. outnumbered.. haha.. but i think it was still pretty alright.. actually i had the same qns whether it had to be equal also...
 
Hi all, I would like to share my view too.

I agree that the equal numbers of XD & JM is a factor for the nice photo effect.

The XDs and JMs act as protector in the whole chinese wedding ceremony during the 'fetch the bride', gate crashing, journey to groom house and then the 'home visit'.
The XDs are the supporter for the groom during gatecrash.
So if it's just 1 or 2 XD, it might make the groom look unprepared.

As for the JMs in the 'gate crashing' , they act as the judges to test the groom's capabilities to take care of their beloved sister.

But having too many XD & JM is also very expensive for the couple.
might have to partially pay for their attire, makeup and most importantly ang pao.
Having 8 sisters is going to be costly for your WTB.

You might want to talk to her and maybe suggest to appoint 4 sisters (who appears in a sisters image) and have the other girls as 'sub-sisters. The sub-sisters can wear their own clothes.
You could cut down on a lot of expenses.
Hope my suggest helps.
 
Hi all

I will be having my ADW on this yr 12 dec.

I am thinking if this will be really alright.

i have only 2 bros with me. and she will be having 2 sisters (coz i only have 2 bros that is my very good friend, so she say she will ask 2 of her friends)
1 of the bro will drive the bride car and another will drive the sisters.
angbaos for bro each is $88
open door for groom is $58
sisters will be $288 (exclude some extra other currency which to be use in gatecrash)

will this be alright???
 
i will prepare to give extra amount bt by abit using other country currencies... yup. thanks for the info.. i will tell my wife about it.
 
Hi Kelvin,

Benny gave really good advices.
But I also noticed something else.

1. Are you engaging photographer and/or videographer?
Cos you also need to provide transport for them.
They want to shot when on the journey and they want to jump out of the car and start immediately at the next location. No time to park their own car.
They will have to squeeze into the sisters' car then, or you can rent a 7 seater and you can also ferry more family member with the rented car.

2. As for the junior opening your car door, is he your WTB's younger bro?
Cos you'll still need to give him one more ang pao during tea ceromony. If yes, you can split the amount into 2 ang paos if you're on budget.
 
Thanks for the advise. me myself is a photographer too. So both videographer and photographer are my friends.

for the junior to open the car is my stepson.
 
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