for all the brides that are going theough their GDL - take it easy, it really isn't that kan cheong; as long as:
1) all items are brought
2) items are agreed by both parents
3) pinjin amount agreed on (if it isn't , then my suggestion is the bride and groom please go and "si teng si teng" find out roughly what is the agreed amount) sometimes, we as the young generation may not understand how important PJ is to our elders. So never assume
Girls: even ur mothers say they don't care, they not selling their daughter (well u know ur mom the best) think twice whether she really means it or just saying it
custom: during GDL , when the guys bring things to the house, the bride is not suppos to see the whole process until all the things are place in the house and the guest are all seated then only she can come out from her room (some practic this culture) -> which is also my custom that i went through . then usually some simple cake and drinks to be offer to the guy side. Then sit down chit chat for a while 10 min then the girl parents would go and pack their girl stuff to give bk to the guys. For eg: guy bring 16orangnes, girl give back 8, fanta juice ..etc etc items all place in a table , take picture then Finish =)
hope this helps!