Aeris - My husband is also quite protective of his DEAR SISTER
This rime round, because I really flared, he knew I meant business. So he toned down. On usual days, if I get so rude or criticise his family, he wont be happy. Like during my reno stage, we engaged a contractor who was recommended by my school-mate. In the end? The sister was unhappy that we werent taking her contractors and further insisted that we MUST take her painter cos she has already informed that guy verbally. I was terribly upset. But my husband told me to give in to her! And so I did. Her painter did a very shitty job and I had to pay extra to someone else to salvage my doors. The walls I closed 1 eye already. Even my FIL chided her for this case.
I wont want to speak to the SIL anymore. I dont depend on her for anything. Why would I need her to change her opinions about me? I really did nothing wrong :'(
maruko - How about reverse psychology? Haha! Some folks just like to put you down. For once, try not giving any comments on a unit you view and let MIL speak first. See if she is still complaining?
You are lucky. My husband wont side me with ALL the time. He feels that I should give due respect, of which I did. Now his sister did me wrong, he is just sweeping everything under the carpet and praying that I forgive and forget. But I know he knows I am still sore about it. Cos since then, he never dares to force me if I reject dinners at his parents' place. Sometimes he offers to go up alone to tabao the food and we go back our own place to eat...
Bear - She's married but marriage on the rocks. Husband had affairs since 2002. Heard the affair ended but they are living under very strange arrangements. Mon-Fri, she and daughters stay with my in-laws. Weekends, they go back to their own place.
She has always been like a BIG SISTER at home. Could clearly see that she is the one making decisions or giving opinions most of the times. In her facebook, her friends described her as a LADY BOSS under the doodle-doll feature. I think she has a harder time than my MIL to let go of the only son at home lor.
Every other day, she will ask her kids to sms my husband about they missing him, reminds him to go back often. She still buys all his boxers and reads his letters. And I once bought a watch for hb, she went to buy the female version...my hb thinks this is normal as they are VERY close as siblings. I feel suffocated.
hope things are better at home. 
