Just to share with you gals since it is sooooo........quiet today. ENJOY!!!
Keeping a relationship.......
It's best to wait for the one you want than settle
for the one available. Best to wait for the one you
love than one who's around. Best to wait for the
right one because life's too short to be wasted on
just someone.
"An African proverb states, "Before you get married,
keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one
eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment
to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,
ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem
make you blind to warning signs.
Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that
you can change someone or that what you see as
faults aren't really that important. Once you
decide to commit to someone, over time, their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet
peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and
want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn how to close
one eye and not let every little thing bother you.
You and your mate have many different expectations,
emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and
strengths. You are two unique individual children
of God who have decided to share a life together.
Neither one of you are perfect, but are you perfect
for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other,
or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring
past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter them.
You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and
"a life" you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your
happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and
selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving,
healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong
reasons to be in a relationship.
what keeps a relationship strong?
* communication
* intimacy
* a sense of humor
* sharing household tasks
* some getaway time without business or children
* daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note)
* sharing common goals and interests
* giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure
* giving each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment
* asking God to be the c! enter of your relationship
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will
erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect,
dishonesty and pain replace the passion.
"As long as we have memories, yesterday remains. As
long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits. As long as we
have friendship, today is beautiful."
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion,
and the romance in a relationship and find out that
you still care for that person.
This is hard work man.... 
