I’m married to my husband for 1yr plus, but we hv been dating for 8yrs.
Last mth, I’ve unintentionally checked his whatsapp msg which i need to confirm on something, but accidentally saw a msg to his female colleague saying that we has lost passion in our marriage. I’ve no idea y he told her that, and no idea how close they are.
I’m feel totally lost when i saw this msg.
I did not confess that i saw the msg, but i’ve sat down with him heart to heart talk and wanted to find out what has happen to us.
He did not mention anything between us that makes him unhappy in this marriage. I tried to sound him out but since I can’t confess regards to the msg, i couldnt find any reasons to asked abt it.
After a long talk that day and we are back to normal days..and there was another incident after that, that i happen to saw his whatsapp notification on the lockscreen, a girl’s name msg him and i find it uncomfortable and i’ve quarrel with him abt it, but has resolved that this was a misunderstanding (he has proven to me that the girl is his colleague’s wife).
So, recently i’ve noticed that he has off his whatsapp notification on his screen. This is the first time he off the notifications. I do not wish to ask him straight to the point why he has off it as i dont want him to say i do not trust him again. But i feel so insecure nowadays.
Can I ask u all your opinion,
1. He off the notification coz he do not wish to have any unnecessary conflicts if i ever to see any msg
2. He is trying to hide msg from me
3. What will you think/do when u realise he has off it and pretend he doesnt know why the msg didnt pop up on screen
I couldnt find a fren to talk abt it as the timing is not right. And i’m so depressed and lost.. i don’t know if i’m thinking too much/getting over sensitive or paranoid
Last mth, I’ve unintentionally checked his whatsapp msg which i need to confirm on something, but accidentally saw a msg to his female colleague saying that we has lost passion in our marriage. I’ve no idea y he told her that, and no idea how close they are.
I’m feel totally lost when i saw this msg.
I did not confess that i saw the msg, but i’ve sat down with him heart to heart talk and wanted to find out what has happen to us.
He did not mention anything between us that makes him unhappy in this marriage. I tried to sound him out but since I can’t confess regards to the msg, i couldnt find any reasons to asked abt it.
After a long talk that day and we are back to normal days..and there was another incident after that, that i happen to saw his whatsapp notification on the lockscreen, a girl’s name msg him and i find it uncomfortable and i’ve quarrel with him abt it, but has resolved that this was a misunderstanding (he has proven to me that the girl is his colleague’s wife).
So, recently i’ve noticed that he has off his whatsapp notification on his screen. This is the first time he off the notifications. I do not wish to ask him straight to the point why he has off it as i dont want him to say i do not trust him again. But i feel so insecure nowadays.
Can I ask u all your opinion,
1. He off the notification coz he do not wish to have any unnecessary conflicts if i ever to see any msg
2. He is trying to hide msg from me
3. What will you think/do when u realise he has off it and pretend he doesnt know why the msg didnt pop up on screen
I couldnt find a fren to talk abt it as the timing is not right. And i’m so depressed and lost.. i don’t know if i’m thinking too much/getting over sensitive or paranoid