samantha, for me to say, i will tink bride will nt mind coz the more grand the wedding is the more happy we are as we view this as more memoriable but nt for the groom....coz they hv to come out wif most of the expenses so unless they are really rich or hv oredi set a side a sum of $$ for wedding or if their parent hv help them save their 'lao po ben' if nt it will be siong for the groom...
see, traditionally, the groom is expect to gif the bride family a few table and for these number of table given, the ang bao are for the bride family to keep so the groom hv oredi lose tat few table $$ right from the start. then some bride parent will ask for 'pin jin' (thou alot hv skip this). for some dialect group, the groom family or the groom hv to gif the whole roasted pig and cake for the bride family and relatives....then 'si dian jin' for teochews....open door ang bao for the jie mei, blah blah blah...
then we bride want a honeymoon...so all these are expenses...so tat is why me and my hubby hv set agreed on a budget for banquet (in fact, he wanted someting below $700 or $600) hv to consider his pocket coz me dun hv much saving lor...so cant help him much...
above that, we are gng to renovate our hse soon so all + up we will be broke after the wedding...sob sob...tat explain why we so budget lor...
oops...sori for the long msg...