Would u marry a 50 year old?

[chocogum]

Hi, would like to seek opinions.

If u're 22 (a lady) this year.. Would u even consider marrying someone at the age of 50? Given that u have feelings for him and everything is fine except for the issue of age gap..

Thanks..

 

[lyndy]

no.
how would i have developed feelings for him in the 1st place?

 

[yuene]

Why not? If both of you have the same goals in life, and maturity, then it shouldn't be too big an issue.

 

[sgbabydoll]

I won't, for practical reasons.

 

[pussycat]

What about guys?

Will you go for a much older woman?

 

[muzik_luver]

For me, definitely no.
But may consider a woman who's just 2-3 years older.

 

[miloice]

For sexual reasons... I would think its very unlikely. She is passed her menapause while the guy is going hard and strong.

 

[mark78]

cat how old is consider old? 30 - 40?
anyway choco, a couple still going in their rs. the gal is like 36 and she married 50 yr old guy so there is a diff of 24.

btw its a trend in the states for gals to go for older guys known as silver fox, RICH going to retired man.

>>read it from timesonline

 

[pussycat]

Woman 5 years older than the guy?

 

[pussycat]

Milo >

Me 31. A 26 guy is chasing me. I aim to get married before 35. Other than menopause, what issues should I think through?

 

[sgbabydoll]

Mark, 50 - 36 = 14.

If the woman is 22 only, I wouldn't think a 50-year-old man would be able to satisfy her sexually or for long.

 

[jascal]

Age is not an issue... me- 24 Htb- 40..

 

[mayimayi]

50-22=28
40-24=16

16yrs of age difference is ok for me..
but 28 yrs difference is too much...

 

[miloice]

at 26... the chap maturity is a key consideration. In terms of emotionally and career wise. How prepared is he to cope the social pressure?

Also, u need to get to know his folks better. If you have a understanding MIL, then its good. Else, its going to be a tough one with relatives always referring to you as the 'old woman'.

Marrying at 35, conceiving could possibly be an issue too. If you guys intend to have kids. You might want to see a doc to check on your fertility and suitability for kids ahead of marriage plans. Basically, don't just base on love. Think through and align all your plans.

 

[pussycat]

Milo >

Thanks

 

[simpleman]

Age difference in itself is not a problem but has to be seen in context with other factors.

28 is a big gap and due consideration must be given.

 

[sgbabydoll]

Pussycat, why only marry at 35? What if by then there is no one to marry to?

 

[pussycat]

Doll >

I am single by choice. The guy is not financially stable to get married now.

 

[kessie83]

aGE Gap... i wont marry a 50 yrs old man if i am 22 yrs old..Other than menopause, i cant imagine having to support a husband for the rest of the 20-30 yrs when he has alrdy been retired...
Even if he is very rich, still no... i can't imagine i have to be a widow for 20 over yrs (given the scenario if both of us were to die at same age ie 65yrs old)

 

[sgbabydoll]

Pussycat, if you are single by choice, why the change of mind now?

Kessie, who says you must remain a widow till you die? You may meet another life companion again, who knows.

 

[green_tranquility]

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[green_tranquility]

38 years is too much for me. My family will object and I dun want to be a widow for so many years

 

[sgbabydoll]

Green, the girl is 22 while the bf is 50. It's a 28-year age gap hehe. I don't really worry about being a widow because every married woman is likely to become one one day; and no one says she must remain a widow for the rest of your life mah.

 

[green_tranquility]

Doll,
Aiyoh I count wrongly haha. U still awake? I slept 14 hours and woke at 2pm today. Cham I sure can't koon already!

 

[sgbabydoll]

Yes, both you and Mark counted wrong haha

 

[green_tranquility]

Doll,
If mark is accountant, he also counts wrongly. Me normal folk, sure count wrongly sometimes mah. lol

 

[sgbabydoll]

Yes, I know he was referring to another couple. The woman is 36 and the man, 50. Age gap is 14, not 24 hahaha

Frankly, 28 years of an age gap is like marrying my father...I will have lotsa respect for the man but perhaps not much sexual desire.

 

[simpleman]

Yeah, 28 is quite big but not impossible lah..

Somehow for the rich & famous, age gape is less of an issue?

Rupert Murdoch age gap with his wife is 31?

So for us mere mortals, what is the acceptable age difference? < 20?

 

[sgbabydoll]

If the man is already 50 and you are only 22, also have to see if he has been married before and if there are children. Are they able to take to you?

Today there are news reports in The Straits Times about more men marrying in their autumn years.

For me, I won't marry someone who is 50 if I were 22, for my own reasons, not for what others would think of me.

 

[cherrygirl]

I think i cannot imagine sleeping with someone the same age as my father !

 

[laundry_woes]

Pierce Brosnan? I so can.

 

[kessie83]

Haha... cannot imagine my 50yrs old husband going to call my Mother "mother" (address MIL) weird lei. somewhere, somehow, something is just not right....

 

[kessie83]

acceptable age.. not more than 10yrs difference ba...

 

[cuclainne]

Richard Gere!!

 

[florence505]

I think is very tough.

 

[hapimint]

hmmm... just commenting here....

My sister and her hubby age difference is 11 years...

Her hubby and my mum age difference is only 7 years...

5 years into the marriage, they are still as per normal but can see the age from my brother in law and being a much older man, he tends to have alot more rules and less patience with children....

 

[blueberrytea]

for me, no way.
age gap of 10, whether guy is older or younger is still ok.

 

[red_sky]

Mindy,
If I'm not wrong, your mum had your sister at 18. That's already considered very young so I don't think you can make a fair comparison between her age and your bro-in-law's age.

 

[mum_of_2_girls]

I read in the newspapers about a Nobel Prize Chinese Scientist, 86 yr married to a 32 yr lady.

The lady send a christmas card to him after his wife died and they marry a year later.

Why do we always hear about young girls marrying rich old men but not poor old men.

Anyone can share true love stories about young girls marrying poor old men. Thanks.

 

[green_tranquility]

Albee,
I heard no case of young girls marrying poor old men LOL

 

[cherrygirl]

i only heard young girls marrying sick and rich old men.. no heard of poor old men..

 

[kessie83]

Maybe old men in Singapore are rich after they draw out their CPF..

 

[green_tranquility]

Well it's still possible that such marriages are successful!

Only the bad news go to newspapers mah. They hardly report on the blissful marriages between old man and younge lady. It's their freedom to love anyone they want. We are just the outsiders.

 

[kickapoo]

But since she asked this question out to the society and i think it's is fair with all our answers to reflect what the society thinks and how will ppls eventually look at this couple.

For me i think this is going to be real tough. And the age gap is really too too great he can be your father liao...

 

[cherrygirl]

i think usually old guys wont mind young girls rite?

 

[sgbabydoll]

Think it is quite hard to generalise.

 

[findingnemo]

Chocolates is only 22. Could it be just some infatuation? Just like how some young girls are infatuated with their older male teachers? I think if chocolates try to go out dates with guys her age, she will find that the infatuation phase with the 50-yr old uncle will pass.

 

[simpleman]

why would a young girl be infatuated with a 50 year old uncle?

 

[vallous]

perhaps they love the maturity. I have a gal friend who married at 24 married a 46 yrs old man. Though not 50 but way older. Her parents are practically only 2 yrs older than the hubby. But they live well.

I would say i cant explain why. Only reason i can think of is..he can give her everything cos he has the earning power already. House is there and so he can even marry her immediately practically.

 

[kessie83]

older man are more financially stable, and more fatherly to take good care of the younger wife, compare to a young chap.
Older men are more experienced and knowledgeable. Most young girls/women will be physically or mentally attracted to older men in some way or another. As long as he is not as naggy as a father, i think it is still possible!!!