Carol, sorry if u think that sharing my own experience is like adding salt in your wound.
I'm a fellow mummy from SMH as well. I think u really misunderstand the guys.
My own MIL do not help me to do confinement nor look after my gal. She's looking after my sil's gal instead and in her eyes, her 22yo son is still her baby, treating him like a baby preparing his toothbrush, clothes after bathing, walking a long distance home just to buy food for him when the kopitiam is just a street across.
I did not complain a single thing not because I m a saint and want everybody to like me. I have my down days too
It's all for my hb and I do not want to put him in difficulties. Family are for life, my dear.
Men do not like ppl to talk bad about his family and by doing this constantly will strain your marriage and your r/s with them too, my dear.
The guys are just trying to put it across that our parents are not obliged to look after our children as their responsibility ended with us. If they do look after and love our kids, it's a bonus. No expectation = no disappointment. Nobody is digging and making fun of you.
Move on and put the past behind you. What's over is over, right?
Everybody is hoping that you will put the past behind you as we cant turn back the clock.
Look forward and focus to reconcile with your MIL and build up good family ties with your in laws.
Time will heal everything, jiayou, ganbatte! Like what sm say, be sincere.
When I have my down days and felt that there's nobody to talk to, I turn to here. Sometimes, I do hope that the guys will "scold" me too and they most probably did..asking me to move on, stupid to think too much etc and I did move on and felt really happier. ^^