that is Your expectation of the MIL as a grandparent.
i'm not at that stage of life yet, but when i imagine myself in my 50s or 60s and have 15-20yrs to go... i asked myself how much time i'd like to invest in my grandchildren GIVEN that once i start, i would be Expected to avail myself like Everytime i'm needed... i think i'd rather not. but i will not cease the ones i've grown and bonded with, of cos.
yes diana it's sad... but from whose point of view are u looking at? u're looking at it as the parent of the little girl.
i'm looking at it as a grandparent whose DIL has given me sh!t and made me feel so darn unappreciated after i helped her thru the initial periods. i'm looking as a grandparent who was made to feel guilty abt looking after her own children, instead of grandchildren.
children IS our choice, and we look after them til they are 20 and beyond... grandchildren - is not our choice, and we're likely to die midway whilst looking after them. u decide how u wanna play it... i have my own views and take on this already, and i dun think when i'm 50-60 - i have to live to YOUR or My Children's expectations... not when they have displayed Ungratefulness and taken me for granted.
so until u fellas actually bother to FEEL, dun judge on basis of how innocent the granddaughter is, and how unfair things are.
Who the hell doesn't know the granddaughter is innocent?? hey, that boy without hands sitting outside the temple in bangkok is also innocent - u helping him? at most u give $100 and u dun ever have to think abt him ever again... u start with a grandchild - u are forever in it. everyday of your life til u DIE. so why start When u dun wish to?
so if MIL doesn't want to... why are u guys so intent on Reasoning why she should?
well, i just reasoned why she HAS A CHOICE.
When u are hurt, u are hurt. u have the right not to want to get hurt again.
what is fair? and to who?
if we wanna talk abt being fair, we NEED to be fair on All angles, not just 1 angle.
dun talk abt being fair when u're Out of the picture, there is No consistency whatsoever... just look at jenny and BP... do u think they came into this thread saying "i'm gonna be Fair"? they can't even get their lives on track, and all they do is pinpoint my use of profanity, and fail to look beyond. trying to garner frens Using my profanities as a Platform to bond with other forummers.
they're not even here for the TS, to be blatantly honest. it's so lame i dun even know where to begin...