talk is well, just talk .. frankly speaking, my first pregnancy threw me and the husband off-guards because we weren't planning to start a family so soon after our ROM. i mean, we knew that we certainly wanted children but how do we even know whether we'll do a good job, be good parents? i constantly freaked out about this, as some first-time mommies do,and it certainly didn't help as the delivery date drew near. the first few days when she arrived home, i actually wondered if i made a mistake .. the constant crying, waking up in the middle of the night, anticipating her every needs, etc .. but slowly i grew into my role as a mother. with no. 2, i wondered if we could give her the same kind of love that no. 1 has been getting .. these kind of thoughts can really play with one's mind. so you see, talking about having children and really having them are two different things .. children can throw you off-track but it's up to you whether you can recover or not .. i know of some people who can't, and their kids are shuffled back and forth between grandparents, carers. honestly i don't think that these people are ready for children in their lives. they might say that they're ready, but in reality, they are not.
