When is it a good time to have children

[alcifertoh]

If cost and personal living comfort and livestyle is added in, having a child would definitely be a pushing factor. How cost is being added up depends on what you wanna provide for the child.

A lot of parents calculated based on the steep formulae. Everything the best and of course with the best comes the highest pricing. I will be a father that feels that neighbourhood school is good enough for my kids than queuing up to put them in "branded schools". My priority on upbringing would be for my child to be healthy and happy in growing up, being able to pursue for what he/she likes to do in life with my role of guiding him/her the correct set of moral values.

Of course a minimal amount for neccesity expenditures has to be set aside. What's most important would be the healthy grooming of the child in the right environment. Which I emphasis strongly.

we set for ourselves 2 years after marriage to enjoy the privacy of time and marriage life together. Thereafter, we will try for a child.

Most importantly, must know why do we want a child and must be prepared of the sacrifies that we are to put in. I gonna say that it will exceed what that we might expect but I also believe that whenever we see the smile on the child's face, it's worth it.

 

[miloice]

The way we talk about expenses of raising a kid is quite contradictory to how singaporeans change cars every now and then. But, we tend to be more willing to spend on a car then raising a kid.

Yes, raising a kid is an expensive commitment. But most of us spend our money indulging in many other ways. These are no any cheaper actually.

 

[alcifertoh]

That's the sacrifices that one is willing to make lor. The personal time, expenses and lifestyle to adjusted to. All these has to factor into consideration.

I ever watched a B grade hong kong movie which ended off with a beautiful line. It goes something like this.

"As parents, the day when our kids are born, we unknowingly gave our hearts entirely to them."

 

[jinnous]

Hi HBH,

I like the last part. The knowledge that you have a part in making that beautiful baby would have you willingly make sacrifices for him/her.

 

[jinnous]

Need some info....what do u do or say if that pesky clerk in her 40s with 2 kids in primary schools sitting beside your cubicle kept asking you, "why aren't you pregnant? or you pregnant already ah? or when you plan to get pregnant?"???

There's this clerk sitting beside me and she will ask me those questions every week I tell you...I dunno y got this kind of ppl exist..... And if I said, "we got family plans", she will start saying, "you not young already, why dun wan to give birth?" blah blah....

Really getting on my nerves. Told my hubby I didn't want to shoot her back cuz I'm working with her and I dun want things to become awkward. But this is like argh!!!

 

[may_be_divorced_soon]

Jinnous,

I really can't stand this kind of pple. There are lotsa such pple like this in my co too. Last time whenever they ask me such questions, i will just tell them "Too much stress and too tired out after work, u gonna help me with my work so that i can reduce my stress level and work on getting pregnant?" After awhile, they stopped asking liao...kekeke...

 

[jinnous]

Maybe I shd try your way....prob is I worked in a governement office. And I tell you, it sucks!!! I came from the private sector and I really can't stand it! No wonder those working in the government always kena complained! Cuz of their work attitude! Dun shoot me yet! I changed to this office cuz I wanted to build up my health and start a family. I was always so stress in my last job.

But have been working here for close to 2 years and I'm getting no where. Not to mention my boss is a walking time bomb.

Like even when we were planning to get our dog, it was like the whole world asking, "what about your bb?!" Come on lor, its not as if I get a dog, then suddenly have bb liao rite. *Dryly*

Worst, few months back got this new grad. I just knew her for 2 days and we went out for lunch and she said, "can I ask you a sensitive question? Why haven't you given birth har?"

Its like wah biang lor.

 

[may_be_divorced_soon]

Jinnous,

I dun think you should be too bothered by what your colleagues are saying. It is your life and how you want to lead your life is none of their biz. There are lotsa such kpo pple in this world. When you are single, they will ask you when are you getting married. When you are married, they will ask you when are you having baby. When you have 1 child, they will ask you when are you having the 2nd, 3rd one. When your children have grown up, they will ask you when are your children getting married. The cycle just goes on and on...

As for the fresh grad, you may want to follow my method and tell her that it is gonna be a win win situation for both of u. She gets to learn more while you get to work on the IMPORTANT task which everyone is anxious about...kekeke...