To All Women

sweet_40

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Have been reading past threads n I think we women should seriously help ourselves.

Married women spent most of their time looking after hubby, children, house, maid, parent n in laws, etc.... We forgot to look after ourselves.

Most men r lucky, when children r sick they dun worry coz they know the wife will take care of children.

When wife takes good care of children n neglect hubby then hubby said gap between them widening n excuse to say found new gf n fall in love with her n no more feelings for wife. Of course now wife is yellow face n gf is colourful face.

We women should not let this things happen. We shd stay taking care of ourselves as well. We allow ourselves a off day once a week (now maid also must one week one day off) n get our hubby to stay in n look after children.

We can learn cooking, hi tea, drinking, facial, dancing, singing, etc...,

We must not let our face turn yellow n body out of shape, our world cannot just evolve round our children only. We must also pay attention to ourselves n hubby so Must try to go dating once a while with hubby so dun have gap for 3rd party to enter.

So to all women out there (single, married or separated) we must change to help ourselves.
 


hi sweet 40,

I think times have changed. I don't feel women these days do the above like you've mentioned. Women I know these days do take good care of themselves. I work, travel, go for massages, dine at fancy restaurants with hubby or colleagues, take turns to whip up a good meal with my hubby, go gym, go ktv...okay...maybe I don't have a kid yet. But even with a kid, I doubt this personality of mine will ever change 360 degrees to just do things for kids, family, house etc. The part about face turning yellow and body out of shape - frankly, even if body doesn't turn out of shape, all human beings will still age. The key message is for women to love and pamper themselves and not be paying attention solely on hubby, kids or chores. And doing these is not because we must 'prevent' 3rd party - sounds funny. Doing these is important because of love - to love self and others.
 
Some men will still cheat no matter how good we are. Whether they left us because of another woman or due to unforeseen accidents. To Take good care of ourselves is best policy.
 
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Sure or not! If the man had a change of heart, do u girls think tat he will wake up n patch back?

Men like to feel young n having a younger wife will boast his ego. Tat is why some men marry more than 2x so wie is forever in her twenties.
 
crazy9, not all men are the same. Not all women are the same too. So, why not?

Not all men are so cheap or shameless to want a younger wife to boost his ego.
 
It'tumor true that they always fell in love with a younger pretty TOW, I had seen cases which TOW is an uglier, fatter, older lady but this man still choose to leave his family for her. I feel that it's like there is this X cheating substance in some men's blood. They will cheat even wirh good sex with wife, and no matter how good, how pretty their wives are.
When yr husband cheat, im sure its due to one reason, one flaw that u have but No one is perfect, no wife can maintain young and beautiful figure like in their twenties.
End of the day, just live yr life as per normal. There isn't a need to really do this and that to prevent this and that. What for? Life is short!
 
This is what I've been always telling my friends, do not "slack" after marriage.

Many times they cite kids, family as excuses and rather spend the time to laze at home.

How hard is it to spend some time per week to exercise, catchup with friends etc?

It doesn't kill to let the hb to babysit the children for a few hours once a week.

With all the pampering and refusing to let their hb to do anything, they start to complain the hb doesn't help in anything n start to find fault in here and there.

However I think that I m very lucky that I still have a bunch of childhood "jie meis". Despite that we are all married and with kids, we will still find time for each other, family gatherings, gals chillout session, good food hunting and big group clubbing nite with our hb. It's after that each session that made us feel so refreshed.
 
'...When yr husband cheat, im sure its due to one reason, one flaw that u have...'

You still don't understand men.

It's really interesting to read about women's assumptions or assertions of men. LOL!
 
Ironically u didn quite get what I'm trying to say. What to do? I should know that you don't understand woman that's why yr love married someone else. Sigh...
 
The correct phase should be:

But you still don't understand men who believes in fairytales even if his beloved marries someone else...
 
haha....sweet 40...you are right. I think women should go out and work. Be up-to-date and modern then ur hubby wont find you boring and yellow face...
 
LOL~

Chocolatte, you are entertaining tonight.

Too bad you are not a man.

You are just a woman who insist to assume. I am just a man who don't really care about women (and men).
 
I'm glad that u find me entertaining. æˆ‘çˆ±äººç»“å©šäº†æ–°å¨˜ä¸æ˜¯æˆ‘ï¼è€Œä¸”還被å¦å¤–個女人害的以為有性病。我æžåº¦åŒæƒ…ï¼
 
In a marriage, everyone needs to put in effort to maintain a relationship. No one is perfect but if one knows his/her own flaw, won't it be good for themselves and others if they make an effort to make a change for better.

Most women tend to be contented and take things for granted, they stop taking care of themselves and their partner and focus their attention to elsewhere (children, house, work, etc). If we don't bother abt ourselves and our partners and yet expect them to still love us as much, dun u think there is something wrong with this.

I believe if women are still as sweet and caring to their hubby and yet are presentable (no need to be young and pretty but growing old gracefully) I believe hubby will appreciate it and he in turn will make effort to maintain the marriage.

I know many men's complain that their wife no longer pay attention to them and their affections and communications are failing. It is easier for a 3rd party to step in and destroy everything. Men don't want their wife to be a very good mother to their children, a good cook, a good housekeeper, etc.... They only want us to love them, too. They are also like kids wanting our attention. So we must try to strike a balance.

Women must change for better and if in the event our hubby still stray at least we had tried our best to save the marriage. We may conclude that he is not the One.
 
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scope, u only knows u have small nuts. what else u know. U don't know what u love, no one love u and worse of all, u can even enjoy marry life. So shut up!!!!
 
Marriage life is boring if you want to see it boring. but in the end you will never know what good thing it will bring.

my marriage cycle just for 1 year only. now i am single for almost 8 years. now i compare, i think, marriage is better. at least you have someone or something beside you all the time.

just my thought.
 
Soisuka,

I am kind of Regret in some point, at the same time, I am so thankful because my home now is very quite and neat. LOL.

It is a choice that i make. it is because i have to do many things to please a person. I am tired of it.

I counter many women after my marriage end, later i found that all women basically the same. so just fling around with no expectations. I think i am happier this way.

however, my ages has been knocking my door. but i made my choice.

Scope Guy,

haha...very interesting you put it that way.
 

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