Hi Chipmunk
I'm sorry to hear about your disappointment with your first meet-up. My wedding was almost a year ago and when I first met up with them in Dec 02, we were bowled over by their service and efficiency. In fact, my phone conversation with them was the most pleasing as compared to the other hotels.
I do agree that the sales person makes a lot of difference to whether a customer decides to make his/her buy. In the end, we often make our purchases with our hearts.
I don't know if it is possible for you to request for a change of coordinator, or perhaps have a chat with her/or her boss to explain your position.
Our experience at the Fullerton was an all-rounded fulfilling one with top rated service from the sales manager, the concierge, the banquet captain to the reception. Post-dinner as well. To put it descriptively, they treat you like the king and queen while you're there.
Anyhows, whatever it is, you shouldn't feel guilty about asking them for a little more. Afterall, you're not about to pay them peanuts