Should I Fight it out in court ???

[sadly_confused]

Got a question.

Found out my wife was having affair with her boss ( with evidence ), now divorcing her, after all that she had done, I still offer her $50,000 after the divorce and when she return to China. Throughout the 5 years, she gave me a son, but never took care of him, I paid for the house and everything, she never do housework and occasionally contribute $300/mth, ( sometimes not giving and only started contributing last 3 years ).

6 months ago, she signed agreement to accept the amount and transfer the house to me & son name, give me sole custody of son. Now final judgement come and last stage to sign the transfer of house, she demaned $200,000 or threaten to get my son return to China with her forever.

Anybody can tell me if real court case, Do I have case to fight ?
She says I heartless, evil and alot more ......
Am I being bad to her, fair ???

 

[powder]

she fcuk with her boss, and now trying to fcuk u for money... and your question is whether u are bad to her and fair to her?

and she say u heartless and u're affected by it?

are u under hypnosis or are u dumb? cos u better be under hypnosis to be convinced by what she says and wants....

and u are here asking mortal folks abt whether u have a case, when u should be consulting a lawyer... Given that u have 50k to give her or 200k for her to ask from u, wouldn't u think it is wiser to actually ask a Lawyer who is familiar with such cases?

whilst i pity the son, i'm wondering if he is better off learning how to be street smart like his mum, or dumb like u.

i dun know how to tell u politely that u're not thinking right...

 

[happiness1]

Daniel.

1st, no need to be sad, you are at the stage that is no way to get this marriage back, you wont want to get it back either as it is Obvioius that money is what she is after, the trust is broken(you will not trust this woman anymore). PRC woman (you should watch more on PRC drama before stepping into marrige with her learn more about PRC woman, those drama really reflect how true it is the trend of society in china about how woman after wealth, to what extend morally that woman would do just to get rich). No need to care what she said about you being bad, evil etc....

Follow whatever sign 6 months ago, look for lawyer and get it over with. Learn to live alone, hang out with families adn friend if you want, slowly you will be back on track.

Be strong, this is more important...your family would want to see you on your feet strong and sturdy again...

 

[hotrod21]

Daniel,

Still both of you had already signed the agreement to transfer the house and giving you the custody of your son by giving her the amount. I sure all this arrangement of the agreement is done by lawyer. Why not get the lawyer back to fight the case.

Think it will be better to seek advice from the lawyer that do the agreement to fight. Your chance is much higher to win. Since you had evidence of her affair that even better.

So dont just cry and behave like a boy, seek the right person for advice.

 

[leibit]

Is it so difficult to get a lawyer and ask your lawyer for the appropriate/best opinion for your case? Use your 50k wisely. It's not about money, it's about your son's future you should be more concerned about. If you want to cry and be consoled, just wail out your feelings online. But we can't confirm and chop stamp for you about whether u have a case to fight. Sometimes, things are complicated, and not all of what we heard/encountered are similar to yours. Buck up, when things happen in this way, it might be a wake-up call for your own life. Have you been too complacent and allowed to be treated like a doormat? When she said you heartless and evil, do you think of yourself like that similarly? And even if you are, are u comfortable w being heartless and evil to her?

For me, I couldn't care much about accusations. Be it the truth or just moments of unjustified reasons, it's your life that you want of yourself, not based on other people's notion of you. So what if you are evil and heartless? Does it change the fact that she fcuked another beside you?

 

[sadly_confused]

The facts are :

I have correspondence emails between her and the guy detailing the affair and confession from her to the company. 

We signed documents, she agreed to receiving $50,000 and give me sole custody of my son.

Now she refused to sign transfer paper of ownership of the house and demand alot more. I already have to borrow the sum from family and may have to take years to repay.

I can initiate a court case, but actually don't want to make it ugly. And this will take up more resources and affect the child, it actually don't need to come to this stage. If continue and proceed, then it's a lost - lost case. 

How to make her understand and back off??

 

[cococherry]

Has she given you the sole custody?

It already very ugly that yr wife is cheating behind your back so don't see why you can't fight it if there's chances of winning esp with evidence that she committed adultery.

What makes you think she will back off? its to her advantages that she can get money after divorce and pass her burden to you, marry another man w/o care & concerns.

 

[infojunkie]

"How to make her understand and back off??"

this is precisely why ppl like ur soon-to-be ex wife love to bully u... 因为你è€å…„好欺负嘛，ä¸æ¬ºç™½ä¸æ¬ºï¼

她拿孩å­æ¥ä½œè¦æŒŸï¼Œå› ä¸ºé‚£æ˜¯ä½ çš„弱点。

那她的弱点是什么？

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你就怎么没有好好地去利用啊？

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stop acting like a crybaby hoping for her to back off. it's time to fight back! adopt the right attitude and of cos, talk to the lawyer for a backup plan.

 

[ajumma]

Fight it out.

 

[san20sg]

daniel, junkie is right.

 

[eddie77]

Daniel, I think Junkie is right.
She knows one of your weaknesses is the child. You want the child.

Why not you put it the other way, tell her that since she wants the child, she can have it and you won't give her any money. Coming on, in China, if a divorce woman has a child, it is even more difficult for her to marry another man. And I think she knows that too.
Not sure if it will work. Just a thought.