hi erica!
i used to face the same problem as you do now!! i like a carefree resort style wedding instead of the formal hotel style thus from the start, i already knew i wanted to do it at Rasa...
I almost gave up the idea bcos my BF says most of his elder relatives will find it troublesome to travel into this "small island".
However, later when we found out Rasa provides free coaches at the doorstep(to and fro), my BF was more relieved and thus go along with my "dream".
I did ask myself whether i am being difficult to ask my guests to travel so far to attend my wedding.. The answers I have tell me that it is honestly not that troublesome afterall...
1) for those who dun drive, it is likely they will take cab there. nowadays who will still dress up nicely and take train or bus to wedding?
2) i will place coaches(3 or 4) at all the relatives houses to fetch them(east/west/central). each coach take up 45 paxs max, thus for we are talking abt 130pax.
3) those who drive, great. they can drive in free. there is a map on the invitation card to tell u how to go in. if they think it is troublesome to find the place.... think abt going to hotels like Shangrila or Regent or copthorne waterfront in town, isnt it jus as difficult to travel there as well? train dun stop at the door step(i'm sure they dun take buses). So, whats to difficult abt Rasa? hey, dun forget abt the weekend traffic jam in town!!
4) hello, it is MY WEDDING...and we'll talking abt once in a lifetime event... for those who really cares for us, I don't think they will mind taking a little more effort to travel to our wedding. For those who still find it troublesome, I am really ok if they choose not to come. hey, we're in singapore, how far and long can the travelling be?
5) think of this as a special venue for your guest to experience... i hope my guests will enjoy the scenic view and a carefree wedding.. it'll be different from those that they attended a hundred times.
important thing is when u tell your parents abt the place, you need to emphasize that there will be coaches to go and fetch them and bring them back to their doorstep or a train station nearby.
P/S: must put the coach at the doorstep of the more senior relatives, this will make them feel good. Those younger relatives and friends can go to the coach whichever is nearer to them lor..
if not, there are also coaches at the hotel that will bring the guests to harbourfront MRT station. Tell your dad and mum that Rasa is the only resort style wedding in singapore.. If they have not visited the place for a long time, let them know the transport system there is "very advanced" liao...hehe..
Tell your BF you'll do a good job in arranging transport... u can get your friends to help coordinating this on the AD...
old people think it is far cos they have never been there.....it is actually not very far right??? from Jurong to Orchard, not far meh???? so whats the difference now that it is Jurong to sentosa???
good luck to you gal........ it will sure take some time for the elders to accept our "crazy idea", be calm and steady abt it ya!!
i hope you'll get your proposal through!!