Recommendation of marriage counselor

[Snapple10]

My wife have decided to divorce with me after years of mental abuse and threats. It only duant me that I have push her to the limit when she has totally stop crying. She has totally no feeling for even I when I broke down (first time she see me behave like that) to beg for forgiveness. She has totally given up on me.

I'm very desperate to save our marriage. Is there any good marriage counselor that try at the very least to save our marriages. I want to learn to win her heart back again at all cost.


Marcus

 

[Noobee]

Hi Marcus

I don't know of marriage counsellor but write to encourage you. It will not be a easy route but keep trying.

Jia you!

 

[gladjo]

Snapple10

Take her comment seriously though it hurts your ego ... its easy to win a woman's heart but not the other way round.

Paying counselors is one way but still all.the work n initative hv to be done by you still.

Suggest you try to re-examine n talk respectfully to your wife. Nobody talks to a shouting man, ..its madness. Listen to her objectively n dun throw defeness if you truly want this marriage to her. If you think she's wrong, let time show her, just be by her side n stand by her when the shower falls. There's no need to pull your voice n punches to prove your point. Nobody can take that. I personally call it abuse.

 

[Snapple10]

Hi gladjo,

Yes I have been abusing her for a long long time, it's indefensible, no excuse whatsoever. Now she has given up on me, no one to blame but myself.
She is still on talking terms with me. Just that her heart is cold, no feeling whatso ever for me. I just want to see if there is any gimer of hope for me to hold on to! Anyone has any similar stories to share?

 

[gladjo]

That's a good sign ..that she's still talking with u. U hv to re build your marriage from ground zero ..no quick fit mister but is good u realise now b4 its it ends up in family court. If you hv initiative ...use it otherwise Dr google. Utlimately its still you have to work hard o this marriage.

 

[Roxie88]

Hi Marcus,

From a woman's point of view, your wife must be really hurt and disappointed in you to be cold in her heart. Recognise that and assure her that you admit your mistakes in the mental abuse.. If you are sincere in salvaging the marriage, prove with your actions. Move her with your sincerity and of course control your anger, do not lash out at her no matter how frustrated you feel. There are other ways to redirect your bottled up emotions and frustrations. May i suggest going for a short getaway, use the time to have a giid talk, tell her you wish to make amends and hope she will make the effort as well to give your marriage another chance.
All the best! Its not easy to meet and fall in love, remind her of the initial sweet romance that you all once had, try to rekindle that.