Problem with father in law

[Korilakkuma]

Hello All,

Recently, I have some argument with father in law. today, I go kuan yin bugis and draw a lot. Kuan yin given me lots 98

I tried to read and it seems the relationship doesn't work. My husband listen to his parents a lot. He had decided to end this relationship. We just married for 2 months. I have telling him, I won;t sign for annulment marriage.

Can someone please advice if I don't sign annulment, how is the case going on ?
I had tell him marriage is not game. No one is perfect, it's just that I am hot temper that's why he want divorce with me ?? My temper was not so hot compare to his dad. I got ask him, if my temper hotter than your dad, how u going to handle?

Can someone share if u have take lot 98 before ?

I don't wish this relationship to be ended like that. I don't know what's the source of problem too. Try to ask why he decided to end and he told me, he can't take it my temper since dating.

 

[StephF]

Can I ask, how long had you date him before marriage?

 

[Korilakkuma]

We are dating for 1 year 27 days before signed ROM.

 

[StephF]

How was your r/s with your husband like during the dating stage? If all has been good so far I doubt he would want to break up with you based purely on the lot.

 

[meimei1601]

Korilakkuma,

your husband sounds like mine, its an excuses not a reason he is giving. I did have the same issue as u, my ex hubby always listen to his family, and when they treated me badly and I told him, he said I am the one who is hving problem, he dont believe his family would do that.

Before marriage, he will say sweet things, give empty promises... I have also told him how my character is and he said he can handle it. My parents and my elder bro, told him the same thing.. He give them his word that he can take it... and will take care of me.

My temper is not bad. I always talk to him about my unhappiness when he did something mean to me... like telling me "relationship is a business", " I have to control my sex drive", " stop lying to myself on dieting" and tarnishing my image infront of his family, makes me goes to his family dinner when I am hving a fever, and only concentrate on his business and work and not paying any attention and involvement on the wedding preparation, and alot more....

Me too, didnt want to end the relationship like this...We are human, we have feelings, We been thru so many happiness moment together... But he bring out all the past unhappiness.. whatever I have done before was all forgotten... He can only remember the bad things I have done, things we have already kiss and makeup. I also try asking him for the real reason for making this harsh decision, all he can say is.. he predict our future will not be happy. For an unknown future.. I was sentence to death.

I am sorry to say this, your husband and mine are the same kind (I wonder was it the same person) SELFISH, CHILDISH AND BRAINLESS... they dont know anything about love, they only want to be happy and cannot be bother about others people feelings. As long as they are not happy, they want to be out of it, instead of solving it.

You can chose not to sign the annulment paper. But.. he can sign a separation paper on his own and 3yrs later... U 2 will be divorce in regard whether u like it or not. 3 yrs separation is good enuf to divorce U. And this make u a divorcee. However, if u sign the annulment paper... let him get his lawyer... give whatever bloody reason on u not willing to consummate with him, and 4-6mths later... U will be single again. The marriage will be void. And in the eye of law, its as good as u 2 have not been married at all.

I can understand how u feel. I have been thru this... We married for 3mths, my bastard hubby annul our marriage. And Oct 19 shd be my wedding.. And now.. it will be my ending of marriage. However... If he can give such lame excuses now, he can use this anytime.... Sometime, god make things happen for a reason, they make u meet this person to train u into a better person... and u will meet someone who is just for u... Its just not him. I dont think he loves u....

Although he dont know how to love a person, but I do.. I loved him, if he find it happier without me... I will let him all.... afterall, loving a person is not able holding and owning the person, but to let him be happy. But what matters the most at the end. I am happy...thinking I am ending my suffering pretty soon..... ( court hearing done at his end.... waiting for final decision from court). I just hope everything goes and end asap....

Best of luck....

 

[Korilakkuma]

Hello Meimei,

Need ur advice. Do i need to meet his lawyer? What's the procedure ? Do i need to get my own lawyer?

 

[meimei1601]

Hi Korilakkuma,

Replied on ur email already.

To say this to let everyone knows... If he wants the annulment, he shd engage the lawyer and pay for it. Its painful to see the "untruthful statement" he draft. But it doesnt matter, he already hurt the worst of us.. So whatever he can get us out of the misery and pain.. I will be all mean accept it. I dont need to share a single cent for the lawyer which I pay and speak worst of me. If he wants... U pay all and engage the lawyer to get the worst out of him and see how he feels.

Getting ur own lawyer means u have the need to fight for ur protection/rights/claims. if not dont waste money.

Procedures:

1. He engage the lawyer
2. Lawyer draft the letter
3. Lawyer/lawyer assistant call u when draft done
4. U go to lawyer office to meet the assistant, read the draft
5. Sign to agree
6. get the copy as stated they gave u
7. Read all claims if he did make any... if u dont agree dont sign
8. Any ridiculous claiming from him U need to engage a lawyer to fight for it
9. If nothing to fight for.. sign the paper, get ur doc and go home
10. near a month later, U will received court hearing letter that CC u, that he will need to go for hearing.. make vows and swear to all his lies (U need not be there, unless u 2 are fighting for any claims)
11. waiting for final decision from court (4-6mths)
    
12. celebrate leaving misery and welcome to SINGLE hood and a new life.

Its simple procedures for annulment when no baby/house or money involve.

For me.. Since he is the irresponsible childish chap who treat marriage as game, he should bare all costs. Sharing is not acceptable. My ex pay for everything. I didnt engage lawyer to get my share back becos I dont find the need. And I dont want anything from him. And he agree he pay for ALL (banquet cancellation fee/ forfeited deposit to photographer, bridal, instant print etc/ and all other matters) becos he is the one who ask for it.