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pink_bottle

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Hi all,

Need some advices..

My mum & dad had been married for 30 years, and was divorced last yr.. he was actually not staying wif us, yet gave us lots of trouble…
In 2008, he had no place to stay, thus he come hm. I actually was ok wif it as I feel that he’s old & very ke lian wif no place to stay.
But he went crazy, keep say wan to beat mi to death, n dun let mi go hm..
My mum finally divorced him due to he dun let mi go hm..

But even when divorced, he still want to give us trouble..
He will get $18k after my mum sell the flat which I tink its very unfair as he had not made a single contribution to the flat..
Now I wan to get the valuator to go up to valuate the hse but he dun let..
He say he will make a mess of the flat..
And if there’s any buyer to go up view the flat, he will tell them it’s a loanshark flat..
He juz dun wan to let us sell the flat..

Now he say he wan to sell the flat himself, n he even went to find an agent to sell our hse..
I tink he’s trying to slow down the process as he had no place to go.

But I want to speed up the process & get it over wif as I now cant go hm, had to stay wif my bf…

So wish to check, izzit possible for mi to go find a lawyer again, to request him to move out of the flat asap so that I can move back, n we will be doin the selling of flat, and if possible, reduce the amt that we need to give him.

Thanks.. ur reply will be much appreciated..
 


is he a gambler?

i dun have much to advise, but these are very IMPORTANT points...

- dun ever let him appoint agent nor have authority to sell the house.

- i dun think slowing the process is his main reason... this type of characters will always have shady frens they try to 'help', when they are not in a position to help. it's a face-thingie, and his agent is definitely a Fren. and the fren will promise him a further cut.

- i classify your dad as the typical good-for-nothing character portrayed in tv-serials. the type who will create trouble from episode 1 to 40. so dun ever give in... NEVER, and dun ever go soft. there will be no sense of appreciation... they can eat u, they WILL eat u.

- i was told that certain types of characters... if u have $100 for them to cheat, they will cheat u of $120. pls note these are characters u stay away from in your life... and Never disclose any information to them. they are capable of kidnapping your children n threatening your life even if they are your Blood-relations. the Values/Morals they hold - is warped and centres only around their own existence n gratification.

- appoint an agent to sell the place via the best means avail to u. then once u dun need to have contact with him, u and Mum find a new life and disappear from him. Never Never visit the same places u used to visit. be prepared to only see him next - when he is dead.

- if 18k of the proceeds will go to him by law, pls dun bother feeling unfair, unjust, blah blah blah... dun let emotions becoms your obstacle. just Cut n start anew.
 
powder,
u are so right in analysing him.. this time round i will not give in to him anymore. i will seek a lawyer advise on what can i do to stop him from selling the flat.. any contacts for lawyer?

littlewoman,
ya, he is the joint owner of the flat..
 
try to see how the proceeds will be distributed from the sale. after that, u have to hide from him liao... have a feeling he'll come to wherever u stay, to stay again...
 
"...he had not made a single contribution to the flat.. "

how do you know about it ? you mum told you or your dad himself ?

if your mom told you about it, your dad need to know about this story. just to confirm. if not you will never know behind the truth. you know, everyone have their own story sometimes they just don't tell.

oh ya, and did you ask your mom what is the reason divorce ? and your dad story ? is it true ? you know everybody always think they are right never wrong. you better know what is the behind all your dad and mom behaviour before your do anything to add the fire.
 
coz he's nv there for us..
he nv even give any household expenses to my mum..
he only bring trouble to us..
borrow money fr loansharks, our doors are being splashed wif paint for countless of times, n my mum had to help him pay for the loan..

what finally push my mum to divorce as he had threathen to beat mi, and dun let mi go hm..
i had stay outside for nearly a year...
initially i rented a room for few mths before moving to stay wif my bf..

he initially request for $30k from the proceeds of the flat? dun u tink its very unreasonable? he nv made any contribution yet he wan the money.

my mum in the end agreed to give him 18k as she feel that he's nt working, and need the money to see doc.

he then ask my mum to go sell the flat..
but now, he dun even let mi go near the flat..
whenever i go back to visit my mum, he will always make trouble, n i will always haf to call the police..

i really had enough of this le, and i also worried for my mum being alone in the flat wif that crazy guy..

so i really hope to sell off the flat asap, n if possible, get him to move out of the flat 1st.
 
coz there's once he scold mi and i tok back to him, then he start to scold vulgars to mi, say that i'm a whore, threaten to beat mi to death..

maybe coz no one dare to tok back to him, and plus when he threaten to beat mi, i call the police..

and since young he already dun like mi as i'm girl not boy..
 
if i apply PO, and move back home, can the PO keep him from goin back home?

and do i need a lawyer to apply PO? or it can be done jus by goin to the police?
 
go to family court to apply for one. take all the police report with you in case they ask for it. You cannot keep him away from home but he cannot hit you. If you start hitting you or even scold you with vulgars you can report him once again and he will be jail.
 
All the best to you.
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