Master David Tong's Advice Corner (Geomancy and Fengshui)

Hi Starrynite,

30th Dec 09 is not listed in the Tong Shu as a good date for marraige (if you are after only a general good day). Neither is it a general bad day for wedding. More like a neutral day. But all these are very general only. If the date is not compatible with both your Bazi, it is still deemed as inauspicious, regardless of what the Tong shu says.

So to answer your qn, i can't tell specifically if it is a good day unless the Bazi for both of you is checked. In terms of general good day, it is NOT. If you can choose, there are other better days to use than this.

For 20/1/2010, it clash to Rat. So long as none of you are Rat, it is ok. It is a 'general' good date for wedding, better than the 30th Dec 09 date.
 


Hi twinklestar8012,

Clashes to Tiger means that on that day, when the groom goes to fetch the bride, all the friends, relatives etc of the bride who are born in yr of Tiger will have to "hide". they cannot confront the groom when he comes. After the groom steps in, then they can come out.

When the bride returns to the groom's house, the same rule applies. All the Tiger will have to hide, and after the bride steps in, then they can come out.

Some people even practice down to the extent that the person driving the bridal car, the little boy that opens the bridal car door for the groom and all the "Xiong Di" and "Jie Mei" cannot be Tiger.

But you can take photo with people that are Tiger, not to worry.

Hope this helps
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Thanks Master,

Is 20/11/2010 or 21/11/2010,which one is a good date for marriage?

We will be having ROM and dinner on the same day.

Groom:25/09/1982,Dog
Dad:Chicken
Mum:Dog

Bride:19/07/1983,Pig
Dad:Dragon
Mum:Goat

Kindly advise,thanks a million!
 
Hi David,

There is some changes in my ROM date, previously i was enquiring about June but now Sep. Some say 21 Sep 2009 is aupicious some say not. Appreciate if you could advice about 21 Sep 2009.

Also, what If the date i want is inauspicious/neutral, are there anything we can do to neuralise it? Some suggested like wear some gold coins for the bride & groom.

Groom: Horse
Bride: Horse
Bride parents: Mum (ox) Dad (snake)
Groom parents: Mum (rabbit) Dad (ox)

Thank you very much.
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Hi David,

I have a few questions to ask you..

1)We are planning to have our customary wedding either in 2011(Rabbit) or 2012(Dragon)? Which is better year for us? Heard that dog clashes with dragon, does it incl the year too?

Groom: Goat
Dad & Mum: Ox

Bride: Dog
Dad: Snake

2) Usually when will the Tong Shu out for the next year? Understand that the earliest booking of hotel venue is 2 years in adv & the good dates alway grab fast. I hope to book at the easliest I can in 2011/2012.

Thanks!!!
 
Hi David,

Is 29/05/2010 a good date for wedding? My future husband and I are both Rats. Our wedding will take place in Australia.

Thanks!
Leah
 
Hi Master Tong,

Could you help advise whether 11th July 2010 is a good day for our wedding?

Groom: 21/11/80: Monkey
Groom's father: Rooster
Groom's mother: Tiger

Bride: 7/4/82, Dog
Bride's father: Tiger
Bride's mother: Snake

Thanks!
 
Hi Master Tong,
Thanks alot!
Actually my bf's bro just gotten married in Mar'09 and we are getting married in Jan'10. The date selected is the best date based on our Ba Zi.But i have heard alot of people saying 2 brothers cannot get married in the same year, while some say can but 4 months or 3 months apart. am a little confused. is there any way to lessen the effect of cong xi ?

Thanks!
 
Hi Felicia,

21/11/2010 will be better. It does not clash to any one of you. It clash to Snake. However, since the Tong Shu is not out yet, I will not know if this is a general tong shu auspicious date. The only way to determine it is via using Bazi to determine if this particular date is auspicious specifically for both of you.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Candy,

21 Sep 2009 is a general Tong Shu auspicious date. It does not clash to any of you (will clash to Boar). If you are only after a general auspicious date, you can use this date.

If a date is inauspicious, it is still inauspicious no matter what you wear to "cure" it. You cannot "cure" the inauspiciousness of a day. Date selection is a form of Chinese Astrology. Astrology refers to the position of the stars and planets in the solar system. Wearing something cannot change or alter the position of these stars or planets!

Hope this clarifies your doubts
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Hi Jae,

2011 will be better coz you are right, Dog and Dragon clash. So it is better you don't get married in dragon yr coz it will clash.

Tong Shu will be out for 2010 between july to august period. Yes you are right that 2010 dates get booked very fast. In fact, most of my clients now are selecting dates for 2010 and 2011 !!! So it is better to start booking now before the Tong shu is out. Once it is out, hotels get booked very fast coz most people will be using the Tong Shu to select general auspicious dates.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi ksjy,

11th July 2010 does not clash to any of you.

However, since the Tong Shu is not out yet, I will not know if this is a general tong shu auspicious date. The only way to determine it is via using Bazi to determine if this particular date is auspicious specifically for both of you.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi twinklestar8012,

Yes, according to Chinese belief, siblings cannot get married in the same year. Ideally it should be 12 months apart. However, most people cannot wait that long, so some cheat by holding it in different lunar yrs or calendar yrs.

You cannot lessen the effects of the cong xi. What you can do is to "cheat" a bit like what i menioned above. Since your bro's wedding is Mar 09 and your's is Jan 2010, it is effectively in 2 different calendar yrs.

This is a Chinese belief or superstition (not Chinese Metaphysics), so there is no way to measure if this is really true. If you are not comfortable with it, and if you can still change your dates, then select a later date for your wedding
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Hope this helps.
 
Hi David,

Can I said that using our Bazi to get an auspicious date is better & more accurate than referring to Tong Shu? Or have to double check the date again when Tong Shu is out?

And is it too early to calculate our auspicious dates for 2011?

Many Thanks!!!!
 
Hi David,

Thank you so much for your information & knowledge.
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However, my brother is born in the year of pig, 21 Sep 2009 (doesnt clash with parents, me & groom) but clashes with my brother. Does it matter? Anything to "make him safe"?

Thanks again!
 
Hi Master Tong

Pleaze advise me on ROM dated on 24/07/2009

Groom:24/9/1980(Monkey)
Father: Snake
Mother:~ Left us 2 yrs ago ~

Bride:24/07/1983(Boar)
Father: Horse
Mother: Ox

I check this date on the websites,there is 'Chong' for OX- which is my mum.

Thanks a million!
 
Hi Master Tong :

What about 11 Nov 2010 ? We plan to ROM on 11 Nov 2009 . Is it a gd date as well ?

Groom : Monkey
Father : Rabbit

Bride : Pig
Father : rabbit
 
Hi Master Tong,

This is Leah. I got the year of my fiance's parents and mine. Here they are:

Groom: Rat
Groom's father: Rat(deceased)
Groom's mother: Rabbit

Bride: Rat
Bride's father: Monkey(deceased)
Bride's mother: horse

Our wedding date is 29 May 2010. It has to be on a Saturday, even if this date is not suitable, as his friends are flying over from other states in Australia.

Can you advise if this date is suitable?

Thanks
Leah
 
Hi Leah Leong,

This day clashes to Rooster, which is none of you.

Whether if it is suitable or not will have to depends on both your Bazi.

If you are looking for only general Tong Shu auspicious dates, the tong shu will only be out sometimes in July/Aug period, hence i will not be able to provide you here now.

However, this day don't clash and is not a definite no no day.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Yuki_21,

For 11 Nov 2010, this day don't clash to any of you.

For 11 Nov 2009, this is NOT a general tong Shu auspicious date for wedding. Why not you try 18/11/09? It is a general auspicious date and don't clash.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Candy,

For wedding purpose, we only take care the day don't clash to both of you and your parents. Siblings or grandparents doesn't matter. If you take everyone into account, you don't need to get married already coz there will be no dates left
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What you can do is that during the fetch the bride time, those born in year of the pigs will have to "hide" in the bedroom or kitchen first. ie, they cannot "confront" or "play games" with the groom. After the groom steps in, then they can come out.

Hope this helps.
 
Hi Jae,

Yes you are absolutely correct. The Tong Shu is for mass consumption only. If you do some research, you will realise that publication of the Tong Shu from different countries or publishers will say different and often contradicting things. A date stated good in one publication may be stated as bad in another publication! So, which to follow?

The Tong Shu gives very general auspicious dates only. It cannot be that when a particular date is good for marriage, the whole world, everyone, is good for marriage on this day. Everyday, the same date can be good for some people but bad for the rest.

How to determine this? The bazi, which is your birthday and time of birth, has to be taken into account. Only by matching the Bazi to the date selected can we ensure that this particular date selected is good specifically for both of you, and no one else.

This is a totally independent system from the Tong Shu. You don't to match it with the Tong Shu and you are not suppose to. Dates in the Tong Shu, such as for start of renovation, moving in etc, start of business etc are NOT accurate if you just picked from it for your whatever purpose.

Take the date for start of renovation as an example. Every week in the Tong shu, there will be dates that are good for renovation. But in actual fact, you have to take the feng shui of the house into consideration. Some houses are not allowed to renovate for the whole year or it will activate the negative Qi in the house and brings bad feng shui. A special date according to the feng shui of the house and birth data of all occupants of the house has to be taken into consideration.

As you can see, date selection is a complicated thingy and demands professional knowledge in Chinese Metaphysics. To be frank, the Tong Shu method of selecting dates can be learned easily and i always show all my clients how to read a date from the Tong Shu! After which, you can buy one from Popular bookstore and it costs only about $5 a book
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FYI, you don't have to be very good in Chinese to read a Tong Shu (all you need to know is where and how to find the information in a Tong Shu).

It is not too early for 2011 dates. I have many clients that are choosing for 2011 dates now
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I hope this clarifies your doubts
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Master Tong,
Thanks for ur reply.

just to double confirm the date,
the bad date u referring to is 24 July or 25 July?

My ROM date was fixed @ 25 July 2009
 
Hi Sandy,

I am referring to 25th July 09. First,it will clash to Ox, which is your mum. Secondly, this is what we call a "sui po" day, which is a day that clash with the year. Such days are usually bad for any important activities.
 
Hi David,

Thank you very much for the detail explanation. We have a much clearer picture of wat is it all about now.

Visited your website, you are offering Eternity & Bazi wedding packages, may I know how much is the charges per package?

And do you do yearly fortune reading too?If yes, hw much do you charge too?

My email is here: [email protected] if you think is more appropriate to reply thru email.

Thanks!!!
 
master tong,

actually we are getting married in less than 2 months time. the dates are chosen by my hubby himself by checking the calender. he did not consult any master so i feel quite uneasy.

can i check with you here on our chosen dates:

ROM: 01/06/09
AD: 03/06/09

Groom DOB: 27 Jan 1976 (not sure consider dragon or rabbit)
Father: Ox
Mother: Rabbit

Bride DOB: 11 Feb 1976 (dragon)
Father: Ox
Mother: Horse

kindly advise is our dates OK?

also, is it really bad (chong xi) if my FH and I attend my best friend's wedding banquet on 26 Apr 09 (before ours, less than 2 months apart)?

what about if we are banquet guests that is getting married soon (after ours) or is pregnant? Do we tell them not to come??

Thanks for your time and help!
 
oops sorry for the continuous posts because i am rather stressed out. since our wedding is less than 2 months time, its probably too late to consult you now for your professional service on bazi compatibility?? if still ok, can you email to [email protected] for your rates pls? thanks!

initially, we wanted a later date like sept'09 for our wedding but because of my future mom-in-law's condition and she expressed her wish to see us married much sooner (since there is a higher possibility that she might not hold out till sept etc). my FH is also a very filial son so its his greatest wish that his mom can witness his wedding hence we rushed for our wedding plans in june instead.

given the tight time constraints, appreciate if you can give your valuable advice to this.

rgds, angel
 
Hi Master Tong,
Oh dear, we actually checked websites and it stated it is suitable for wedding =(

We try to avoid 24 July 2009 because is my bbday and we worry that will clash since is my bbday and ROM.

Will it be good that we choose 24 July 2009 instead?

Thanks again..
 
Hi Master David Tong,

Can you advise me if 12 Nov 2010 is good for ROM / AD?

1) Bride
Birthday: 30 Apr 1981
Animal Sign: Rooster
Dad's Animal sign: Horse
Mum's Animal sign: Monkey

2) Bridegroom
Birthday: 19 Sep 1981
Animal Sign: Rooster
Dad's Animal sign: Rabbit
Mum's Animal sign: Horse
 
thanks master david, i managed to get the following details. Appreciate if you may advise me.

Bride BD: 8 August 1985
Animal Sign: Cow
Dad Animal Sign: Cow
Mum Animal Sign: Rabbit

Bridegroom BD: 4th Oct 1984
Animal Sign: Rat
Dad animal sign: Monkey
Mum animal sign: Rat

Is the following dates good for us?

07 11 2010
20 11 2011

Or is there any recommended weekends for the dinner (with tea ceremony etc on the same day)for us either 2010 end or 2011?

Thanks once again!
 
Hi Master David Tong,

Can you recommend some weekends for wedding & ROM w tea ceremony on the same day between May 2010 to August 2010?

Bride BD: 8 Feb 1982
animal sign: Dog
Dad animal sign: Horse
Mom animal sign: Dog

Groom BD: 27 Oct 1978
animal sign: Horse
Dad animal sign: dragon
Mom animal sign: dragon

Thanks!
 
Hi Angel,

Both dates do not clash to anyone, so you are lucky
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In general terms, both are ok dates and 3rd June is a general Tong Shu auspicious date for wedding.

If the wedding is less than 2 month's apart, then you should not go. Normally, 3 mths before and after your own wedding, you should not attend other people's wedding, funral, wakes and child birth. There is no need to inform your banquet guest not to come to your wedding. Normally in this case, it is the person who goes to your wedding that will clash, not both of you.

I understand your tight time constraints regarding your wedding. I guess this is life and you should be proud of your hubby being a filial son
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For the Bazi consultation part, I will sent you an email in just a while.

Hope this helps.
 
HI Sandy,

24th July is not a general good day for wedding as well. But if you compare these 2 dates, then 24th is still better than 25th..though there are much more better ones you can choose instead of these 2...
 
Hi w3ngal,

07 11 2010 - This date clash with Rabbit, which is yout mum, so not advisable to use.

20 11 2011 - This date does not clash to anyone of you. Better than the previous date.

As much as i want to help you in the area of general good dates, the Tong Shu is not out yet, so i will not know or be able to select general Tong Shu auspicious date for wedding for 2010 yet. Right now, the only way and also the right and accurate way of doing it will be using Bazi to select dates. FYI, a date reflected auspicious in the Tong Shu may still be bad for both of you if the date chosen is not compatible wtih both your Bazi.

As for Bazi wedding dates selection, it is part of my consultation service to my clients, hence i can't provide it here free in the forum or it will be unfair to my clients who paid for my service. Hope you understand.

If you have any particular date in mind, just post it here. I can advise you if it is a bad day as there are some days that are definitely bad and cannot be used for marriage; and some days that will clash to either of you or your parents, so cannot be used as well.
 
Hi Felicia,

As much as i want to help you in the area of general good dates, the Tong Shu is not out yet, so i will not know or be able to select general Tong Shu auspicious date for wedding for 2010 yet. Right now, the only way and also the right and accurate way of doing it will be using Bazi to select dates. FYI, a date reflected auspicious in the Tong Shu may still be bad for both of you if the date chosen is not compatible wtih both your Bazi.

As for Bazi wedding dates selection, it is part of my consultation service to my clients, hence i can't provide it here free in the forum or it will be unfair to my clients who paid for my service. Hope you understand.

If you have any particular date in mind, just post it here. I can advise you if it is a bad day as there are some days that are definitely bad and cannot be used for marriage; and some days that will clash to either of you or your parents, so cannot be used as well.
 
hi master tong, thanks for your prompt reply!
"If the wedding is less than 2 month's apart, then you should not go. Normally, 3 mths before and after your own wedding, you should not attend other people's wedding, funeral, wakes and child birth."

just a quick question regarding the above. so we cant attend my best friend's wedding banquet.
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what about her ROM? is it ok if we just pay her a quick visit at her hotel room on her wedding day itself during the afternoon (way before the banquet start)? we just wish to give her our blessings and ang pao, take some photos for keepsake, if we cannot be there during the banquet. actually right after her wedding, she will be moving to another country. so kindly advise if this is ok?
thank you very much!
 
Hi Angel,

Frankly, I will still advise you not to. Coz ROM is the offical day 2 person become husband and wife. So it is still consider a marriage day. However, this is not part of Chinese Metaphysics. It is more of a Chinese belief. So there is no way to "measure" how bad or good it is if you are to do it. Don't forget that there are many other races in this part of the world that doesn't practice this and nothing happen to them
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If you really wish to do it, so long as both sides are comfortable, then go ahead
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hi master tong, thanks for the super quick reply!

what about the visiting my best friend at her hotel room portion - give her blessings/ang pao/take photos?? if this is ok, then i dont feel so bad/sad skipping her ROM and AD. do advise.

if this is not ok as well, then i will have to let her know and hopefully she will understand as she isnt the traditional type and she is also marrying an "ang moh".

do you mean to say i shd not see her at all during this period?? because she has also invited me to her hen's night which is 2 days before her AD.

thank you once again.
 
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