Hi Andy
That is a very bad date for wedding/ROM.
Some general good dates are:
- 04/11, 24/11, 01/12, 18/12, 06/01, 15/01, 26/01, 30/01
Hope this helps.
Note that both your bazi are not taken into consideration yet. A good date in the tong shu can still turn out to be inauspicious if the date and your bazi are not compatible.