Chick>> Oops.. sorry i missed ur question on the bangles
Here u go:
1. Yes, we can't remove the BGs once the aunties or “Sumangalis†have put on for you at the BG ceremony.. So u need to make sure that the BGs are matched before the ceremony..
2. i had a "bridesmaid" which is my hubby's sister to help arrange the BGs for the aunties to put on for me such that at the end of it, the BG are exactly the set that u have matched..
3. These will be worn throughout till the temple wedding day and continues till the 3rd day of the marriage..
Eg: BG ceremony 1 May (u put on at nite)
Temple Wedding 3 May
Thaali chain changing 5 May (time to remove the bangles)
4. That is why u need to have someone to take care of you after the BG ceremony. Remember the ceremony is to meant to be a beautification ritual..
U cannot do any excessive washing and stuff.. I think I told that to Kayla… like no touching broom and pots and pans... cannot cut your hand and stuff.. will create bad luck for the marriage… so be careful..
Just sit back and Be a “Tai-Tai†for 5 days.
5. Either ur Mum or sister should stay at home to help u out.. if they can’t cope then maybe need to get a part-time maid to help with the cleaning.. also, wash ur hair will be tough with the bangles and u can’t break the glass BG.. i cheat a little.. all metals and gold ones.. only 2-3 are glass... For me, I actually have a “male servant†which is my hubby’s cousin brother.. It was so fun helping me fetch things here and there, doing chores for me.. hehehe
6. Of cos.. this also means that u are sort of being “Imprisoned†at home..
only actual wedding day, the aunties will come and fetch u with the wedding car.. Meanwhile, once after the wedding day, u need to stay at ur new house/ our ur In-laws place (if u are staying with them) till the 3rd day, they will string ur Thaali with a chain to replace the thread.. BG then can be taken out. For this period of time, again u cannot step out of the house with the BG. Bad omen to do that.
7.
No, u cannot remove them after the ceremony and put on other bangles u have bought specially to match ur engagement saree or change to the set u have matched for the wedding saree... (if this is what u intent to ask)...And u cannot add on more BGs after the BG ceremony.. I'm not sure if other pple have "cheat" along the way, some may have remove them behind closed doors and rematch the BGs after the ceremony but before the wedding...
8. Btw, during the BG ceremony, u need to wear odd number of BGs… think ur mum should know that.. so when u match the set of BGs , 1 hand can be in even number, 1 hand in odd numbers.. so u will end up in odd numbers in total. These includes all the gold bangles given together to wear with the glass and metal bangles. Eg: 21 BGs on left and 22 BGs on right.. I worn 42 on left and 43 on right.. I look like “ultramanâ€â€¦
9. Again, when the aunties / Sumangalis are presented with the BGs to be worn on you… remind the bridesmaid to give each of them odd numbers but still in matching set.. eg: 1 for the left hand but 2 on the right hand…
10. Before the aunties/ Sumangalis “queue†up to wear the bangles on you, please remember to get ur mum to count the number of aunties in queue.. such that there is enuf for every one. I have abt 19 aunties putting for me.
...
11. Do measure how much far/deep u can wear ur bangles for ur arm.. this will help u gauage how many bangles u can match for each hand... Also try the bangles before you buy.. in case both hands need diff sizes cos the right knuckles are usually bigger than the left.. (if u are right-handed).. This is to prevent u from cutting ur skin when the aunties wear them for u..
12. I bought 1 size bigger for the right so that i can wear it more comfortably... All the aunties had trembled hands when they had a hard time putting the bangles on for me.. i wonder they are afraid that they will cut my skin or they will break the bangles?
(thinking that they are all glass made)...
13. of course make sure u have the vaseline cream/ or moisturizing hand cream next to u when putting on the BGs.. uuhh.. remember to wax ur arms before if u are on the hairy side.. hehehhe
14. btw.. i cheat again..
, ok.. it's more of my trick lah.. i bought 1 size bigger for my right arms right.. but i also put a few big ones for my left too.. cos my wrist is thin but my arms is more meaty...so that i can wear as deep as possible and i could put more bangles.. abt 15cm of BGs i wear for each arms...
15. 1st few of the BGs must be metal cos it will be worn deep into the arms but not too deep cos u will leave the marks.. glass ones can hide inbetw.. but when comes to the wrist portion.. leave abt 2 cm room betw the bangle and ur wrist...u still need to move on hands and fingers.. too tight, u will cut ur skin near the area and also problem with blood circulations...
16. Last thing to take note when buying the bangles.. whatever u buy, ur bangles MUST always match the color of ur wedding sarees.. U can add some other colors bangles to match here and there for the suite u are wearing for the BG ceremony as well as the engagement saree that u wear to the temple. But 85-90% it has to be the same color theme with ur wedding saree.. I had a big headache matching my bangles
cos I had wear too many different saree colors.. BG I wear a orange/red lengha, engagement saree was green/orange, then wedding saree was Kungumam color… So the BG had more red/pink than the orange/green.. I added more gold ones to pull off for the BG and engagement saree so It does not look out of place.
So one more advice.. please don’t wear Full cool color sarees (the blues/green) for BG ceremony and engagement if ur wedding saree is more towards warm color (the reds/pinks/oranges)