icycoldmaiden,
if there's one thing i've learnt ealry in life, is that it's unfair... But later in Life, i learnt that it is even more unfair to those born in countries where they just wait to die, countries where they have no education nor opportunities... then i realise that Fairness is something we always look at from our own point of view only, and seldom from a more worldly view...
u were not born with aids, u were not born to starvation, u were not born with a limb less nor were u deprived of fingers to type, voice to speak nor a healthy mind to think... as far as God is concerned, i think He has favoured u liao...
now back to your problems... it's mostly psychological, and partially parental. if u would simply stand up for yourself, gain respect for your decisions, u would have solved half the problems.
let me tell u something abt pressure... pple who see u and ask u when u're getting married, having children etc... these pple are not close to u at all, so i dun know why u're even bothered to feel compelled to answer their questions. Let's be honest, pple who are close to us will not ask such questions becos they're kept updated of our situations. it's only those who see us yearly or hardly bother to know us... who have nothing better to say except asking such questions to show some form of interest in our life.
now there's 2 things u can do. forgive and continue, or leave n forget. dun spend too long telling everyone around u abt the spilt milk... sooner or later everyone will know the milk is spilled, but that doesn't help anything does it?
i think u just nee some time to compose yourself and come to terms with things... so give yourself some time...
if there's one thing i've learnt ealry in life, is that it's unfair... But later in Life, i learnt that it is even more unfair to those born in countries where they just wait to die, countries where they have no education nor opportunities... then i realise that Fairness is something we always look at from our own point of view only, and seldom from a more worldly view...
u were not born with aids, u were not born to starvation, u were not born with a limb less nor were u deprived of fingers to type, voice to speak nor a healthy mind to think... as far as God is concerned, i think He has favoured u liao...
now back to your problems... it's mostly psychological, and partially parental. if u would simply stand up for yourself, gain respect for your decisions, u would have solved half the problems.
let me tell u something abt pressure... pple who see u and ask u when u're getting married, having children etc... these pple are not close to u at all, so i dun know why u're even bothered to feel compelled to answer their questions. Let's be honest, pple who are close to us will not ask such questions becos they're kept updated of our situations. it's only those who see us yearly or hardly bother to know us... who have nothing better to say except asking such questions to show some form of interest in our life.
now there's 2 things u can do. forgive and continue, or leave n forget. dun spend too long telling everyone around u abt the spilt milk... sooner or later everyone will know the milk is spilled, but that doesn't help anything does it?
i think u just nee some time to compose yourself and come to terms with things... so give yourself some time...