Getting my life back

[Here we go again]

Well.

Truth is.

I am a female in my thirties & unfortunately have turned single 2 days back.
I admit it is the toughest part for me at this moment. I lost confidence and hope. And I am really trying to recover to get on with life & I know I need to distract myself.
But I realised most of my friends are already married and I really don't wish to join em or bother them to be out with me.

Anyone having the similar plight as me... Or is there anyone who would wanna do some activities together?

 

[arsenal_84]

been single for a long time, never really bother to try to date any ladies.

tbh, i think is fine to be single, i get to go anywhere without the need to report strength or reply "what am i doing at the moment".
most importantly, better plan my budget monthly for expenses.

so is all about perspective, if you can get used to the mindset of being single, is not so bad afraid all.
occasionally i will meet up with a close friend once a while and he bring his wife along for dinner, though i feels like i'm kinda like a light bulb but i just shrug off the feeling.

 

[arsenal_84]

so is all about perspective, if you can get used to the mindset of being single, is not so bad after all.

revised for spelling mistake in the sentence above.

personal activities can try pets museum like cat museum or cat cafe or get some cat therapy at cats safari.

https://www.facebook.com/catssafari/

https://www.facebook.com/thecatmuseumsg/

 

[buddhabar]

The first thing that came to my mind,
You two should should have coffee someday.
Kill time together.... you never know what you will get in life.. lol

 

[Here we go again]

Hahaha thats trying too hard to get something outta nothing

 

[ing1]

Well, always good to know more people.

 

[meiji5]

Maybe try to get into some exercising. I did that and managed to lose quite a lot of weight and subsequently started to go out on dates. I think I exercised like 6 days a week only for 30mins. Other times just try to catch up with friends, go out for coffee, lunch or dinner. On weekends sometimes I went to the library just to read up on my books that I threw aside (Didn't want to spend money on aircon at home so went to public libraries. LOL). After some time, I got used to doing things alone and felt quite liberated. I also did some solo trips.

 

[SingleGal]

I am single too. Never had a relationship before. It was not easy having lots of people around me who are married with kids and me being one of the rare singles in my social circles. However being single also have its advantages. You have the freedom and flexibility of time and have the time to help others. If I could, I definetely want to be happily married with kids. However I am not complaining about being single too.

Being single might not be ideal, but don't fret too much or let it drag you down. Since life goes on and wait for no one, choose to live happily no matter what your relationship status is right now.

 

[SGoutcast]

Congratulations on being single. Not sure if its rude to congratulate one for turning single but I am sincere, because this only means that you are away from the negativity and torment. Because it is still very raw, just cry if you need to. I'm sorry I'm not in SG otherwise I can cry with you... and if you think you need counselling, don't hesitate to go for it. Any help at this stage is good and important. If you need sometime to talk to, I'm all ears. Take care

 

[Here we go again]

Thanks ladies (or guys) for the advises.

Its been a few months & honestly i dont think i have completely gotten over it, the trauma is there to stay i suppose. I guess thats the price of being with someone who is emotionally detached or for that matter, doesnt even like u that much.

Tho i am getting my life back, a part of me is still "missing". Its really tough but i will pull thru. And for those who are facing similar situation as me, Bite on! Life is beautiful.

 

[miloice]

Maybe try to get into some exercising. I did that and managed to lose quite a lot of weight and subsequently started to go out on dates. I think I exercised like 6 days a week only for 30mins. Other times just try to catch up with friends, go out for coffee, lunch or dinner. On weekends sometimes I went to the library just to read up on my books that I threw aside (Didn't want to spend money on aircon at home so went to public libraries. LOL). After some time, I got used to doing things alone and felt quite liberated. I also did some solo trips.

consistency and intensity of workouts far more important than duration. If you are able to train hard and intense enough, 30 mins is more than sufficient. Keep it up and congrats on your leaner you !!!!

 

[GreatScotch]

consistency and intensity of workouts far more important than duration. If you are able to train hard and intense enough, 30 mins is more than sufficient. Keep it up and congrats on your leaner you !!!!

No... determination is the most important. haha

 

[miloice]

No... determination is the most important. haha

you can be very determined in doing the wrong exercise for your body type, it is not going to be very effective. Having the right knowledge and the discipline to see through the workouts in the best possible intensity and nutrition will guarantee results.

I have a friend that was struggling with her weight, she runs very often and even taking part in marathons. Her normal meals are not nutritious, carb based and she binge. I introduced HIIT training to her, initially by inviting her to join my sessions. After sometime, she continued to do them regularly on her own. Now, she has significantly trim down and really happy with it. She no longer do her runs, and agrees with me, it takes way lesser time training intensively than slow steady cardio.

 

[kathyooi]

Maybe try to get into some exercising. I did that and managed to lose quite a lot of weight and subsequently started to go out on dates. I think I exercised like 6 days a week only for 30mins. Other times just try to catch up with friends, go out for coffee, lunch or dinner. On weekends sometimes I went to the library just to read up on my books that I threw aside (Didn't want to spend money on aircon at home so went to public libraries. LOL). After some time, I got used to doing things alone and felt quite liberated. I also did some solo trips.

HI where you go for my exercise.