Hi peeps, this is my very 1st post in this forum. Feeling kinda vexed recently and would like to share my story and seek for advice.
I'm a 30 year old SG female. I have a boyfriend of the same age from Malaysia. We were close friends for about 3 years before we became official in March last year. We have applied for Bidadari BTO in Nov'15 and is now waiting for the ballot results to be released.
My boyfriend is a great guy in my opinion. Except the fact that he is heavily burdened by his financial commitments in Malaysia. He earns a good salary in SG (about $5k) but he hardly has any savings. He told me yesterday about his bank balance (less than 4k) and it has always been at this range. Never increased. I was disappointed of course. Since we have already applied for BTO, shouldn't he start to save up for proposal ring, wedding, renovation) to be taken place in a few years time? Upon knowing his pathetic bank balance, I asked him, are you saving up money for our future? Do you have any plans for our future? He said not at this moment. My heart literally sank to the bottom of the sea. I've got a feeling that he will only be ready by 35. I'm not sure by then, will I be having some difficulties in giving birth.
And he also mentioned that he definitely wouldn't be holding a banquet in SG as it is too expensive. He only plans to have a ROM and that's it. No celebration or anything. He can't afford it. Is he being selfish here? It's like he made this statement without even consulting me. I agree with him for not holding a banquet as I also find it a waste of time n money. I only wish to have a small wedding party with my relatives and friends. I told him if he doesn't want to pay, I will instead. And I think he isn't happy. He said if given a choice, he rather pay for BTO renovation instead of spending on a wedding. Looks like I have to fork out everything for my wedding. Is he sincere about me really? Feeling vexed.
I'm a 30 year old SG female. I have a boyfriend of the same age from Malaysia. We were close friends for about 3 years before we became official in March last year. We have applied for Bidadari BTO in Nov'15 and is now waiting for the ballot results to be released.
My boyfriend is a great guy in my opinion. Except the fact that he is heavily burdened by his financial commitments in Malaysia. He earns a good salary in SG (about $5k) but he hardly has any savings. He told me yesterday about his bank balance (less than 4k) and it has always been at this range. Never increased. I was disappointed of course. Since we have already applied for BTO, shouldn't he start to save up for proposal ring, wedding, renovation) to be taken place in a few years time? Upon knowing his pathetic bank balance, I asked him, are you saving up money for our future? Do you have any plans for our future? He said not at this moment. My heart literally sank to the bottom of the sea. I've got a feeling that he will only be ready by 35. I'm not sure by then, will I be having some difficulties in giving birth.
And he also mentioned that he definitely wouldn't be holding a banquet in SG as it is too expensive. He only plans to have a ROM and that's it. No celebration or anything. He can't afford it. Is he being selfish here? It's like he made this statement without even consulting me. I agree with him for not holding a banquet as I also find it a waste of time n money. I only wish to have a small wedding party with my relatives and friends. I told him if he doesn't want to pay, I will instead. And I think he isn't happy. He said if given a choice, he rather pay for BTO renovation instead of spending on a wedding. Looks like I have to fork out everything for my wedding. Is he sincere about me really? Feeling vexed.