Moonriver999
Member
Hi peep,
Just want to share my story and wonder anyone in the same boat as me. I am already in my mid-30 and working for many years. But the problem i am facing is i have a controlling mother , although i won"t deny the fact that she is a nice person who care about the family.
I am the only daughter staying with parents as my other sibling is overseas. But even till now, she kept all my bank passbook,atm cards and credit cards with her for safe keeping and she mention is for my own good. I am left with a atm card and cc for my usage. However, she track all my usage on my cc and also frequently update the passbook to see if there is any transaction. All the while she only keep and did not withdraw out unless those from our joint account if she need to for her expenses. Some of the cards she holding also have my individual account. In addition, she kept my passport too since birth till now i think. I try to bring up this subject about i have grown up and return to me to keep but she always become agitated and say i am not filial to take back hese items.
But i am not someone who anyhow spend but she always say i will give to my bf or get cheated etc or anyhow use.. i can"t seem to talk reason on this issue with her as she just want to keep all my important items to herself.
I really don"t know how to communicate with her on this issue anymore as we will always quarrel and she saying i am unreasonable and have wings to fly "s why i want to take back my things. Although she mention that she will give me back when i get married but i don"t think she will as is just an excuse..
Anyone in this same situation as me or i m the one facing it? Feeling vexed..
Just want to share my story and wonder anyone in the same boat as me. I am already in my mid-30 and working for many years. But the problem i am facing is i have a controlling mother , although i won"t deny the fact that she is a nice person who care about the family.
I am the only daughter staying with parents as my other sibling is overseas. But even till now, she kept all my bank passbook,atm cards and credit cards with her for safe keeping and she mention is for my own good. I am left with a atm card and cc for my usage. However, she track all my usage on my cc and also frequently update the passbook to see if there is any transaction. All the while she only keep and did not withdraw out unless those from our joint account if she need to for her expenses. Some of the cards she holding also have my individual account. In addition, she kept my passport too since birth till now i think. I try to bring up this subject about i have grown up and return to me to keep but she always become agitated and say i am not filial to take back hese items.
But i am not someone who anyhow spend but she always say i will give to my bf or get cheated etc or anyhow use.. i can"t seem to talk reason on this issue with her as she just want to keep all my important items to herself.
I really don"t know how to communicate with her on this issue anymore as we will always quarrel and she saying i am unreasonable and have wings to fly "s why i want to take back my things. Although she mention that she will give me back when i get married but i don"t think she will as is just an excuse..
Anyone in this same situation as me or i m the one facing it? Feeling vexed..