bluewinter
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I was having severe depression when I decided to leave my ex-hb, my son was less than 1 year old then. Thus during our separation period, i left my son's custody in his care. However he begin to use my access to my son to make me to give up my rights to out flat (sales proceeds). By then I had recovered, got myside a stable job, so i apply for the custody of my son.
But before even the formal trial begins, he brought my son back to me. The custody of my son was eventually return to me formally w/o going through a trial. Ever since the day he brought my son back to me (august 2009), he did not visit him, not even once, not even a phone call. And when I tried to inform him at times about my son's going-on, he will say its none of his business.
Until December 2010, he suddenly contact me and ask us out. He then told me he wanted me to give this marriage another try. After keeping in contact with him for about 3 months, i realize its not possible reconcile with him. He ends the 'contact period' almost immediately in a very harsh tone saying I'm not even making any efforts?
Anw, during this 3 mths period, he only saw our son 2 or 3 times, and that was only when I agreed to go out with him, not an intended visit from him , to our son. After I make thing clear to him, we head for the divorce formally and i request him to visit our son regularly. He reject me in the face, and say he will not visit my boy and in the future if my son every call him, he will say 'wrong' number'! I was avid! And indeed, he marked his words, never once did he came to visit our son, and when I call him to inform him of some problems my son is facing in school, he say its none of his business!
Suddenly, last week he contact me again saying he wanted to bring my son out for cny reunion dinner with his family. I say i have no problem with it as long as my son is willing to follow him out. Then he began to make hell loads of noises and claim he will insist on bringing my son out regardless my son is willing or not because he is entitle to alt week access!
We had an argument on this. after i explained that because of his long absence from my son's life, he is as good as a stranger now, my ex-hb now makes the effort to come back every weekend. But now son still refuse to talk to him or even let my ex-hb bring him to the playground..
I also realized that I cannot be giving all my weekends to this man just because he now suddenly want to amend the ties he broke himself. So i told him, I can only do this much for you for 3 months, I m not doing it beyond my limits.
My concern and main worry now is, he obviously doesn't care about our son, he had MIA from our son's life not once but twice. When is he suddenly making the effort to amend the ties? I did ask him about this, and he say he does have a reason but he will not tell me. I am extremely troubled now.. I really don't know what to do.. I cannot stop him from seeing my son, regardless of moral or law.. But i want to protect my son.. I am also wondering if he is intending to 'fight' back for my son's custody?
Can anyone advice? I thought of going to a lawyer and get professional advice, like if he indeed try to apply for my son's custody, what will be the chances, and with him going on and off out of son's life, what can I do??
Dear all, please give me your advice on this or give me some recommendation on good & reliable lawyer..
But before even the formal trial begins, he brought my son back to me. The custody of my son was eventually return to me formally w/o going through a trial. Ever since the day he brought my son back to me (august 2009), he did not visit him, not even once, not even a phone call. And when I tried to inform him at times about my son's going-on, he will say its none of his business.
Until December 2010, he suddenly contact me and ask us out. He then told me he wanted me to give this marriage another try. After keeping in contact with him for about 3 months, i realize its not possible reconcile with him. He ends the 'contact period' almost immediately in a very harsh tone saying I'm not even making any efforts?
Anw, during this 3 mths period, he only saw our son 2 or 3 times, and that was only when I agreed to go out with him, not an intended visit from him , to our son. After I make thing clear to him, we head for the divorce formally and i request him to visit our son regularly. He reject me in the face, and say he will not visit my boy and in the future if my son every call him, he will say 'wrong' number'! I was avid! And indeed, he marked his words, never once did he came to visit our son, and when I call him to inform him of some problems my son is facing in school, he say its none of his business!
Suddenly, last week he contact me again saying he wanted to bring my son out for cny reunion dinner with his family. I say i have no problem with it as long as my son is willing to follow him out. Then he began to make hell loads of noises and claim he will insist on bringing my son out regardless my son is willing or not because he is entitle to alt week access!
We had an argument on this. after i explained that because of his long absence from my son's life, he is as good as a stranger now, my ex-hb now makes the effort to come back every weekend. But now son still refuse to talk to him or even let my ex-hb bring him to the playground..
I also realized that I cannot be giving all my weekends to this man just because he now suddenly want to amend the ties he broke himself. So i told him, I can only do this much for you for 3 months, I m not doing it beyond my limits.
My concern and main worry now is, he obviously doesn't care about our son, he had MIA from our son's life not once but twice. When is he suddenly making the effort to amend the ties? I did ask him about this, and he say he does have a reason but he will not tell me. I am extremely troubled now.. I really don't know what to do.. I cannot stop him from seeing my son, regardless of moral or law.. But i want to protect my son.. I am also wondering if he is intending to 'fight' back for my son's custody?
Can anyone advice? I thought of going to a lawyer and get professional advice, like if he indeed try to apply for my son's custody, what will be the chances, and with him going on and off out of son's life, what can I do??
Dear all, please give me your advice on this or give me some recommendation on good & reliable lawyer..
