Thanks helping, Does it mean that if one of us refuse to leave the house, it also call separation & take 4 years to divorce? Try to save the marriage but it's quite tiring since only one party to hard to save it, another party keep want to destroy it. He won't go to counselling one. He always think he knows everything and to stick to his opinion that nobody can change it.He doesn't care that you are preggy or not. Just think of his anger.In fact, all his excuse is just his assumption only. I always think that he's just under pressure,and give in to him.But he never appreciate it. Some more, my family has good reputation in society, so my parents quite upset if this divorce happen. If I think over for the sake of baby, he just said if I think it's hard for me, then go abort it, but it means divorce, not talk anymore .Although he try to disturb me emotionally, but he refuse to take resposibility if something happen with the baby.No talk, but divorce.Can say, I've to responsible for myself if something happen although he caused it. PPl change so fast.It's the communication break down as he refuse to listen to other.
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helping
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If I rem correctly, you can file for separation and still live in the same house if there are no other alternatives. You have to sign the deed of separation to take effect. Can back date too if both party agrees.
So actually for you, you want to divorce or you trying to save the marriage. How many mths are you now in your pregnancy? Have you decided to keep the baby even your hubby decided on divorcing? Well, if your family cant cant accept divorce cos of their social status, it will be worse if you are divorced with a kid. YOu have many more considersations.
So actually for you, you want to divorce or you trying to save the marriage. How many mths are you now in your pregnancy? Have you decided to keep the baby even your hubby decided on divorcing? Well, if your family cant cant accept divorce cos of their social status, it will be worse if you are divorced with a kid. YOu have many more considersations.
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anddrew k lim
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Hello everybody..
Would like to know how the separation deed works. Will me and my wife have to sign the documents in front of the solicitor? Witnessed by the solicitor? And how do I know that the documents, the paper that is, legal? How does it look like anyway?
Thanks for helping...
Would like to know how the separation deed works. Will me and my wife have to sign the documents in front of the solicitor? Witnessed by the solicitor? And how do I know that the documents, the paper that is, legal? How does it look like anyway?
Thanks for helping...
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dos
Guest
I found a sample deed of separation on the web. I suppose you can always adapt it and get a red seal (a small red sticker from the bookshop) and sign before your own witnesses. But a lawyer would be helpful to explain the terms to each party so that you know what you are agreeing to.
http://www.google.com.sg/search?q=cache:6OB9wmGXFgsJ:www.archilex.com.sg/SAMPLE%2520Deed%2520of%2520Separation.pdf+deed+of+separation&hl=en&ie=UTF-8
http://www.google.com.sg/search?q=cache:6OB9wmGXFgsJ:www.archilex.com.sg/SAMPLE%2520Deed%2520of%2520Separation.pdf+deed+of+separation&hl=en&ie=UTF-8
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dos
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You might also want to check out the wedsite at Minlaw. It has a good FAQ in deeds of separation.
http://app.minlaw.gov.sg/lab/faq.asp?cid=3
http://app.minlaw.gov.sg/lab/faq.asp?cid=3
hi sailor_p
can u please provide me with your lawyer's contact? I need an experienced one for an annulment case. Would appreciate if u could email
to: [email protected]
thnx
can u please provide me with your lawyer's contact? I need an experienced one for an annulment case. Would appreciate if u could email
to: [email protected]
thnx
hi sailor_p
I would like to have your lawyer's contact (for separation/divorce)as well. Really appreciate if you could email it to [email protected]
Thanks!
I would like to have your lawyer's contact (for separation/divorce)as well. Really appreciate if you could email it to [email protected]
Thanks!
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dos
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You can try the Law Society of Singapore website to find a list of practioners.
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james ah tan
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hi, if anyone who is suspicious of your spouses or are interested in child custody matter. Maybe i can help. Pls e-mail at [email protected]
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depressed <img src="http://www.singaporebrides.com
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Hi sailor_p,
I am seeking a lawyer to handle my divorce proceedings. Kindly please email me at [email protected]
I am seeking a lawyer to handle my divorce proceedings. Kindly please email me at [email protected]
i hope someone can help me. i was married in 1999, juz 9 mths after marriage my husband left me for another woman. i had a metal breakdown, commited suicide & was later admitted to a psychiatric ward. 2days after i was discharged, he prepared me a separation deed, in a daze i signed it. in the deed, i was made to agree to his $100 per mth of maintenance & also to deny of further maintenance after the divorce. 3yrs plus has past, i felt really helpless as the date of divorce is closing in, and i suffered another mental breakdown. can i claim for compensation for my mental illness and my flat has not matured so i can't sell it in the open market, and that will cause me monetary loses too, as i paid entirely for the renovation and furnishing (but he had destroyed all receipts). would i be able to claim for maintenance even when i had previously signed the separation deed already? this failed marriage nearly cost me my life and now, more money to settle a divorce which i don't deserve. i urge for a kind soul foe help.Pls email to me at: [email protected]
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wakaranai
Guest
Is there any restriction for the type of HDP flat you can purchase for a divorced?*already been decided that they wanna sell the current unit* I am a daughter of a soon to be divorcee and will be living with my mum. Meaning 2 occupants in total.*Heard rumors that we are only entitled to buy flat that's 4S or smaller.*
Pls pls pls reply via email. Thanks alot and look forward to any assistance available.
email is: [email protected]
Pls pls pls reply via email. Thanks alot and look forward to any assistance available.
email is: [email protected]
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metorstars
Guest
Hi, can anybody help me with some of the questions below:
i would like to divorce with my husband, but i do not know how to go about it, the procedure.. just incompatiable on my side.. though he agreed that..
and currently i have a hdb flat under both our names, and we would like to return it to the hdb,(cos it less than 5 yrs) but how do the hdb pay us in term of shares? or can it wait till the date when everything is settled? or can he take over the flat with somebody else and how do they go about giving me back my shares, cos i paid it entirely on my own, with my monthy contributions without his..
pls advise.. thanks.
i would like to divorce with my husband, but i do not know how to go about it, the procedure.. just incompatiable on my side.. though he agreed that..
and currently i have a hdb flat under both our names, and we would like to return it to the hdb,(cos it less than 5 yrs) but how do the hdb pay us in term of shares? or can it wait till the date when everything is settled? or can he take over the flat with somebody else and how do they go about giving me back my shares, cos i paid it entirely on my own, with my monthy contributions without his..
pls advise.. thanks.
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impartial
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Hi Wakaranai:
You may like to find out more on HDB website.
www.HDB.gov.sg search for "divorce"
Hi Metorstars,
As for ur flat, you may want to seek help from HDB. I do know that there are cases where divorce/annulled couples sell their flat to open mkt without waiting for the mature period. All these are accessed case by case.If you paid thru CPF , then no prob. If you have paid in cash, then maybe you would like to state the return in ur divorce papers. You need divorce papers to apply for the sale/return of HDB flat. The split of profit/returns will follows what is stated in the divorce papers.
http://www.familycourtofsingapore.gov.sg/principles/FAQ_marriage.htm#8
hope i helped in a way..
You may like to find out more on HDB website.
www.HDB.gov.sg search for "divorce"
Hi Metorstars,
As for ur flat, you may want to seek help from HDB. I do know that there are cases where divorce/annulled couples sell their flat to open mkt without waiting for the mature period. All these are accessed case by case.If you paid thru CPF , then no prob. If you have paid in cash, then maybe you would like to state the return in ur divorce papers. You need divorce papers to apply for the sale/return of HDB flat. The split of profit/returns will follows what is stated in the divorce papers.
http://www.familycourtofsingapore.gov.sg/principles/FAQ_marriage.htm#8
hope i helped in a way..
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delima
Guest
I am not sure if I wanted to get divorce. He did not mention whether he committed adultery. He is very remorseful and guilty of what he had done. He said he cannot face me and don't know how to live with me as he could not bear to hurt me again.
I am 29... I want to divorce my wife... i need a good lawyer to settle the case once and for all. I have enough of her.... I only want a divorce now. can someone provide me with a good contact of a lawyer. I need Help!!! So Please kindly help me.... I am very depressed....
email me : [email protected]
email me : [email protected]
hi sailor,
don't know any lawyer to handle my divorce case. checked with one online and she quoted 2.5K. Can you pls forward your lawyer's details to me ASAP.
my email:[email protected]
don't know any lawyer to handle my divorce case. checked with one online and she quoted 2.5K. Can you pls forward your lawyer's details to me ASAP.
my email:[email protected]
hi Sailor,
Can i have the contact of your lawyer too?
[email protected]
Thanks a million in advance.
Can i have the contact of your lawyer too?
[email protected]
Thanks a million in advance.
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bluzbluz
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Hi Sailor
May I know whether do i need a lawyer if i m the respondent?
Pls let me have the contact of your lawyer too.
[email protected]
May I know whether do i need a lawyer if i m the respondent?
Pls let me have the contact of your lawyer too.
[email protected]
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sheaz
Guest
I've been married for 3 years plus now and have decided to get divorced from my husband who mutually agreed to it. We have just simply drifted too much apart. I would like to know what's the procedure like since we've both agreed to it. Do we still need to go through the separation period? Are we allowed to not go through too much hassle and sign the papers and be divorced by this year end? What are the costs for these procedures?
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divorcee
Guest
hi Sheaz.. i hope i can help you on this.. i am going through the divorce now.. and i think it's almost similar case.
usually by mutually agreement, this is not sufficient reason for divorce. In singapore, to get a divorce, one of the criteria is to get a 3-year separation.
i think you did not gone through this.. me neither..
But since my husband agreed mutually to the divorce, I had requested my husband to tell the lawyer that we have been on separation for more than 3 years.. of course in actual fact.. it wasn't so..
but you must be very very confident that your husband will agree on this. otherwise, this will prove a big problem during court hearing if he suddenly go against the agreement.
anyway.. by going through the above, i have already got the divorce successfully.
usually by mutually agreement, this is not sufficient reason for divorce. In singapore, to get a divorce, one of the criteria is to get a 3-year separation.
i think you did not gone through this.. me neither..
But since my husband agreed mutually to the divorce, I had requested my husband to tell the lawyer that we have been on separation for more than 3 years.. of course in actual fact.. it wasn't so..
but you must be very very confident that your husband will agree on this. otherwise, this will prove a big problem during court hearing if he suddenly go against the agreement.
anyway.. by going through the above, i have already got the divorce successfully.
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alone_again
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Hi Sailor_P
I would apprecciate it if you could send the contact of your lawyer to [email protected]
Thank you very much.
I would apprecciate it if you could send the contact of your lawyer to [email protected]
Thank you very much.
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[email protected]
Guest
Hi Sailor_P
Would really appreciate if you could send the contact of your lawyer to [email protected]
Thanks a million
Would really appreciate if you could send the contact of your lawyer to [email protected]
Thanks a million
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very pain b4
Guest
I have the same problem as you Sheaz, I wanted to divorce my husband. Both agreed, but my husband did not agree to tell a lie.
At that time, I have checked with my lawyer and she said that everything will be simple and she will handles everything.
I can tell you, it's so difficult than what my lawyer had told me. We have to go a big round with 3 years seperation and then go through so many counselling (brainwash) 5th year than you are consider a 'divorcee' By the time, I am 32years and I think I will not easy to get a good man to get married and giving birth might be a big problem for me. And also alot of $$$$$ involved!
After some times, I dropped the case and both of us came on with our own agreement to stay away from each other for a year and take time to learnt and think through all the mistakes we have done...
We are now perfectly happily together and I should say even better than before. Even both family are happier than before!
It's easier to say anything than done. If it is not adultry involved, try to consider to work out your marriage yourself.
At that time, I have checked with my lawyer and she said that everything will be simple and she will handles everything.
I can tell you, it's so difficult than what my lawyer had told me. We have to go a big round with 3 years seperation and then go through so many counselling (brainwash) 5th year than you are consider a 'divorcee' By the time, I am 32years and I think I will not easy to get a good man to get married and giving birth might be a big problem for me. And also alot of $$$$$ involved!
After some times, I dropped the case and both of us came on with our own agreement to stay away from each other for a year and take time to learnt and think through all the mistakes we have done...
We are now perfectly happily together and I should say even better than before. Even both family are happier than before!
It's easier to say anything than done. If it is not adultry involved, try to consider to work out your marriage yourself.
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pls advise
Guest
Hope someone could advise and help me:
I am divorcing my husband, but he disagreed...
1) do I still need to pay half the renovation loan from the bank with both our name?
2) will I get 50% back for the house through my CPF?
3) will I need to pay for all legal documents?
4) my salary is higher than him, do I have the higher chance to have custody for my child, 6yr old?
I am divorcing my husband, but he disagreed...
1) do I still need to pay half the renovation loan from the bank with both our name?
2) will I get 50% back for the house through my CPF?
3) will I need to pay for all legal documents?
4) my salary is higher than him, do I have the higher chance to have custody for my child, 6yr old?
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xi lang kia
Guest
Hi very pain b4
Lawyer also need to "Jia Peng"(eat rice)wat. Of course they will say very simple procedure. Anyway not they go thru wat, both of u r the one going thru. if i m the lawyer, I'll say the same thing....they r just like insurance agents....divorce pls...divorce pls.....
Lawyer also need to "Jia Peng"(eat rice)wat. Of course they will say very simple procedure. Anyway not they go thru wat, both of u r the one going thru. if i m the lawyer, I'll say the same thing....they r just like insurance agents....divorce pls...divorce pls.....
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hope it helps
Guest
Hi pls advice,
First of all, even if your husband doesnt agree, you can still file for divorce. The reno loan if taken under both names you need to likely bear half of it. If you are selling your flat, maybe can use the proceeds from the flat to settle the reno loan.Whatever comes out from ur CPF for housing will go back to your acc after deducting the necessary (interest etc) any excess cash after that will be split according the final decison made by the court for your divorce (usually is split half half unless either party contest with valid reasons)
If you are the one filing the divorce, you need to pay for your lawyer fees. Your lawyer can apply to the court for your husband to pay half in the proceeding subject the court's decision (usually if the "fault" lies on respondant)back to you but you are liable for the fees.
ie eg if fees =$5k, court maybe order your husband to pay half back to you.
When you are filing for divorce, you may list what your requests are e.g hse, child, maintenance, etc It depends if your husband contests or not. Eg you request for 75% of the proceeds from the flat, if your hubby doesnt contest, the court will most likely grant it to you.
As for custody of your child, usually will be given to the mother usually if she is found to be unable to care of the children. Income is only one of the factors,not the main one though.
First of all, even if your husband doesnt agree, you can still file for divorce. The reno loan if taken under both names you need to likely bear half of it. If you are selling your flat, maybe can use the proceeds from the flat to settle the reno loan.Whatever comes out from ur CPF for housing will go back to your acc after deducting the necessary (interest etc) any excess cash after that will be split according the final decison made by the court for your divorce (usually is split half half unless either party contest with valid reasons)
If you are the one filing the divorce, you need to pay for your lawyer fees. Your lawyer can apply to the court for your husband to pay half in the proceeding subject the court's decision (usually if the "fault" lies on respondant)back to you but you are liable for the fees.
ie eg if fees =$5k, court maybe order your husband to pay half back to you.
When you are filing for divorce, you may list what your requests are e.g hse, child, maintenance, etc It depends if your husband contests or not. Eg you request for 75% of the proceeds from the flat, if your hubby doesnt contest, the court will most likely grant it to you.
As for custody of your child, usually will be given to the mother usually if she is found to be unable to care of the children. Income is only one of the factors,not the main one though.
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help it helps
Guest
Sorry typo: shld be UNLESS:-
As for custody of your child, usually will be given to the mother UNLESS if she is found to be unable to care of the children. Income is only one of the factors,not the main one though
As for custody of your child, usually will be given to the mother UNLESS if she is found to be unable to care of the children. Income is only one of the factors,not the main one though
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pls advise
Guest
can quarrels and can't get along consider unreasonable behaviour? What does unreasonable behaviour means? how can I file for divorce if both of us just cannot communicate and having conflicts?
Hi Salior_P,
Wondering whether you can email me the contact of the lawyer...BTW, anyone has any idea how much in total is the separation and lawyer fee one would need to pay?
[email protected]
Wondering whether you can email me the contact of the lawyer...BTW, anyone has any idea how much in total is the separation and lawyer fee one would need to pay?
[email protected]
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pls advise
Guest
xmas
what's your issue? same as mine?
what's your issue? same as mine?
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concern
Guest
depress,
Sad to hear that... what happen? Your kid is only 3month old. I hope you will consider to have a good talk with your hubby for the sake of your kid.
Everyone wanted to see their kid grown up with a father and mother.
You can go for counselling before calling an end?
Sad to hear that... what happen? Your kid is only 3month old. I hope you will consider to have a good talk with your hubby for the sake of your kid.
Everyone wanted to see their kid grown up with a father and mother.
You can go for counselling before calling an end?
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hope to help
Guest
depress,
concern is right, may be can try counselling 1st. There will be alot of stress & pressures ahead if calling an end.
Can tell us what happen?.. I hv went to a councilling before. Guess wat, actually the problem is from my own personality. I have not realise it for 20over years.
concern is right, may be can try counselling 1st. There will be alot of stress & pressures ahead if calling an end.
Can tell us what happen?.. I hv went to a councilling before. Guess wat, actually the problem is from my own personality. I have not realise it for 20over years.
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xmas2004
Guest
Hi Pls Advise,
Yah Kindof....is pretty sad because he is actually a nice guy just that we keep having unnecessary quarrels and conflicts that i end up feeling very exhausted both mentally and physically...
Yah Kindof....is pretty sad because he is actually a nice guy just that we keep having unnecessary quarrels and conflicts that i end up feeling very exhausted both mentally and physically...
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xmas2004
Guest
Hi Pls Advise,
Yah Kindof....is pretty sad because he is actually a nice guy just that we keep having unnecessary quarrels and conflicts that i end up feeling very exhausted both mentally and physically...
Yah Kindof....is pretty sad because he is actually a nice guy just that we keep having unnecessary quarrels and conflicts that i end up feeling very exhausted both mentally and physically...
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wish to know
Guest
hope to help
Can share what is the counselling about, does it help? Has you both gain from it?
Can share what is the counselling about, does it help? Has you both gain from it?
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xiao bu dian
Guest
Hi xmas2004
hve u let him know your problem & concern? Who initiate actually & y? If just bcos of quarrel & conflicts, it is pretty sad & unreasonable. These daily problems a couple has to gone through in life. B4 both of u married should know all these....I too quarrel with my hubby but we will talk & settle it after 3 hours later, normally he will apologize to me first hee. Both of us believe if problems doesn't solve & remain inside our heart, it will accumulate & one fine day they will explode, then it is too late...
We call it "xin jie", a knot inside our heart. need to untide it......
hve u let him know your problem & concern? Who initiate actually & y? If just bcos of quarrel & conflicts, it is pretty sad & unreasonable. These daily problems a couple has to gone through in life. B4 both of u married should know all these....I too quarrel with my hubby but we will talk & settle it after 3 hours later, normally he will apologize to me first hee. Both of us believe if problems doesn't solve & remain inside our heart, it will accumulate & one fine day they will explode, then it is too late...
We call it "xin jie", a knot inside our heart. need to untide it......
hi concern & hope to help
i think our marriage was a mistake. I got pregnant after two years of dating. I did take precaution by taking pills, but when my mense did not come for 4 months i stopped taking. Later was found out I was preg when I went for check up. I did not know how it happened but I guess it's god will for me to have the bb, but I did not want to keep the child because I think we are still not ready for sure a big committment. But he begged me to keep the bb and made all promises that he will take good care of me and bb. I got soft hearted and married him.
After our ROM, I was about 5 months preggie. he started to become cold and uncaring. Always leaving me at home. I tried communicating with him, telling him that i feel very loney. He will give excuse that pregnant woman should stay at home and rest more. He will be a good husband but go back to square one after a few days. I always cried at night while he away at some place having fun.
Throughtout the whole pregnancy, it was my bunch of galfriends that gave me the care and support that I needed. Without them, I think I would have mental breakdown. I did not dare to let my family know. I told myself everthing will go back to normal like the pass when we are dating after I give birth.
But I was totally disappointed. It became worst. He never hug me to sleep anymore and we had not have sex even since I gave birth. We did not have much to say to each other and he never bring me out anymore. We seldom see each other at home cause he will lock himself up in the next room using internet. I tried asking him to bring me to movies but he say waste $$, stay at home watch VCD better. Well, it was good enough for me that he is willing to spend time watching a movie with me evewn if it is at home, but he will fall asleep half way through and leaving me there finishing the whole show. Sad
. He doesn't pay much attention to the bb as well. Will only once a while, carry her and play with her.
Now I have already got used to not having him around. It's like 'got husband like no husband'. I do everything myself. Like bringing the bb for her jabs and stuff like that. He is never involved in our activites.
He is a very ego man. Going counselling will be impossible for him. I believe me and bb will be better off without him. Thus, I am seeking help here on divorce matters.
Sorry for the long story, already tried cutting it short.
i think our marriage was a mistake. I got pregnant after two years of dating. I did take precaution by taking pills, but when my mense did not come for 4 months i stopped taking. Later was found out I was preg when I went for check up. I did not know how it happened but I guess it's god will for me to have the bb, but I did not want to keep the child because I think we are still not ready for sure a big committment. But he begged me to keep the bb and made all promises that he will take good care of me and bb. I got soft hearted and married him.
After our ROM, I was about 5 months preggie. he started to become cold and uncaring. Always leaving me at home. I tried communicating with him, telling him that i feel very loney. He will give excuse that pregnant woman should stay at home and rest more. He will be a good husband but go back to square one after a few days. I always cried at night while he away at some place having fun.
Throughtout the whole pregnancy, it was my bunch of galfriends that gave me the care and support that I needed. Without them, I think I would have mental breakdown. I did not dare to let my family know. I told myself everthing will go back to normal like the pass when we are dating after I give birth.
But I was totally disappointed. It became worst. He never hug me to sleep anymore and we had not have sex even since I gave birth. We did not have much to say to each other and he never bring me out anymore. We seldom see each other at home cause he will lock himself up in the next room using internet. I tried asking him to bring me to movies but he say waste $$, stay at home watch VCD better. Well, it was good enough for me that he is willing to spend time watching a movie with me evewn if it is at home, but he will fall asleep half way through and leaving me there finishing the whole show. Sad
Now I have already got used to not having him around. It's like 'got husband like no husband'. I do everything myself. Like bringing the bb for her jabs and stuff like that. He is never involved in our activites.
He is a very ego man. Going counselling will be impossible for him. I believe me and bb will be better off without him. Thus, I am seeking help here on divorce matters.
Sorry for the long story, already tried cutting it short.
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xmas2004
Guest
Hi Hope to help,
To be frank, of course i agree that quarrelling and arguments are unavoidable..but is just i realise the sparks kind of does not rekindle anymore no matter how hard both of us tried....
In fact, it reaches a stage that whatever he do will get me frustrated...and agitated.
i know im at fault and just dun wan to drag this anymore and make two person so unhappy.
To be frank, of course i agree that quarrelling and arguments are unavoidable..but is just i realise the sparks kind of does not rekindle anymore no matter how hard both of us tried....
In fact, it reaches a stage that whatever he do will get me frustrated...and agitated.
i know im at fault and just dun wan to drag this anymore and make two person so unhappy.
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xi lang kia
Guest
hi xmas2004
from my point of view, u dont want to drag its bcos u want to cut it short & get things done faster & simple. but will both of u be happy if settle in this manner? y no more sparks? u have talk to him ask y lah! let him quake head.
i can only advise both of u to go thru counselling session....this is wat i can suggest, let the expert do the job lah! if not how r they going to "tan jia". they will bitting mosquito everyday wor!
from my point of view, u dont want to drag its bcos u want to cut it short & get things done faster & simple. but will both of u be happy if settle in this manner? y no more sparks? u have talk to him ask y lah! let him quake head.
i can only advise both of u to go thru counselling session....this is wat i can suggest, let the expert do the job lah! if not how r they going to "tan jia". they will bitting mosquito everyday wor!
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xiao bu dian
Guest
Hi xmas2004
Can u share with us since your hubby is a nice guy, y still got unnecessary quarrels and conflicts. He never give in to u meh? How can he behave in this way? Seem like your problem is the same as mine 3 yrs ago...Sigh
Can u share with us since your hubby is a nice guy, y still got unnecessary quarrels and conflicts. He never give in to u meh? How can he behave in this way? Seem like your problem is the same as mine 3 yrs ago...Sigh
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hope it helps
Guest
Hi depress,
Pls see my post for "pls advice" on custody. Since ur hubby is so bo chap type, the court will not grant him the custody if he earns higher. In the div papers, you can list down ur estimated expenses eg 1k, the court will access ur hubby salary for the maintainence. Maybe he will not even want custoday snce he is always leaving u home and bb.
However, hope you find a way to savage the marriage. very pityful for bb and u leh. Can it be ur are suffering from post natal depression that ur behaviour "offended" him and u did not realise? Post natal depression sometimes u urself also dun realise one leh..Take Care.
Pls see my post for "pls advice" on custody. Since ur hubby is so bo chap type, the court will not grant him the custody if he earns higher. In the div papers, you can list down ur estimated expenses eg 1k, the court will access ur hubby salary for the maintainence. Maybe he will not even want custoday snce he is always leaving u home and bb.
However, hope you find a way to savage the marriage. very pityful for bb and u leh. Can it be ur are suffering from post natal depression that ur behaviour "offended" him and u did not realise? Post natal depression sometimes u urself also dun realise one leh..Take Care.
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pls advise
Guest
depress,
I hope you could talk things and try to resolve it with your HB. Your child is only 3 months old, unlike mine 6yrs old.
My HB is also like yours... 'It's like 'got husband like no husband'. I do everything myself. Like bringing the bb for her jabs and stuff like that. He is never involved in our activites'
For me, I have bring my kid to and from nursery before and after work. He will never bother anything at home and our kid! I do have many admirer though I am a mother and always been sexy with my dressing, he doesn't want to make love with me anymore.... We ended up quarrels for so many years!
I am always a faithful woman towards my family and myself. I was so angry yesterday that I found out that he has a mistress!!!
Now that he commits adultry, I will definately file for divorce!
As long as your HB didn't commit adultry, try to talk things over with him and take good care of your child together. Sometimes, man do need time to think things over and realised.
I hope you could talk things and try to resolve it with your HB. Your child is only 3 months old, unlike mine 6yrs old.
My HB is also like yours... 'It's like 'got husband like no husband'. I do everything myself. Like bringing the bb for her jabs and stuff like that. He is never involved in our activites'
For me, I have bring my kid to and from nursery before and after work. He will never bother anything at home and our kid! I do have many admirer though I am a mother and always been sexy with my dressing, he doesn't want to make love with me anymore.... We ended up quarrels for so many years!
I am always a faithful woman towards my family and myself. I was so angry yesterday that I found out that he has a mistress!!!
Now that he commits adultry, I will definately file for divorce!
As long as your HB didn't commit adultry, try to talk things over with him and take good care of your child together. Sometimes, man do need time to think things over and realised.
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Hi Sailor P
Can you email me the lawyer contact. [email protected]. Thks.
Hi All
Can the divorce procedure be faster if both agreed to tell the lawyer that we have been on separation for more than 3 years.. Dun we have to sign for separation document before it considers valid??
Also, this path is leading to become a divorcee. Any idea what are the valid reasons in order to obtain annulment?
Can you email me the lawyer contact. [email protected]. Thks.
Hi All
Can the divorce procedure be faster if both agreed to tell the lawyer that we have been on separation for more than 3 years.. Dun we have to sign for separation document before it considers valid??
Also, this path is leading to become a divorcee. Any idea what are the valid reasons in order to obtain annulment?
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strawberry78
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depress, 3 months still very young, email me, i can introduce you to single mothers network, i also tumbled onto it by chance but i think they may be skeptical of me, since i not divorce yet, only signing separation papers next mon.
most importantly, you got to plan out the basic needs first,
where will you and your BB stay?
how can you meet your financial commitments?
if you work, who will look after your BB?
My BB will be one years old this saturday, my HB is as good as gone liao - I don't really want him in my life anymore, just that he needs to provide his contribution to child support but even with that, he is not on time.
I think mostly its cos of his personality and also could be because he is a foreigner.
well, open eyes big big next time lor
depress, take care of yourself, soon time will fly by, like me, its already 12 months since BB born!
my BB can walk around and make trouble already
most importantly, you got to plan out the basic needs first,
where will you and your BB stay?
how can you meet your financial commitments?
if you work, who will look after your BB?
My BB will be one years old this saturday, my HB is as good as gone liao - I don't really want him in my life anymore, just that he needs to provide his contribution to child support but even with that, he is not on time.
I think mostly its cos of his personality and also could be because he is a foreigner.
well, open eyes big big next time lor
depress, take care of yourself, soon time will fly by, like me, its already 12 months since BB born!
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helplost
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I am in the stage of divorcing & hope someone can give me advice.
I have read thr & know the 5 reasons for filing of divorce procedure. I am likely to opt for the 3 yrs separation. In the website, i read something as separated couple can still stay in same household provided that they will live as 2 independent party, no interation/helpout etc. Like tenancy. Due to 'financial' issue, i may have to stay with hb during this separation period.
Wonder anyone can advice me :
1) Will the court actually send someone to spot check the couple to make sure it's really a true 'separation'/no link/no interation.
2) Will it be difficult to convince the court aft the 3 yrs separation (although we stay in same roof but no interation) & thus still cannot divorce.
3) To avoid problem, if i change my corresponding address but still stay in same household with hb, will the court find out or investigate & said i lie.
4) For divorce file using reason adultery, what's the impact & do we need to provide proof/3rd party name as long as one of us admit. Will divorce procedure be faster, half yr.
Hopefully someone can help.
I have read thr & know the 5 reasons for filing of divorce procedure. I am likely to opt for the 3 yrs separation. In the website, i read something as separated couple can still stay in same household provided that they will live as 2 independent party, no interation/helpout etc. Like tenancy. Due to 'financial' issue, i may have to stay with hb during this separation period.
Wonder anyone can advice me :
1) Will the court actually send someone to spot check the couple to make sure it's really a true 'separation'/no link/no interation.
2) Will it be difficult to convince the court aft the 3 yrs separation (although we stay in same roof but no interation) & thus still cannot divorce.
3) To avoid problem, if i change my corresponding address but still stay in same household with hb, will the court find out or investigate & said i lie.
4) For divorce file using reason adultery, what's the impact & do we need to provide proof/3rd party name as long as one of us admit. Will divorce procedure be faster, half yr.
Hopefully someone can help.
strawberry78
New Member
helplost,
you can backdate your separation if you have evidence that the marriage broke down on xx date.
you can post on support group - divorce for more advice.
you can backdate your separation if you have evidence that the marriage broke down on xx date.
you can post on support group - divorce for more advice.
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