sgbabydoll
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Contempt of court? Do you know what it means or not???
Divorce Fee enquiry - please help.
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Sony,
Not true. there is no normally. The women charter does not say husband pay for the cost.
Unless you are the judge.. Even if the judge award the cost, there is the issue of enforcement. There has already been a lot of issues with enforcement.. that is why there are going to be changes to the Women Charter.
Not true. there is no normally. The women charter does not say husband pay for the cost.
Unless you are the judge.. Even if the judge award the cost, there is the issue of enforcement. There has already been a lot of issues with enforcement.. that is why there are going to be changes to the Women Charter.
A finding of contempt of court may result from a failure to obey a lawful order of a court, showing disrespect for the judge, disruption of the proceedings through poor behavior, or publication of material deemed likely to jeopardize a fair trial
doll....what is your definition ? dun be too smug.
doll....what is your definition ? dun be too smug.
sgbabydoll
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Kent, I don't have a definition myself because I didn't invent the phrase. But I have done my research on what Sony Peh has said that it isn't contempt of court.
What is the point of using scare tactics. You can only scare the ill-informed or lazy people like Kent.
What is the point of using scare tactics. You can only scare the ill-informed or lazy people like Kent.
Don't have to do any research. It is not contempt of court.
Sony peh has little legal knowledge..
Firstly if the reason for divorce is separation, the court will not award cost of the proceedings to the defendant.
If other reasons like adultery for eg.. yes, it is possible.. then the burden of proof of adultery is required - typically you will need PI report - again this will be an expense - and typically the full costs will not be awarded against the defendant. You ended up both being poorer - only the PI and the lawyers are richer.
Sony peh has little legal knowledge..
Firstly if the reason for divorce is separation, the court will not award cost of the proceedings to the defendant.
If other reasons like adultery for eg.. yes, it is possible.. then the burden of proof of adultery is required - typically you will need PI report - again this will be an expense - and typically the full costs will not be awarded against the defendant. You ended up both being poorer - only the PI and the lawyers are richer.
sony - "if the judge had ordered cost to be paid by the husband to the wife then it's a judgment by the court and if he don't pay then it's Contempt of Court."
kent & lois lane - "A finding of contempt of court may result from a failure to obey a lawful order of a court,...."
Doll : what "research have you done to show that what Sony Peh has said that it isn't contempt of court"?
SM : what's your implication on your mentioning sony has little legal knowledge? do you mean that he is not reliable?
m just getting confuse, who is right?please advise
kent & lois lane - "A finding of contempt of court may result from a failure to obey a lawful order of a court,...."
Doll : what "research have you done to show that what Sony Peh has said that it isn't contempt of court"?
SM : what's your implication on your mentioning sony has little legal knowledge? do you mean that he is not reliable?
m just getting confuse, who is right?please advise
I spent all my income on our house and house expense, I didn’t even buy a clothes for the past 3 years. Because my husband only worked 4 to 5 months per year didn’t bring home a single cent. He said he can’t take pressure from doing IT line wanted to go for course to upgrade himself. His course last for 6 months and he took $400 from me every month to pay for his car loan. I am just a normal admin staff my pay is not very high, I have to eat bread and instant noodles everyday to come out with the extra $400 per month.
Thinking life would be better after his course but after he finished that course he move out without giving me a reason. I have been suffering from depression after he left and tried to kill myself twice. I keep asking myself on what have I done wrong why is he treating me like this without a reason. My brother employed PI to check on him then we found out that he had an affair with a course mate of his. I feel both of them are shameless how can he still got the cheek to ask money from me when he is seeing another woman behind my back and that woman she is married with 2 kids.
I told him the intention to divorce he wanted me to sell our house and split half with him. My heart was died when I found out the truth. Since I have the evidence why should I split with him as he didn’t contribute a single cent on our home in the first place. I am 33 now after going thought separation by the time we can process our divorce I will be able to obtain our flat and that is the only thing that I have left.
I let him choose either I sue him for Adultery because I have photo of them going to hotel or we do a separation deed inside that deed he have to stated he is willing to transfer his name from the house back to me without any condition. To be fair to him I will also indicate in the deed that I don’t need any maintenance fee from him.
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Given him with no choice he agreed. But when I mention he should pay half of the lawyer fee he shouted at me saying that he have no money now ask me go ahead to sue him the more he go jail.
He is such a jerk only good in bullying me and in front of that woman behaving like a dog
Pls recommend me a good lawyer with a reasonable fee to contact.
I am looking forward to end this miserable marriage.
Thinking life would be better after his course but after he finished that course he move out without giving me a reason. I have been suffering from depression after he left and tried to kill myself twice. I keep asking myself on what have I done wrong why is he treating me like this without a reason. My brother employed PI to check on him then we found out that he had an affair with a course mate of his. I feel both of them are shameless how can he still got the cheek to ask money from me when he is seeing another woman behind my back and that woman she is married with 2 kids.
I told him the intention to divorce he wanted me to sell our house and split half with him. My heart was died when I found out the truth. Since I have the evidence why should I split with him as he didn’t contribute a single cent on our home in the first place. I am 33 now after going thought separation by the time we can process our divorce I will be able to obtain our flat and that is the only thing that I have left.
I let him choose either I sue him for Adultery because I have photo of them going to hotel or we do a separation deed inside that deed he have to stated he is willing to transfer his name from the house back to me without any condition. To be fair to him I will also indicate in the deed that I don’t need any maintenance fee from him.
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Given him with no choice he agreed. But when I mention he should pay half of the lawyer fee he shouted at me saying that he have no money now ask me go ahead to sue him the more he go jail.
He is such a jerk only good in bullying me and in front of that woman behaving like a dog
Pls recommend me a good lawyer with a reasonable fee to contact.
I am looking forward to end this miserable marriage.
texasholdem
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dun worry
shameless couples will have retribution.
Anyone can email me a good lawyer with low fee?
Email: [email protected]
Email: [email protected]
blurblurman
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can anyone email me a good lawyer and the cost to finalize the divorce?
dream_taitai
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xiao_nu_ren
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I also need contact for a good lawyer. Can someone email me @ [email protected]? Urgent. Thanks.
regin_woong
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Hi all,
Anyone can PM me a good lawyer with low fee? Thanks.
Anyone can PM me a good lawyer with low fee? Thanks.
confusedchild
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Same..can anyone PM me a good lawyer with low fees...need them to help me with the HDB and divorce procedure...
Thanks
Thanks
dream_taitai
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Hi, can somebody send me the contact for cheap lawyer to "[email protected]"
Can one party file for divorce? if so, hw long does it take to formalize the entire process as my hb wanted to go for a divorce and I don wan to give the bitch and hb the eat way out. can somebody help me? wat is the difference between separate first follow by divorce? thanks
Can one party file for divorce? if so, hw long does it take to formalize the entire process as my hb wanted to go for a divorce and I don wan to give the bitch and hb the eat way out. can somebody help me? wat is the difference between separate first follow by divorce? thanks
dear_trinity
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been reading the thread...
mu hb is filing for Divorce he moved out 2 yrs alredy..i chnged my mind and wod like to keep my flat..but its nt 5 yrs yet and we cant sell.. does anyone noe if trf is possible? do i hv to top up his cpf?
i need a lawyer to help me with the anicillary matters... but i may hv difficulty in finance to pay for an ex one... please pm me with reasonably priced lawyer contacts - [email protected]
mu hb is filing for Divorce he moved out 2 yrs alredy..i chnged my mind and wod like to keep my flat..but its nt 5 yrs yet and we cant sell.. does anyone noe if trf is possible? do i hv to top up his cpf?
i need a lawyer to help me with the anicillary matters... but i may hv difficulty in finance to pay for an ex one... please pm me with reasonably priced lawyer contacts - [email protected]
janice_chan
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Hi,
Can anyone email me any lawyers?? I googled some and the price shocked me... $1000 for 1 hour consultation.. Incontestable will cost me about $6000 excluding initial consultation...
5 years ago I signed up this account to get my wedding information... now i'm back to this portal to get divorce information... Hai~~
Anyone please email me some contacts... ([email protected]).
Thanks alot
Can anyone email me any lawyers?? I googled some and the price shocked me... $1000 for 1 hour consultation.. Incontestable will cost me about $6000 excluding initial consultation...
5 years ago I signed up this account to get my wedding information... now i'm back to this portal to get divorce information... Hai~~
Anyone please email me some contacts... ([email protected]).
Thanks alot
Please email the contacts to me [email protected]
pasir_ris_beach
Member
need advice here.. married with a 6 y.o boy for 6 yrs and i discovered that my hubby got a 3 yr affair with one friend of mine last night n we had a very violent quarrel. Feel sad here but dun know if separation or straight divorce is better for us. He asked over SMS that we give ourselves 2 months to cool down n think over what we want.
the background here is he is a cheater and liar and nearly made me bankrupted but pulled out in time before the banks proceed to sue me for those loans he took in my name. He lied to me on many occasions and now i cannot take his repeated lyings down anymore.
I wish to take the divorce path out but he requested to stay on for our kid sake.. I gave him too many chances to repent but realised he is not sincere in repenting. what shall i do?
And I spoke to the husband's gf's husband(yes the gf is married) over SMS and he mentioned he gave up on his wife n planning to file for divorce on her.
the background here is he is a cheater and liar and nearly made me bankrupted but pulled out in time before the banks proceed to sue me for those loans he took in my name. He lied to me on many occasions and now i cannot take his repeated lyings down anymore.
I wish to take the divorce path out but he requested to stay on for our kid sake.. I gave him too many chances to repent but realised he is not sincere in repenting. what shall i do?
And I spoke to the husband's gf's husband(yes the gf is married) over SMS and he mentioned he gave up on his wife n planning to file for divorce on her.
dinnielooi
Member
if he think for your kid he wouldn't have did this.
hugochavon
New Member
You have given sufficient time and chances for him to repent. Please consider carefully and take the next step to move on.
pasir_ris_beach
Member
I gave him chances again and again repeatedly and yet he is still immature in his thinking sigh.. seem he never want to wake up and i guess he really loves the other lover a lot.
so shd i choose the divorce or separation path? how to prepare my son for the big chance and that the fact that we will never be a family again.
so shd i choose the divorce or separation path? how to prepare my son for the big chance and that the fact that we will never be a family again.
miloice
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your problem was there for quite many months. Previously, u were thinking there wasn't an affair. Not sure what you mean divorce or separation path. The separation is a needed period for the divorce. He is just buying time, you do not need to comply. Work out what you want and do it.
pasir_ris_beach
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not really i long time suspected but no proofs till finally he confessed to my friend and she quickly informed me of his confession n his affair is still on going..
pasir_ris_beach
Member
yeah so is this divorce better for me and the husband? I feel i dun wish to carry on stayin in the meaningless marriage already since he is still involved with her. And how to initate the proceeding? Or should i plead with him to start the proceeding since i am tight financially. I feel like want to give up but he told me he still wants us but he wants work too. (i suspect he is hinting he still wants the other woman). He also said to stay married and yet lead separate lives which i DO NOT want this weird arrangement at all. He claimed he still love me n kid but seem the opposites. He spent money on the other woman and it made the other woman more bold to demand for more things from him and yet want him to understand she needs to give her time to her family and husband.. it is so unfair to me that my husband must wait for her n do her biddings n yet dun want to give us his time after work.. I also want him to focus on family after work but he refused citing work reason but come on he knocks off on dot at 5-6pm n leave to fetch her home from her workplace..... this is so hurting... he hardly fetch me home from my workplace and yet he does willingly for her... what the f@@@ he is trying to do here.
u are independent, he want u to stay for the good of the kid. He might have already lost his love for u but he doesn't wan to admit it as he feel u are a good mother for his kid.
I feel there is nothing for u to continue with him. U don't have to plead with him, as he is the one having the 3rd party.
if u really needs to borrow money for the divorce, do it. i feel u will be happy then continuing with this marriage as he refuse to stop the affair.
I feel there is nothing for u to continue with him. U don't have to plead with him, as he is the one having the 3rd party.
if u really needs to borrow money for the divorce, do it. i feel u will be happy then continuing with this marriage as he refuse to stop the affair.
pasir_ris_beach
Member
yes i am independent but fragile inside.
i know i have been there for his kid a lot of times but .... anyway he seldom spend time with us except whenever he feel like supper then want me to acc him for supper nearby nus. Before that i was ok with it but after knowing that he often bring the other woman to pasir panjang hotel 81 for sex, i felt very uneasy eating prata there.. imagine how i feel now... more naseauting.
ok so what if he lost his love for me then why marry me in the first place. anyway so what if he lost his love for me, then why nt divorce n he can see the kid anytime as he wants, I wont make thing ugly for letting him see kid without me going along... will make things easy and not awkward. He wants peace and it is fine with me but why nt div instead of stay married n yet lead different lives.. it is NO POINT doing this way. Perhaps i think it will be better if he finds work overseas and i dun hv to face him daily at home n he can get peace while i can be at peace with myself. He told me last time if he finds a job overseas, he expects the whole family to move overseas which i dun feel like due to different cultures.
Rite now i am very confused by what he wants.. he is still undecisive and wants to enjoy the best of two worlds which i dun want..
i know i have been there for his kid a lot of times but .... anyway he seldom spend time with us except whenever he feel like supper then want me to acc him for supper nearby nus. Before that i was ok with it but after knowing that he often bring the other woman to pasir panjang hotel 81 for sex, i felt very uneasy eating prata there.. imagine how i feel now... more naseauting.
ok so what if he lost his love for me then why marry me in the first place. anyway so what if he lost his love for me, then why nt divorce n he can see the kid anytime as he wants, I wont make thing ugly for letting him see kid without me going along... will make things easy and not awkward. He wants peace and it is fine with me but why nt div instead of stay married n yet lead different lives.. it is NO POINT doing this way. Perhaps i think it will be better if he finds work overseas and i dun hv to face him daily at home n he can get peace while i can be at peace with myself. He told me last time if he finds a job overseas, he expects the whole family to move overseas which i dun feel like due to different cultures.
Rite now i am very confused by what he wants.. he is still undecisive and wants to enjoy the best of two worlds which i dun want..
yes, for him, he might just want to delay and continue with the pleasure of enjoying best of both world.
the ball is in your hand not his, u should be the one doing something cos for him, he would prefer the current status.
imagine u have to continue thinking of how he betray u and how he spend time with the women in the hotel
the ball is in your hand not his, u should be the one doing something cos for him, he would prefer the current status.
imagine u have to continue thinking of how he betray u and how he spend time with the women in the hotel
pasir_ris_beach
Member
so i want to know the rate for doing separation paperwork? any recommendation as i think maybe separate for few years till i am ready mentally to div for the 2nd time.
is separation meaning separated but can meet up to discuss abt the kid matters or go out with kid individually?
is separation meaning separated but can meet up to discuss abt the kid matters or go out with kid individually?
pasir_ris_beach
Member
thanks margret, my husband has not visited my side for 2 year for CNY, and same period he refused to come up to my mum place to drop in or for any family events. And now i am thinking of skipping the CNY visitation next year.
although i know abt the affair but i dun think i want to produce eveidence as he totally denied, fu#k him.... so nvm think better separate formally as i am not in a hurry to remarry in future.. i want to focus on kid welfare and working n other things than get involved with anyone yet,
although i know abt the affair but i dun think i want to produce eveidence as he totally denied, fu#k him.... so nvm think better separate formally as i am not in a hurry to remarry in future.. i want to focus on kid welfare and working n other things than get involved with anyone yet,
blur
Your life is in your own hands. If you are having struggles and issues on this for long, it is better to do something yourself rather than wait for him.
Understand there are some legal aids for divorce proceeding if you have financial difficulties. Not encouraging you to do the divorce route, but you know yourself whether is it worth your while to stay with this man.
Don't need to feel sad. Don't need to ask why he marries you in the first place. There is no certainties in life other than death and tax.
You already acknowledge it is meaningless marriage, so why keep harping on the meaningless marriage? Why not do away with this meaningless marriage and spend more precious time on your kids, extended familiy, career, interests rather than on someone not worth your love?
Take care!
Your life is in your own hands. If you are having struggles and issues on this for long, it is better to do something yourself rather than wait for him.
Understand there are some legal aids for divorce proceeding if you have financial difficulties. Not encouraging you to do the divorce route, but you know yourself whether is it worth your while to stay with this man.
Don't need to feel sad. Don't need to ask why he marries you in the first place. There is no certainties in life other than death and tax.
You already acknowledge it is meaningless marriage, so why keep harping on the meaningless marriage? Why not do away with this meaningless marriage and spend more precious time on your kids, extended familiy, career, interests rather than on someone not worth your love?
Take care!
How to do a divorce then separation? If you people don't know what you are talking better not give advices.
As for custody - having affair does not mean one cannot be a good parent.. does not necessarily mean lessen your chance or for the aggrieved party to have better chance. That being said, mother will have advantage especially if can be proven she is the primary care-giver.
You can divorce now.. if you have grounds for doing so like adultery or unreasonable behaviour.. otherwise you need to wait for 3/4 years of separation then divorce.
If you want to do formal separation through deeds of separation - both have to agree and both have to sign. If he is unwilling, then you will be wasting time. The easiest way is to separate physically by moving out (or asking him to move out).
During separation, it does not mean family cannot have CNY together. Can meet and discuss about children for sure.. as long as both no longer treat each other like hb/wife.
As for custody - having affair does not mean one cannot be a good parent.. does not necessarily mean lessen your chance or for the aggrieved party to have better chance. That being said, mother will have advantage especially if can be proven she is the primary care-giver.
You can divorce now.. if you have grounds for doing so like adultery or unreasonable behaviour.. otherwise you need to wait for 3/4 years of separation then divorce.
If you want to do formal separation through deeds of separation - both have to agree and both have to sign. If he is unwilling, then you will be wasting time. The easiest way is to separate physically by moving out (or asking him to move out).
During separation, it does not mean family cannot have CNY together. Can meet and discuss about children for sure.. as long as both no longer treat each other like hb/wife.
pasir_ris_beach
Member
SM, i suddenly recalled my story is so similar to your story too.. this other woman begged my hubby not to leave her when she realised he is quiet n wanted to leave quietly so she is clinging onto him too tightly. he told me so n i feel very stressed now... i asked him many times to leave her but at first he told her he is so tired n wanted to leave firmly but she begged him not so he turned soft hearted n gave in.. yet he promised he will take care of me n kid but give him two months.... two months how to tolerate... so unfair ... next year my kid is entering primary one ... i dun want to affect my kid with the martial woes..
and the cost for doing up a formal separation, i believe he wants separation instead of divorce as he expressed his desire to me after the violent quarrel two days ago and i admit i hit n too violent towards him and now he got a bit injuried in his face. I could not control my burst out anger n whacked his part.. i know i am wrong but could not control my anger on him. Although he is a bit injuried in face, he still dun want to go A&E for fear of the doctor informing the police on spot, when asked why, his reply is he dun want the police to charge me for assault on him.
and the cost for doing up a formal separation, i believe he wants separation instead of divorce as he expressed his desire to me after the violent quarrel two days ago and i admit i hit n too violent towards him and now he got a bit injuried in his face. I could not control my burst out anger n whacked his part.. i know i am wrong but could not control my anger on him. Although he is a bit injuried in face, he still dun want to go A&E for fear of the doctor informing the police on spot, when asked why, his reply is he dun want the police to charge me for assault on him.
sm, u don't talk like expert. u only go thru once don't make u expert.
yes a person commtting adultery doesn't mean he can't be a good father. but because he is spending a lot of time with that lady, and spend little time with the kid, then she will have higher chance of getting the care and control.
i have personally attend a court sessions where the judge questions the couple, citing the CNY visit. the judge comment if they are separated, then they should not go visiting or do things as a family if not the separation is not valid.
yes a person commtting adultery doesn't mean he can't be a good father. but because he is spending a lot of time with that lady, and spend little time with the kid, then she will have higher chance of getting the care and control.
i have personally attend a court sessions where the judge questions the couple, citing the CNY visit. the judge comment if they are separated, then they should not go visiting or do things as a family if not the separation is not valid.
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