dazedconfused,
betrayal hurts, it has hurt for as long as the first betrayal of Man occured. everyone would have gone thru it at one point of their life, so if u have any maturity, u'd Understand that u are not an exclusive recipient.
It's ok to be sad that years invested into this relationship is gone, but investing further emotions into it is not gonna make the investment suddenly turnaround. whether she is willing to make any effort to salvage depends entirely on whether she wants to or not... u want her to have This feeling becos u want the relationship, but u must also Realilse that she Doesn't want it.
dun mind me, but a guy who says this, "When I am alone and start reminiscing about our old memories, I will start tearing." - would be precisely the kind of guy she Doesn't want.
while u may wonder if i understand, i can tell u that u are the one more in Need to understand than me, since u're the one having issues, Not me. the whole point behind "Understanding" something, is to actually be able to let go and move on... if u cannot move on, then u are the one who has not achieved Understanding, not me nor anyone else here.
U are the only One here who thinks that the guy has something to do with her decision... the truth is, it is not The guy, but it is every guy who isn't u, who can be The guy... and this is so becos u are no longer her type of guy. anyone who isn't u, will stand a better chance than u... and anyone like u, will stand as little chance as u.
She is Not blaming it totally on the fact that she has no more feelings for u... she is merely reiterating a fact which u have difficulty Understanding and choose to see it otherwise. if she admits to the adultery, are u willing to admit to yourself that u are No Longer the guy she desires to be with?
What options can there be pertaining to divorce which isn't the divorce itself? just free her from You, and free yourself from this...
u are still far from enlightenment.
betrayal hurts, it has hurt for as long as the first betrayal of Man occured. everyone would have gone thru it at one point of their life, so if u have any maturity, u'd Understand that u are not an exclusive recipient.
It's ok to be sad that years invested into this relationship is gone, but investing further emotions into it is not gonna make the investment suddenly turnaround. whether she is willing to make any effort to salvage depends entirely on whether she wants to or not... u want her to have This feeling becos u want the relationship, but u must also Realilse that she Doesn't want it.
dun mind me, but a guy who says this, "When I am alone and start reminiscing about our old memories, I will start tearing." - would be precisely the kind of guy she Doesn't want.
while u may wonder if i understand, i can tell u that u are the one more in Need to understand than me, since u're the one having issues, Not me. the whole point behind "Understanding" something, is to actually be able to let go and move on... if u cannot move on, then u are the one who has not achieved Understanding, not me nor anyone else here.
U are the only One here who thinks that the guy has something to do with her decision... the truth is, it is not The guy, but it is every guy who isn't u, who can be The guy... and this is so becos u are no longer her type of guy. anyone who isn't u, will stand a better chance than u... and anyone like u, will stand as little chance as u.
She is Not blaming it totally on the fact that she has no more feelings for u... she is merely reiterating a fact which u have difficulty Understanding and choose to see it otherwise. if she admits to the adultery, are u willing to admit to yourself that u are No Longer the guy she desires to be with?
What options can there be pertaining to divorce which isn't the divorce itself? just free her from You, and free yourself from this...
u are still far from enlightenment.