-> renee, headache? no worries, there's alot of ppl to help you in this forum. bittersweet looks good, how's their charges? can pm me?
for gatecrash, infact most htb would want to avoid it as it's torture to us. lol. but then since once in a lifetime, better to have it rather than be nag for the rest of life.

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like waht Jasmine mentioned, it spices up the event and also so that can have more photos for memories. if no gate crash, then what's there for the PG n VG to take?
for BS, i used Julia wedding news. they are professional and nice gown but expensive, burn a hole in my pocket.
can check out my photos for the BS in my fb.
-> Jasmine, BS in jb is good pricing but have to consider about driving in at least 3-4 times for selection, photos..etc then my wife say troublesome. so we settle it in here instead.
yes time do not realli permitted for morning highlight,
1) some PG allow you to have the softcopy of the morning shoot and you can ask one of your friend to do the highlight while he continue shoot for the current on-going event
2) PG will request for an additional assistance PG and he can proceed to do the highlight
3) if not, like me. i ask one xiongdi and one jiemei to take some shot of the morning event and once reach hotel for solemnization, they start working on the morning highlights.
save cost yet maximize. keke.
for most PG, they take photo in raw version and need to do editing before giving out photos as they want to protect their quality and reputation as well. so they seldom would want to give out the softcopy immediately and also they take lots of continual shot which they want to filter out.
so do check with them before deciding and also plan what you would need and require.