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green, i haven't checked out any performance listings la .. cos my youngest one has been ill and i was on mc last tuesday too ... my stomach still recovering.

yah la .. last time got kaki at computer department, will give me chance la .. can install messengers for me but now all gone liao with new people .. all like not friendly at all.
 


greenie, i see.

i haven been to night safari before.. haha...
maybe i will just go to the zoo as tuesday is a working day.. muz sleep early.. keke..
 
why don't you go to night safari on sunday then? so at least can wake up late on monday
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ok ok the husband confirm that can file share through msn, depending on how big the file is. he said bomberman is about 100MB.
 
100MB... should be ok bah.. add me in msn tonight? keke...

but i heard going to night safari = feed mosquito
haha! see how it goes bah as its my colleague who is planning the outing.. i shall just follow her arrangement..
 
ok ..

it's alright la .. i went once before - during paktor days.. hahahah .. my sister used to work as tram guide there so got in free la .. hahahah .. then get off tram halfway to walk .. so funny, got one lady and her son keep walking with us .. when we stop, they stop .. when we walk off, they do the same .. if scared of the dark, then don't go la .. hahahah ..
 
I brought my mum and 2 sisters to Night Safari. We just sat on the tram becos none of us felt the paths were safe. We were worried about snakes etc! And the show was full-house, so we couldn't catch it.

That's why I find Zoo has more things to do than Night Safari hehe. Zoo tickets also cheaper.
 
Pandan leaves will not kill roaches. They only act to force the roaches surface from their hideouts. With the car doors and windows shut most of the times, the roaches got no escape mah. They will be running around in the car but not out of it...Eeekkkkkkksssssss
 
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Oct 23, 2008
'WHY I CHOSE A CHINA BRIDE'


It's an insult to S'pore women
I REFER to Mr Alvin Tan's letter last Sunday, 'Why I chose a China bride'. I am astonished that a single passage could make me feel insulted, tickled and disbelieving all at once. Mr Tan is either seriously misinformed of the needs and wants of the modern Singapore woman, or is still steeped in the traditional notion of how men and women should behave.

First, I am unclear of his intention. I believe his marriage to his Chinese bride was between two people truly in love. Why then the need to defend his choice? Why the need to accuse thousands of Singapore women of being clueless of what they want, or even imply indirectly we all want to be treated as the weaker sex?

What also puzzles me is how Mr Tan manages to equate wanting a date to be gentlemanly with wanting to be the weaker sex. If wanting a man to hold the door open for a woman, an act of 'gentlemanliness', can be construed as weakness, does my ability to open my own door signify how strong and masculine I am? I pray not, or I would face a serious identity crisis.

And really, does having our own career or equal abilities to men mean we have become men ourselves? The 'equal footing' treatment we demand is recognition of our abilities to carry out our jobs. Not to be treated like men, but acknowledgement that we are as capable as men. If we 'should expect to be treated equally - the way men treat other men', then perhaps from the perspective of a woman, the equal treatment Mr Tan is looking for is to be treated like a best buddy-cum-girlfriend and not boyfriend material.

Mr Tan also insinuates that, if women want equality, they should see themselves home after a date, as 'there is no need for the man to escort' her. Men with such a mentality make bad dates, or do not have sufficient affection for the woman they are dating. Not wanting to escort your girlfriend home means you don't care about her.

Mr Tan, I am happy you found someone to love and care for. But there was no need to collectively insult the entire female population in Singapore, simply because you were unable to find someone to suit your needs here. I am certain we know what we want in a man - someone who respects us, treats us equally (not like other men) and has no reservations about being a gentleman.

Sherry Aw (Ms)
 
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Why I chose a China bride


Many people seem to believe that Singapore men who opt for foreign brides tend to pick younger, less educated women from less developed countries. I'm a Singapore male and I just married a foreigner this year. She's from China, two years older than I am and a university graduate with a top-notch academic record. We met in Kunming, where I work, after mutual friends introduced us.

On one of our dates, we did discuss why I did not have a Singapore girlfriend. I admitted that I don't understand what Singapore women want. They have their own careers and are as skilled and capable as their male colleagues. Yet, they demand that their dates behave like 'gentlemen' and treat them as the weaker sex. This hardly seems like equality or equitable.

In February, when The Straits Times reported the results of a survey on singles, this 'contradiction' was raised. Many women still expect their dates to carry their handbags and pick up the tab. Asking to split the bill is still widely unacceptable on the local dating scene.

From my own experience and what I've heard, it seems many Singapore women tend to interpret feminism in their own way. A woman who shells prawns for her man is deemed archaic, but a man who carries a woman's handbag for her is being gentlemanly, even though it might make him look silly.

If Singapore women want to be on an equal footing with their men, then they should expect to be treated equally - the way men treat other men. Among other things, there would be no need for the man to escort the woman home.

However, if women want men to shelter, love and care for them in the gentlemanly fashion they seem to demand, then they should let their men take charge.

I would have been happy to date and marry a Singapore woman who knew which she wanted. I would have accepted whichever path she chose.

As things turned out, I found a woman who knew exactly what she wanted - in Kunming.

Alvin Tan
 
Ha ha both letters are ok but reading the tone of the woman's letter, it seemed that she is slapping herself.

Of course Alvin is generalizing but I don't agree with all his points but really, I don't think it is so much of an insult to invite a such a response.
 
I find the woman's letter more hostile than the man's one haha.

My take is each has the freedom to decide whoever he/she wants as partner. Love crosses country, race, age etc. boundaries! In all countries including Singapore, China etc, there are bound to be nice ladies/men and not-so-nice ladies/men lah. We shouldn't sterotype a person based on his/her nationality.

Everyone has flaws. As long as both parties are happy and can accept the flaws of each other, why not?
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Monster dad: 'I was born to be a rapist'

VIENNA: Josef Fritzl, the Austrian builder who locked his daughter in a cellar and fathered seven children with her, sees himself as a born rapist, a victim of his own tyrannical mother.
This has emerged from the first leaked account of interviews with a forensic psychiatrist which was due to appear in two Austrian newspapers yesterday.

'I have realised that I had a mean streak. For someone who was born to be a rapist, I have managed to contain myself for a relatively long period,' Fritzl is quoted as telling the psychiatrist in a 130-page report leaked to the tabloid newspapers Kronen Zeitung and �sterreich.

Fritzl, 73, is awaiting trial for sexually abusing and incarcerating his daughter Elisabeth, 42, in a dungeon beneath his house in the town of Amstetten. He fathered seven children by her, one of whom died shortly after birth.

Three of the surviving children were allowed to live upstairs with him and his wife Rosemarie, 69, while the others were kept in the cellar. They never saw daylight until they were freed by police on April 26.

According to a report compiled by forensic psychiatrist Adelheid Kastner, Fritzl said that his relationship to women was shaped by his experience with his abusive mother, who allegedly beat him and isolated him from other children until he started school, the Times of London said in a report.

The report declared Fritzl clinically sane and fit for trial, but also diagnosed a 'severe combined personality disorder and a sexual disorder'.

On the basis of her report, the prosecution has demanded from the court that Fritzl be tried and sentenced, then committed to an institution for the criminally insane.

The trial is expected to start next year.
 
Last night a bicycle dashed across the road all of a sudden after the traffic light turned green in my favour, and I already moved off from stationary position. Fortunately I stepped hard on the brakes upon seeing him. The taxi next to me almost knocked him down.
 
Some cyclists are really a**holes - it's ok if they cycle on the road, but to the extent of obstructing the cars, they are really courting trouble.
Like in Doll's case, that cyclist thought he is Ferrari-material?
 
Rainy days are usually accident-prone.... and the jam would b more impactful.

On rainy Wed morning, encountered a massive jam on AYE towards Clementi Ave 6.... got stuck for more than 30mins to get past the accident site. Was a four car crash.
And prior to that, i saw an accident at J.West St 92... TP gotta blocked the road from 200 metres away cos' the wrecked cars would have obstructed the traffic...

For me, I don't kaypoh like some drivers do. Just pray that the injured parties (if any) are fine and well..
 
Vios,

Were you around that area on Wed? I got stuck there for so long, was so worried that I couldn't make it for my uncle's funeral. But I did not see any accident leh.. What time was the accident at st 92? I am at 93
 
Re. Alvin Tan's letter, i don't think he have dated so many Sg women to generalise like that.

At first read, i already could list up more than seven female friends who are more than happy to pick up the tab... and more than ten who won't mind shelling prawns for their bf/hubby.

And as i was reading Alvin's points which are considered "some small, petty stuffs" in my opinon (but Feminist, in his opinion), i simply picture him as a big-time MCP.
This mind, that mind... send gals home after a date also KPKB... he is really boliao, man.

At hindsight, i don't rem being asked to carry my ex-gfs' handbags nor my wife's and walking ard Orchard unless for valid reasons. But there was one ex-gf who wanted me to do that even though she was empty-handed. I simply told her that i don't like to do that loh. Straight-forward mah... he's still keeping this grudge in his heart for what f**k.

Hence, i don't think Sherry's reply was all that harsh.
 
Rin, yep i needed to go by that road to rh my destination but the TP waved me to U-turn as the two cars (or maybe more) obstructed the traffic flow.... Beside the accident site, there is a nearby Caltex and an old NTU monument. Think you might know where it is liao...

was there at 9.30am++
 
Green, I agree that drivers can get heart attacks easily. Some times after a close-shave incident on the road like last night, I would find myself feeling very hungry suddenly!
 
Rin, yupz. Tail-back all the way to Corporation Rd exit.

I think, 8+ to 9 (towards town) normally is the peak hr traffic.
 

My student didn't speak at all for the whole day leh. Her mum just passed away last week. I feel sorry for her. I don't know how to grade her for today's work. Students get F for not doing any work.
 
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