Hi,
Im a 33 years old woman, married for 9 years with no child.
Found out my husband infidelity in Sept 2014.
Here how is goes :
I was very suspicious of his acts when he started to went out on every wkends & came home late on weekdays.
I knew im not right to search through his stuffs but i feel lost.
When i search through his stuffs, i found an ATM a condo entrance card, a branded wallet & branded pen (which he usually do not buy) & a few restaurant receipts. ATM belongs to a China Girl name. And i managed to find out from his ez-link records that he alwys travel to the condo area. And worst of all, a 5 pages love letters from this China Girl.
When he is home, i confronted him. He denied.
I wanted to find the China Girl but i do not have the courage.
What if its true that he really cheated? Or should i based on what i found to deem him cheating?
Soon, i became very paranoid. I dont trust him, i will doubt his words.
And true enough, he admitted there is this China Girl existence but she have left him after knowing he is married. I thought, that his infidelity is over & we also promised to keep the marriage & try to work on it.
But..... i found he kept another woman ATM card & the same condo entrance card with a few of his other bank ATM cards (which i dont even know he opened so many accts), worst.... i found a passport size photo of a woman.
Again, i confronted him. He pushed everything away & accused me of invading his privacy that im digging through his stuffs. I was totally heartbroken, he do not care about how i feel at all. Shouted at me as if he is totally not in the wrong. Always claimed that his infidelity is because that im bad to him.
I have been trying to be a good wife, i prepare food for him & try to maintain the marriage, arrange outings with him. He accused that i never give him freedom & always controlling him..
Now, i totally gave up. What im concern is our flat. HDB mentioned that as i have no child, i need wait till 35 years old to do transfer share (he is willing not to take his CPF share).
Im in a very dilemma situation. Do i have to tolerate him 2 years so that i can take over the flat? I need the flat as i have no parents, no place to go to. Do i have to wait 2 years later & file separation & wait another 2 years?
Anyone have same situation like me? Any advise? What is the steps to divorce?
Need help. Thanks
Im a 33 years old woman, married for 9 years with no child.
Found out my husband infidelity in Sept 2014.
Here how is goes :
I was very suspicious of his acts when he started to went out on every wkends & came home late on weekdays.
I knew im not right to search through his stuffs but i feel lost.
When i search through his stuffs, i found an ATM a condo entrance card, a branded wallet & branded pen (which he usually do not buy) & a few restaurant receipts. ATM belongs to a China Girl name. And i managed to find out from his ez-link records that he alwys travel to the condo area. And worst of all, a 5 pages love letters from this China Girl.
When he is home, i confronted him. He denied.
I wanted to find the China Girl but i do not have the courage.
What if its true that he really cheated? Or should i based on what i found to deem him cheating?
Soon, i became very paranoid. I dont trust him, i will doubt his words.
And true enough, he admitted there is this China Girl existence but she have left him after knowing he is married. I thought, that his infidelity is over & we also promised to keep the marriage & try to work on it.
But..... i found he kept another woman ATM card & the same condo entrance card with a few of his other bank ATM cards (which i dont even know he opened so many accts), worst.... i found a passport size photo of a woman.
Again, i confronted him. He pushed everything away & accused me of invading his privacy that im digging through his stuffs. I was totally heartbroken, he do not care about how i feel at all. Shouted at me as if he is totally not in the wrong. Always claimed that his infidelity is because that im bad to him.
I have been trying to be a good wife, i prepare food for him & try to maintain the marriage, arrange outings with him. He accused that i never give him freedom & always controlling him..
Now, i totally gave up. What im concern is our flat. HDB mentioned that as i have no child, i need wait till 35 years old to do transfer share (he is willing not to take his CPF share).
Im in a very dilemma situation. Do i have to tolerate him 2 years so that i can take over the flat? I need the flat as i have no parents, no place to go to. Do i have to wait 2 years later & file separation & wait another 2 years?
Anyone have same situation like me? Any advise? What is the steps to divorce?
Need help. Thanks