Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple

Hello Girls, back from the shoot and had a good shower to remove all that gunk and cake on my face(!!)

To answer Cuclainne & Huichin & Raf, Meraj and I did have a fun time at the shoot. Nothing conventional. But we were blown away by the photographer's technicality - glad I spent our money on him - I think he was one of our splurges.

The dress made it - not exactly as I wanted originally but very close. I had to give it to the bridal shop for pulling an allnighter to ensure that I got something in the end which is closest to what I "envisioned". And I appreciate the limited resources seeing the material they have presently from the "wrong" dress. All is good...

The CDs will only be ready mid February so I will let you girls have a sneak peak then...

Elaine, welcome back girl! Work has been keeping you busy huh? So are you joining us on 13th?

Zierella, Marche is Swiss. I think...It's like stations in the entire place and you just order and pay at the end of the meal with your "ticket".
 


Hi marnie... ken i noe which bridal photo shoot u took from?

btw, i totally agree on d DIY for d dulangz. coz d rate nowadays is @ 35/dulangz. it may b a real gud quality & nice & all but aft dat, d thing gonna lie ard waitin for d next weddin couple which might need it... no hard feelgs thou.

d amt u gonna apend is best to put it sumwer more rewardable & meaningful.

juz a suggestion thou.
 
Hi Nurashida, my photographer is Ngiap Heng from The Pond Photographer. It's not in any way connected to the bridal shop I've engaged. We're going all the way ala carte.

Photographs are very important to me so I don't mind spending it on that one. They're like memories etched and captured of a period in my life.

Re. the dulang, yes I totally agree with you on that point. But perhaps the pengantin want to spend on them cos' they have other siblings/cousins getting married and they are sharing the costs then it'll be worth it.

Everything about a wedding is very subjective though. It's totally up to the couple and their financial means.
 
Morning Girls!

Where's everyone and what's everyone been up to over the holiday weekend?

Moi has been sleeping in a lot and been going to Ikea to look at the cupboards. I need some more wardrobe space for my clothes!
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Meraj kept rolling his eyes at Ikea last night.

Cuclainne, Maybe Meraj can dress up and wear make-up and sit with your Ah Boy at our meeting on 13th.
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Hopefully!
 
Marnie

Alrightie - I am doing this pin-up calendar of important (ahem!) events so I'm penning this in (not using pencil ah!). I'm going to tack it up on the cork-board wall we have in the study so we won't forget!
 
Cuclainne, that's so farnee.....It's like me writing to Meraj emails to list out all the appointments and meetings we have...our dates and all......
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What happened to the rest of the Girls?
 
Marnie

Don't know ... maybe they are busy la. Just so they don't forget about our date on the 13th yah. By the way, are you bringing Meraj?
 
Um, Meraj says he's most likely coming. He's got a full day conference at Le Meridien so should be able to join us for dinner.
 
Marnie

Excellent - then Ah Boy will have company .. not that he won't enjoy the company of ladies during dinner. Hehehehe ...

Hui Chin

Sure you can't get Fi to come along?
 
Cuclainne, just park the boys together at one corner and I'm sure they'll be alright and complaining to each other about us. That and watching what we eat - I suspect that's why Meraj is willing to come along (!!)
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Yeah, Chin, talk and persuade Fi to come too lah...
 
Hi Girls,

haha..been bz wif CNY...so many things to do at home! haha...and....whoa lah! 1st few days of CNY has gone...haha..helping mum at home and stuff.

Cuclainne/Marnie: haha...I've asked Fi abt it again...he feels tt this gathering is really meant for us girls. Unless it's a couples' outing! This time it's like a girls' nite out to him - soOooo he asks us to have fun! muahahaha...nevermind, i'll enjoy on his behalf!
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SooooOooo...here u go! lol

ANyways, 7pm at Marche sounds fine to me too!

Anymore to add to THE list??
1) Marnie
2) Cuclainne
3) Me aka Hui Chin
4) Nur(sofia)
5) Zierella
6) Ally
7) Raf

Date : 13 Feb 2006, Mon
Time : 7pm
Venue: Marche Suntec
 
hi its me!! I been very busy lah.. enjoyed too much over the long weekend so now saddled with work.. havent even had lunch!
But yea, yea, see you girls soon!!
 
Cuclainne, 13th is still a week away...you not popping in here anymore huh?

Oh, by the way, Meraj realised that the conference starts later so he may join us later. Make sure Ah Boy blends in with the girls that day (slap some makeup and make him wear a skirt!)
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Nur, tell me about it. I've got work piling up the table. Spent 4 hours with the same 7 clients in the afternoon. Distributed their money from their late mom's estate and one of them was creating some drama so me being irritated and put off by her greed, sternly told her that her inheritance can buy a good and well sized resale 4 room flat. Then she felt faint after me saying that.
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These people ah....

Updates : I'm seriously having to start working on the dulang hantaran. Haven't started on that. Bleh....I'm just going with scrap left-over fabrics I have to make the base of the trays. They should be fine.
 
Marnie

Hahahahahah ... I will still be hanging around here, don't worry about that ... just wanted to remind everyone about the inevitable!! Hahahaha!!

Eh ... you so garang one to your clients ah? Can meh?
 
Cuclainne, usually I'm not so garang one..but these clients are really greedy and I can't stand it. The girls of the family each inherit S$200K yet they are still complaining. I wanted to put things in perspective for them. Not that they are destitute at the moment - they're all living in landed properties mind you...
 
Cuclainne, these 2 weeks, I'll be jammed packed at work. Bleh....not too happy about that one.

Eh..so how's your dinner venue search going? Any shortlisted venues already? Got about a month left....

Me still have about 2 hours left...think I'll have to OT.....Urrgghghhh!
 
Marnie

I have things to do too ... but hey, it's Friday! Weekend mood already .. hahahaa!

We still haven't decided on a venue yet. Ah Boy thought perhaps Chijmes would be a suitable venue and we were supposed to check that out as well as The Gallery Hotel but we've been so lazy! Aiyah!

You have to OT?! That is soo sad! I have been doing housework when I come home from work - Ah Boy not home mah so I have to keep myself busy with something. So domesticated eh! And this man will always leave me things to do. Hmmph!
 
Hi gals..

Been sometime since I have posted anything..I was down with a bad bad flu over the CNY holidays..while i was vacationing in Malaysia!! Still feel so weak rite now but still working..i must be the employee of the month rite?! hehe

Cuclainne
Hehehe is it tiring being a married woman? Sometimes I cant imagine my cousin, who has to work, worry about her 2 children constantly and do housework when she gets home! Must be a superwoman hehe..I cant imagine doing all that..i would prob be stick thin and depressed all the time..! But of course, I have already asserted quite strongly to my FH that He has to share the housework, and he will be in charge of the more tedious, tiring one like vacuuming, ironing clothes(im super bad at it) etc heheh..

Anyways cuclainne, did ur husband apply for PR in singapore? I heard its harder for a wife to get her non-singaporean husband the PR as compared to a husband bringing his non singaporean wife in. Is this true?
 
Zierella

You can plan all you want right now but be prepared for those promises not to materialise when you are married! Hahahaha! Just kidding though seriously, before we got married - we did lay down the rules and who does what, etc but it never came to be. But we've managed to work out a compromise - I do the dishes, laundry, ironing, etc (all the things he don't like - he did admit that he got the better end of the deal) and he does the vacuuming, mopping and fixing of appliances, etc. If I cook, then he does the dishes. But usually over the weekends, he tries to 'pamper' me by making and serving me breakfast and even doing the dishes afterwards.

My hubby will be applying for PR under the spouse category. I don't think it will be much harder than it would be for a Singaporean man to apply for his non-Singaporean wife.
 
Eh eh.....Cuclainne, I was laughing when I was reading your post.

As it is now, whenever Meraj cooks, he'll want me to peel and chop the ingredients. I'm like "huh?" He says he hates those stuff. So, I leave the dishes and stuff for him to wash lah.
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Oooh Girls, one more week to our pig-out session at Marche....
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Marnie

I usually chase Ah Boy away from the kitchen if I am cooking. I don't like him hanging around unless I need him to open a jar or something. I admit that sometimes I do nag at him la cos he needs to be reminded to do his chores. Hahaha .. but he's slightly trained now. He's doing his own dishes after breakfast (I'm on my way to work by the time he wakes up) so I won't be 'pleasantly' surprised by the mess afterwards when I come home. Very good!

Ya ya .. I can't wait till the 13th!
 
Aiyah...not Monday blues Cuclainne....it's a case of the paperwork piling as usual and then being present at the firm's CNY tea reception. A time when I have to shamelessly suck up to the partners...Bleh....uuurrgghghh!

Re. the cooking. Me too. I don't really like it when he's walking around the kitchen not helping out constructively. I rather him just stay out if he has nothing to contribute. But he has to wash the dishes after I cook lah.....fair exchange what....
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I'm actually grieving over how to hold up my table nos/names and menus (double sided heavy cardstock) the last week or so. The girls from the other thread have been super to help me come up with options and I need now to hunt for florist wire at Spotlight to do a mock up. And I still have yet to do a mock up of my bouquet. But I did one for my friend who had her ROM 2 weeks ago....super proud of me..
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*kembang Idyll*
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Marnie

Even though it's so sweet of Ah Boy to volunteer to do the household chores on weekends, I'm one of those people who can't stand it - knowing that the pile of dishes are in the sink not being washed, clothes in the laundry bag not dealt with, etc. Last weekend I promised not to touch the dishes but when I was heading to my room, I popped my head into the kitchen and immediately went to 'work'. Hahahahaha! Ah Boy heard and came to the kitchen, saying that he heard me doing some illegal work. Hahahaha! He told me to stop but by then, left only 2 dishes to wash. Hmmm ..

Oh .. are you going to use the florist wire to come up with a fabulous contraption to hold up the table nos/names and menus? Like those that hold up pictures? Good one!! Do you think I will need a hand bouquet for my dinner?
 
Cuclainne, I'm still figuring out the obsessive need for us women to just clear the sink. I mean, my household has 4 people. And the amount of dishes in the sink, you'd think we have like a whole 3 generations living under one roof! Spend time in the kitchen washing up every single night. Aiyoh.....I hope by the time I get married, washing dishes is not on my to-do list.
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Re. the wire. Yeah. I'm going to try to wind the wire to "lock" the nose ring to hold the table nos/name and menus up. My other option was to use the black binder clip and turn it around. Embelish the clip with something glamourous and we're done. Oh....have to "fasten" that with blue tac or something to be doubly sure. Not sure yet which one we're going with but I'm up to try anything.

Hmm...flowers...Not sure. You can carry a small posey if you'd like so that it will not be intrusive but if you're going to be dancing a lot, then you can carry a small posey/pomender that you carry on a handle if you decide to carry one at all.

I'm having a small posey. Before our "arrival" it'll sit at the reception welcome table. Then after our arrival, if I decide not to carry it with me, I'll pop it in a hurricane vase on the sweetheart table we're having as part of the deco.

Okay Girls, need your input here. I think I've asked this before but my memory is failing...(first signs of aging!
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). What to put in our "out-of-town bags". So far we have:-

(1) brocade tissue packs with tissue
(2) sandalwood fans or batik fans
(3) bottle of water from Guardian (it only cost 40 cents each!)
(4) Tic Tac
(5) Axe Oil
(6) Aspirin

.....together with pre-requisite maps and directions and all. But other than that we're stuck. We wanted something more Singaporean ....oooh...just thought of something...touristy Singapore magnet? Our budget is S$10.00 per room/bag. Help.....
 
Marnie

Ah Boy has a solution to the dish problem. He said to not wash the dishes until you need to use them - then wash the dishes in the sink to use and put them back when dirty until the next time you need to use. That way, you don't need to use the other clean plates in the cupboards. Hmmm ... that's like an invitation to certain bugs!! Open buffet!!

Tiger balm is something Singaporean. Oh - there is a stall at Suntec City that sells lovely Singaporean magnets which you can insert a small photo on for about $5 each. Which reminds me - I will need to do a gift bag for my best woman .. hmm ..
 
Oooh........feather boa comes to mind when it comes to matron of honour, Cuclainne...i know I'd give mine that..(!)
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I wanted Tiger Balm too (instead of axe oil) but it's tad bit costly. We'll see what we can come up with....
 
Marnie

Feather boas? By the way, you remember me telling you about cracking that joke when I found her and Ah Boy talking in the kitchen together after the ceremony? That is her la! I must put in some gag gifts too... hahahaa, just for fun!
 
Heheheheh....Cuclainne, then feather boas is definitely for her lah! Arab Street sells them cheap.....
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I'm tempted to wind feather boas around my wedding cake now just to throw in a bit of glamour....(okay..I know you Girls are sick to your tummy now hearing me talk like a diva...
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Marnie

When are you going to Arab Street next? Let me know so I can tag along to get the boas for her.. hehehehe, this should be fun!

Aiyah ... nothing wrong with being a diva when it comes to your wedding day, yah!
 
Don't tempt me about Arab Street Cuclainne. I went there last weekend to accompany my girlfriend (who's Arab Street Virgin...
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) to get material for the cheongsam she wants to don at my wedding...so vain this woman...my wedding and she wants to dress up....
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I can go this weekend if you'd like cos' next weekend will be tight with meetings and trying to do mock ups of my dulang hantaran.
 
Hi Girls,

Head count again:
1) Marnie
2) Cuclainne
3) Me aka Hui Chin
4) Nur(sofia)
5) Zierella
6) Ally
7) Raf
8) Elaine - oso!

Date : 13 Feb 2006, Mon
Time : 7pm
Venue: Marche Suntec

Marnie: I think Hacks (sweets) is more old skool and suitable than tic tac! haha...
lookin for smthing to use, or to munch on - to add on to the bag?
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Marnie

Alamak .. this weekend ah? I have to go to Ikea to buy some wine glasses (78 glasses!!!) for a function at work and then we're attending a CNY function in the evening. Aiyah!! Guess we'll have to make it another day then..

Yes .. my best woman already prepared herself to wear a dress to my dinner but I can't have her or anyone else looking more pretty than me, right!!!
 
Chin, Meraj suggested Tic Tac....I laughed when he suggested it. But it's quirky lah so it fits in the scheme of things and reflect who we are and this relationship and wedding. having said that..I love the blackcurrent ones....
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OOooh....Cuclainne, I do hope you have some people to assist you there or it'll be terribly difficult to lug those glasses yourself.

No worries re. Arab Street. Perhaps towards the end of the month or first week of March then. Will that be alright with you?
 
Marnie

Yes - that'll be 13 boxes to lug back. I thought I might have to bring it back home first and then to the office on Friday 17 March but Ah Boy won't have any of it. He said we're going straight to the office from Ikea and leaving the glasses there. I might have to ask my brother to come along.. sianz!

No worries about that - still some time for that.
 
Cuclainne, I'm agreeing with Ah Boy there. No point you lugging back to home and then to your office all those 13 boxes - madness! Can you imagine climbing the stairs with those? Eeekkkk - don't want to even think about that...
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K, it looks like I'm going with the binder clip menu/table no./names holder. Spoke to my Admin dept and they will order them for me. 12 pieces for $2 so I can spend on the tassels, beads, sequins what nots embelishments for the binders....
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Talk about frugal creativity....
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Chin, how are things with you....at work....? Still OTing? Any moves yet re. the wedding prep?

Eh.....what happened to the rest of the girls?
 
Marnie

True but I was thinking of buying some other stuff for my home too. Aiyah, we'll see. Then I can make him walk from the office to our place to know how far it is to walk to-and-fro every working day for me.

So clever! You must let us see how it works out in the end yah!
 


Marnie: haha..me ah, work ok la..not so sososoo bad la..

Moves...for the wedding..no leh...nothin's moving me to get going man...eeiikkk....lol
 
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