Any Mixed Marriages here? Esp Chinese-Malay Muslim couple
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Cuclainne, you're sooo true (!) - rugby is the only sport I understand (rules and all) and play so I'd rather watch that than soccer.
Actually contemplating whether I want to spend Gs going to HongKong end March to watch Rugby Sevens...
It'll be tough with the chaos with the wedding and all. Heh
Eh...so how Girls....the 23rd? Or should we just make in on a normal weekday and not restrict it to Friday? Hmm.....toughie!
Actually contemplating whether I want to spend Gs going to HongKong end March to watch Rugby Sevens...
Eh...so how Girls....the 23rd? Or should we just make in on a normal weekday and not restrict it to Friday? Hmm.....toughie!
Nur, you can't book now. You have to calculate backwards the wedding must happen 150 days of registering. What I did was to email ROMM and advise them our date, and ask them to confirm the earliest date we can make the e-application.
These days cannot "chop" the kadi before registering already. Everything is transparent.
And yeah.....I'll go to HK at the risk to coming back to WW3...
Better not.
Cuclainne, yeah I thought that maybe on Fridays would be better. More relaxed and all. But we'll take a vote to see how or else have to wait till March already.
Ally, wah...your hubby also February huh? Wah...too many birthdays going on in Feb.
K Girls, who's okay with Mid week Wednesday? Say on 15th... Hands up who can go.
These days cannot "chop" the kadi before registering already. Everything is transparent.
And yeah.....I'll go to HK at the risk to coming back to WW3...
Cuclainne, yeah I thought that maybe on Fridays would be better. More relaxed and all. But we'll take a vote to see how or else have to wait till March already.
Ally, wah...your hubby also February huh? Wah...too many birthdays going on in Feb.
K Girls, who's okay with Mid week Wednesday? Say on 15th... Hands up who can go.
Cuclainne, I should be alright but then it's a bit too soon or else the rest of the girls can't make it. Why won't we make it till after CNY?
Um, we`re having studio shots with film stills. Conrad room shots. Little India/Arab Street. Not sure about Changi Airport yet cos` that was a last minute thought. But it is a sentimental shot if we are taking it at Changi Airport.
How Girls? What's your preferred dates? Don't be shy lah....Come come.
Ally, wahh..........have you baked any cookies or not? Me want some...*tak malu Idyll*
Um, we`re having studio shots with film stills. Conrad room shots. Little India/Arab Street. Not sure about Changi Airport yet cos` that was a last minute thought. But it is a sentimental shot if we are taking it at Changi Airport.
How Girls? What's your preferred dates? Don't be shy lah....Come come.
Ally, wahh..........have you baked any cookies or not? Me want some...*tak malu Idyll*
Ally
Oh .. don't get me started. Yesterday Ah Boy already kena from me - he has a habit of stroking my tummy, no matter where we are. His mom was getting a bit suspicious but I am not preggie (we are taking precaution cos don't want to have babies so soon). So kena from me la ... you should see the quizzical look she had on her face la.
Oh .. don't get me started. Yesterday Ah Boy already kena from me - he has a habit of stroking my tummy, no matter where we are. His mom was getting a bit suspicious but I am not preggie (we are taking precaution cos don't want to have babies so soon). So kena from me la ... you should see the quizzical look she had on her face la.
Hi everyone....hope u dun mind me intruding. I googled 'zulradi' and found a link to this thread. Just finished reading through the archives. WOW!!! There is a wealth of very useful info in this thread.
Ok....I'm malay muslim and not getting married to a chinese guy. My FH is punjabi. Hope I don't get kicked out of here. I'm getting married in Nov.....but i haven't planned anything. Don't even know where to start...in a panic mode at the moment after I read how early some of the bride-to-bes here started planning. Looks like I'm gonna have to get off my lazy bum and start putting some stuff together soon.
Ok....I'm malay muslim and not getting married to a chinese guy. My FH is punjabi. Hope I don't get kicked out of here. I'm getting married in Nov.....but i haven't planned anything. Don't even know where to start...in a panic mode at the moment after I read how early some of the bride-to-bes here started planning. Looks like I'm gonna have to get off my lazy bum and start putting some stuff together soon.
Hui Chin
Nope ... I want to be 'Ms' for as long as I can get away with it. Hahahahaha ...
Hi Raf
Of course you are welcome to join in. You are getting married in Nov this year? Then you have some time but perhaps it would be best if you could do some preparations. I got married last Saturday but I only got into the full swing of things just two months before. Start small and eventually you'll get everything done.
Nope ... I want to be 'Ms' for as long as I can get away with it. Hahahahaha ...
Hi Raf
Of course you are welcome to join in. You are getting married in Nov this year? Then you have some time but perhaps it would be best if you could do some preparations. I got married last Saturday but I only got into the full swing of things just two months before. Start small and eventually you'll get everything done.
Hello hello Raf!
Don't worry, my fiance is of Bangladeshi descent if I haven't already mentioned in the archives. So we're in the same "boat" so to speak.
So you'll fit in just as well.
Gosh! november and not done anything? I'll personally kick your arse. just kidding. Seriously, you need to get moving. At least book your choice mak andam and the caterer. November/December is a hot month to get married, no?
Eh eh ehh.....Ally, Chin & Cuclainne, I know that you can still collect ang pow in your first year of marriage right?
But I second Ally's suggestion to go collect ang pow for kids. Then after that, put in bank for their marriage expenses...right Ally?
Chin, I'm okay with both dates.
Girls, to chase the Monday blues, hands up who can make it to dinner on either 6 February or 13 February. Need to get a headacount.
Cuclainne, as your (unpaid) lawyer...ahem! a gentle reminder for you to send in a new nomination for CPF and insurances (DPS if with NTUC) cos' old nominations will be revoked upon marriage. Do it soon!
Don't worry, my fiance is of Bangladeshi descent if I haven't already mentioned in the archives. So we're in the same "boat" so to speak.
Gosh! november and not done anything? I'll personally kick your arse. just kidding. Seriously, you need to get moving. At least book your choice mak andam and the caterer. November/December is a hot month to get married, no?
Eh eh ehh.....Ally, Chin & Cuclainne, I know that you can still collect ang pow in your first year of marriage right?
But I second Ally's suggestion to go collect ang pow for kids. Then after that, put in bank for their marriage expenses...right Ally?
Chin, I'm okay with both dates.
Girls, to chase the Monday blues, hands up who can make it to dinner on either 6 February or 13 February. Need to get a headacount.
Cuclainne, as your (unpaid) lawyer...ahem! a gentle reminder for you to send in a new nomination for CPF and insurances (DPS if with NTUC) cos' old nominations will be revoked upon marriage. Do it soon!
Marnie,
Yuppers! During 1st yr of marriage still can get ang pao. But paisay lah! Wat to do? Ppl wan to give..we take lah!
Rgdg the collection of ang pao for kids and saving them for marriage expenses..kinda true lah. For my case, my ang pao collections were used to pay for my house reno.
Shikes!! Marnie - tat reminds me of my CPF and insurances..think I have not even change my nominations ever since I got married..jialat!!
Cuclainne
Speaking of holding on to the title Ms...think I manage to hold tat title till now..hahaha..except for formal events..bleh...
worse off..when they address u as Mdm..aiya!! I'm only 27 - already mdm..like so old like tat.
Raf,
Hei, welcome girl! As an intro - I'm Malay/Peranakan girl married to a Malay husband. Dun b shy to ask questions. We try to help in any possible way that we can.
Yuppers! During 1st yr of marriage still can get ang pao. But paisay lah! Wat to do? Ppl wan to give..we take lah!
Rgdg the collection of ang pao for kids and saving them for marriage expenses..kinda true lah. For my case, my ang pao collections were used to pay for my house reno.
Shikes!! Marnie - tat reminds me of my CPF and insurances..think I have not even change my nominations ever since I got married..jialat!!
Cuclainne
Speaking of holding on to the title Ms...think I manage to hold tat title till now..hahaha..except for formal events..bleh...
worse off..when they address u as Mdm..aiya!! I'm only 27 - already mdm..like so old like tat.
Raf,
Hei, welcome girl! As an intro - I'm Malay/Peranakan girl married to a Malay husband. Dun b shy to ask questions. We try to help in any possible way that we can.
Ally
No 'Mdm' for me, please. We were having this discussion with his mother and her companion over dinner a few days ago, after we've had the wedding. She wanted to know if I was going to use the salutation 'Mrs' but I was telling her I was so confused and Ah Boy wasn't helping much in that dept. So Ah Boy replied that back home, 'Ms' are with reference to young people and 'Mrs' to old people (hahahahaha!). His mother looked at her plane ticket and realised it said 'Ms' so she was mighty pleased with herself cos she's deemed as still being young then ... hahahaha.
No 'Mdm' for me, please. We were having this discussion with his mother and her companion over dinner a few days ago, after we've had the wedding. She wanted to know if I was going to use the salutation 'Mrs' but I was telling her I was so confused and Ah Boy wasn't helping much in that dept. So Ah Boy replied that back home, 'Ms' are with reference to young people and 'Mrs' to old people (hahahahaha!). His mother looked at her plane ticket and realised it said 'Ms' so she was mighty pleased with herself cos she's deemed as still being young then ... hahahaha.
Hey ladies...thanks for the warm welcome! Glad I have experienced ladies to ans my queries and help me get moving on wedding preps. Thanks.
cuclainne
Congratulations!!! You must be relieved now that everything is over and you can get on with married life. Thanks for the advice. I think I will start off from today. As the malay saying goes...pelan-pelan kayuh. Hehe...
Marnie
Yeah....we're sort of in the same boat aren't we?
I know I deserve that arse kicking from you.
Looking at how early u started your wedding preps makes me feel so guilty lah. Heh.
You know what? The fiance and I plan to have our wedding dinner at ACM too. So when I read all your posts in the archives, I was thinking to myself.....oh my goodness....what a coincidence. The malay / Indian theme....the venue. Cool....
The difference...you've got it all down to the T. I just have a very blurred vision in my head. Heh....and it's kinda difficult trying to inject aspects of the Punjabi culture cos my fiance is more westernised and China-fied..if there is such a word. He doesn't really know his culture that well. Imagine...he can speak mandarin, cantonese and hokkien but not his own second language. Heh....
Ally
Thanks for the warm welcome. I will ask many many questions in time to come. Especially since you have all the experience that I can tap into.
Hey ladies,
I might need some advise on something. There is a reason why I haven't really gotten down to planning anything for my wedding. My perfect wedding date would be 20th April 2007 for sentimental reasons..hehe..cos it marks the 7th year we've been together. So i guess not planning anything yet is a kind of silent act of rebellion...subconsciously of course. In my head..my wedding will be on 20th April 2007 NOT NOV this year.
The problem is...his parents insist that we get married earlier. My mum and grandma is ok with 2007...his parents are not. So how do I convince them??? Help!!!
cuclainne
Congratulations!!! You must be relieved now that everything is over and you can get on with married life. Thanks for the advice. I think I will start off from today. As the malay saying goes...pelan-pelan kayuh. Hehe...
Marnie
Yeah....we're sort of in the same boat aren't we?
I know I deserve that arse kicking from you.
You know what? The fiance and I plan to have our wedding dinner at ACM too. So when I read all your posts in the archives, I was thinking to myself.....oh my goodness....what a coincidence. The malay / Indian theme....the venue. Cool....
The difference...you've got it all down to the T. I just have a very blurred vision in my head. Heh....and it's kinda difficult trying to inject aspects of the Punjabi culture cos my fiance is more westernised and China-fied..if there is such a word. He doesn't really know his culture that well. Imagine...he can speak mandarin, cantonese and hokkien but not his own second language. Heh....
Ally
Thanks for the warm welcome. I will ask many many questions in time to come. Especially since you have all the experience that I can tap into.
Hey ladies,
I might need some advise on something. There is a reason why I haven't really gotten down to planning anything for my wedding. My perfect wedding date would be 20th April 2007 for sentimental reasons..hehe..cos it marks the 7th year we've been together. So i guess not planning anything yet is a kind of silent act of rebellion...subconsciously of course. In my head..my wedding will be on 20th April 2007 NOT NOV this year.
The problem is...his parents insist that we get married earlier. My mum and grandma is ok with 2007...his parents are not. So how do I convince them??? Help!!!
Raf, So coincidental! Um, I'd have to say though that Meraj (my fiance) is definitely a westernised person. He moved to London when he was 13. Boarding school and universities later, he moved to Australia. He always reiterates he's Australian first and foremost...(insert eyeball roll here).
We thought it'll be cool to have a mix of our cultures. Since we're having a reception at a modern non-traditional venue, we want to have some aspects of our traditions and cultures - hence Indian/malay theme.
Re. your wedding date predicament. Um, I think I know where his parents are going. 7 years is very long to wait for a wedding.
If you're prolonging to get married till 2007 only for sentimental reasons, um, well, I understand why it would hold no water to them. But if you're deferring marriage to have enough for marriage expenses, I'd say go for it in 2007. I'm sorry if I were to be harsh in this post, but this is my humble opinion. Old saying says not good to prolong marriage....(hmm..who's the mak nenek now?
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We thought it'll be cool to have a mix of our cultures. Since we're having a reception at a modern non-traditional venue, we want to have some aspects of our traditions and cultures - hence Indian/malay theme.
Re. your wedding date predicament. Um, I think I know where his parents are going. 7 years is very long to wait for a wedding.
If you're prolonging to get married till 2007 only for sentimental reasons, um, well, I understand why it would hold no water to them. But if you're deferring marriage to have enough for marriage expenses, I'd say go for it in 2007. I'm sorry if I were to be harsh in this post, but this is my humble opinion. Old saying says not good to prolong marriage....(hmm..who's the mak nenek now?
Raf
I had my nikah ceremony last Saturday but will be having my dinner and bersanding in March. It was hard to organise things on my own (because hubby was not here) but thankfully I've had a lot of support from my family. I sourced for quotations first and then focus on the ones which seems more to my liking (and budget, of course). In the midst of it, I did face some adversity but manage to overcome it and eventually everything came together.
Marnie
Hahahaha .. no one can topple you from that position ah! Hehehehe ... just kidding!
I had my nikah ceremony last Saturday but will be having my dinner and bersanding in March. It was hard to organise things on my own (because hubby was not here) but thankfully I've had a lot of support from my family. I sourced for quotations first and then focus on the ones which seems more to my liking (and budget, of course). In the midst of it, I did face some adversity but manage to overcome it and eventually everything came together.
Marnie
Hahahaha .. no one can topple you from that position ah! Hehehehe ... just kidding!
Hey hey hey Girls. We both survived the interview today - YIPPEE!!
The waiting was for 45 minutes. Each of us spent like 5 minutes in there. We got Ustaz Karim. Meraj and him spent the time talking about the imam in south asia (the ustaz was born in Pakistan apparently) and the fact that the ustaz's name and Meraj's middle name is the same....
The waiting was for 45 minutes. Each of us spent like 5 minutes in there. We got Ustaz Karim. Meraj and him spent the time talking about the imam in south asia (the ustaz was born in Pakistan apparently) and the fact that the ustaz's name and Meraj's middle name is the same....
Marnie
I am so glad to hear that you survived the interview - not so frightening after all, yah.
Me and Ah Boy went to watch 'Le Grand Voyage' yesterday. It's a French-Arabic movie about a father and son journey to Mecca. The father wanted to complete the pilgrimage but needed his son to drive him there. The son was born and bred in France and didn't really know much about the religion. It's really much about self-discovery and all that ... the ending was quite sad and I must add that I shed a tear or two.
I am so glad to hear that you survived the interview - not so frightening after all, yah.
Me and Ah Boy went to watch 'Le Grand Voyage' yesterday. It's a French-Arabic movie about a father and son journey to Mecca. The father wanted to complete the pilgrimage but needed his son to drive him there. The son was born and bred in France and didn't really know much about the religion. It's really much about self-discovery and all that ... the ending was quite sad and I must add that I shed a tear or two.
marnie,
so i have to go for interview too rite?? scary.. do you know who ur kadi will be?? sorry if u mentioned before.. my lil head cant hold too many things..
Raf!,
Welcome, welcome!! Ya, why not hold your wedding in April 2007? Cos the date is special and you will have enough time to plan. When I went to book some stuff last year, a lot of the shops and wedding people said that nov/dec is a hot period for wedding. if you book late, a lot of things wld've been sanpped up and later the clothes also, you will have less to choose from. U might want to visit taman warisan this sat 27 Jan cos Chinta weddings having a fashion show or somthing and I think it's quite good. But not sure if admission is free. Anyway, like marnie has informed us (i sound like im writing minutes! yuck ), there's malay wedding exhibition at sing expo in feb. so good to get a sense, there r chinese bridal houses/studios too.
so i have to go for interview too rite?? scary.. do you know who ur kadi will be?? sorry if u mentioned before.. my lil head cant hold too many things..
Raf!,
Welcome, welcome!! Ya, why not hold your wedding in April 2007? Cos the date is special and you will have enough time to plan. When I went to book some stuff last year, a lot of the shops and wedding people said that nov/dec is a hot period for wedding. if you book late, a lot of things wld've been sanpped up and later the clothes also, you will have less to choose from. U might want to visit taman warisan this sat 27 Jan cos Chinta weddings having a fashion show or somthing and I think it's quite good. But not sure if admission is free. Anyway, like marnie has informed us (i sound like im writing minutes! yuck ), there's malay wedding exhibition at sing expo in feb. so good to get a sense, there r chinese bridal houses/studios too.
hi Raf,
I would suggest April 2007 - at least the date holds some memories and special. Furthermore gives you more time to plan for the big day.
Marnie,
phew!! finally it's over..glad for you girl!
Cuclainne,
would consider watching the movie also..sounds interesting..
I juz watched Memoirs of a Geisha with Ah Lao. Not bad lah..
I would suggest April 2007 - at least the date holds some memories and special. Furthermore gives you more time to plan for the big day.
Marnie,
phew!! finally it's over..glad for you girl!
Cuclainne,
would consider watching the movie also..sounds interesting..
I juz watched Memoirs of a Geisha with Ah Lao. Not bad lah..
Cuclainne, aiye...I kan cheong for nothing ler...
But on hindsight, it was good for me to be kept on my toes. I was soo psyched that I finished all my shopping on Arab Street ever for the wedding!
Gotta tell you though that as I was sitting there, I saw so many couples who were less than decently dressed. One was sooo pretty (like model!). She wore black pants and long sleeved shirts but the spoiler was she was wearing black bra! Aiyoh....I wanted to bash her head into the wall. Another wore mini skirt. D'oh!
Nur, you have to go for the interview too, after you have submitted online your application. As long as it's 5 weeks before the ceremony. The kadi I have chosen to solemnise our marriage is Ustaz Nor Razak - bilingual.
Gotta tell you though that as I was sitting there, I saw so many couples who were less than decently dressed. One was sooo pretty (like model!). She wore black pants and long sleeved shirts but the spoiler was she was wearing black bra! Aiyoh....I wanted to bash her head into the wall. Another wore mini skirt. D'oh!
Nur, you have to go for the interview too, after you have submitted online your application. As long as it's 5 weeks before the ceremony. The kadi I have chosen to solemnise our marriage is Ustaz Nor Razak - bilingual.
Marnie,
Congrats that you have passed the interview!
Can I ask, for the interview both parties must be present right? When will it be conducted? Cos my fiancee wont be in Singapore so early...plus for the registration of the marriage, I just need to pay $32 and must both parties be present for registration? My cousin said both parties must be present for registration and I started to panic..cos my fiancee wont be here till about 2-3 weeks before nikah!! ughhh i hope not!!
Ally, Marnie,
I LOVE the movie "memoirs of a geisha"! It was so cool... some parts were totally unexpected ( i saw the movie w/o reading the reviews etc) and I loved the way they had the japanese accent when speaking English esp Zhang Ziyi!...so cute heheh..
Cucclaine,
That movie sounds interesting, I'm gonna catch it!
Nur,
When is the exact date of the wedding at Expo? I know Marnie told me before but I forgot hehe..There will be Chinese bridal studios as well? U have any idea which ones are participating?
Congrats that you have passed the interview!
Ally, Marnie,
I LOVE the movie "memoirs of a geisha"! It was so cool... some parts were totally unexpected ( i saw the movie w/o reading the reviews etc) and I loved the way they had the japanese accent when speaking English esp Zhang Ziyi!...so cute heheh..
Cucclaine,
That movie sounds interesting, I'm gonna catch it!
Nur,
When is the exact date of the wedding at Expo? I know Marnie told me before but I forgot hehe..There will be Chinese bridal studios as well? U have any idea which ones are participating?
Hello purplebutterfly! Welcome back girl...Of course I remember you.......how's your baju. Settle already the tempahan?
Zieralla, both parties must be present for the interview - anytime before the intended ceremony, Preferably 5 weeks before. But for Cuclainne, her fiance was in town only 2 weeks before so that got settled right away. Registration/application for intent of marriage can be done online. When your fiance is here, you can immediately go to ROMM for the interview. Just bring the print-out you efiled at home.
Zieralla, both parties must be present for the interview - anytime before the intended ceremony, Preferably 5 weeks before. But for Cuclainne, her fiance was in town only 2 weeks before so that got settled right away. Registration/application for intent of marriage can be done online. When your fiance is here, you can immediately go to ROMM for the interview. Just bring the print-out you efiled at home.
hey,
ya i watched memoirs over the weekend too..Not bad but I didn't remember the ending being like that though from the book. Hmm still think they should ve gotten a japanese actress for the lead.. I like gong li and I know zhang zi yi can act cos of crouching tiger etc.. but hey, give e role to a japanese lah.. hurhur.. i think there's a line in the movie where zi yi says "something is too something" a lil like "the soup is too salty". i couldn't help smiling. I've been watching those maiko documentaries on CNA and of course my fav japan hour.. I love that show and everytime i watch it, feel like going to japan.
zierella, I think marnie said 17, 18, 19 feb.. should be cos that's fri to sunday as usual.
ya i watched memoirs over the weekend too..Not bad but I didn't remember the ending being like that though from the book. Hmm still think they should ve gotten a japanese actress for the lead.. I like gong li and I know zhang zi yi can act cos of crouching tiger etc.. but hey, give e role to a japanese lah.. hurhur.. i think there's a line in the movie where zi yi says "something is too something" a lil like "the soup is too salty". i couldn't help smiling. I've been watching those maiko documentaries on CNA and of course my fav japan hour.. I love that show and everytime i watch it, feel like going to japan.
zierella, I think marnie said 17, 18, 19 feb.. should be cos that's fri to sunday as usual.
Hey Marnie Congrats!!! So happy for ya..hehe
Rgding the 'special' ppl who wore differently, Surprise Surprise! lol
Ally: Oh yea, me watched Memoirs of a Geisha too! actually not bad rite..lol..shows really deep into the japanese culture..
Cuclainne: looking forward to the bersanding? hehe..
and btw,
Raf!
ok girls, 13 Feb 2006, Monday it will be - our next meetup. Onz boh? Who's on??
For now:
1) Marnie
2) Cuclainne
3) Me aka Hui Chin
the rest?? Ally? Nur? IC? Interrace? Zierella? Elaine? purplebutterfly(adura)? Sandra(babybop)? how how? not just US again rite! haha...
I've asked Fi to come along but he said he'll let us ladies to chit chat gossip on our own. It's our time! hahahaa
And where ah?
Rgding the 'special' ppl who wore differently, Surprise Surprise! lol
Ally: Oh yea, me watched Memoirs of a Geisha too! actually not bad rite..lol..shows really deep into the japanese culture..
Cuclainne: looking forward to the bersanding? hehe..
and btw,
ok girls, 13 Feb 2006, Monday it will be - our next meetup. Onz boh? Who's on??
For now:
1) Marnie
2) Cuclainne
3) Me aka Hui Chin
the rest?? Ally? Nur? IC? Interrace? Zierella? Elaine? purplebutterfly(adura)? Sandra(babybop)? how how? not just US again rite! haha...
And where ah?
