Any advice for post nuptials agreement?

supernova

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Hi peeps,
Does anyone have any experience with post nuptials agreement? Would be very glad if you can give me some advice after reading my story.

I think I made a bad decision in July. I married my boyfriend of 3 years. The 1st yr was blissful like any other relationship until one day I decided to check my boyfriend's phone. Turns out he was sex-texting/taunting his ex and he had visited some sleazy ktv parlour. It took awhile to work things out but I decided to give him another chance. And another chance and more chances in the next 2 years to come. Turns out 2 more times I check his phone or laptop, there were always something new and heartbreaking. Msging girls on craiglists, adult friend finder etc. What a rotten egg, yet I still chose to forgive him each.. stupidly I must say.

In Dec last year, I made the decision to give it a clean break and I stayed cleared of him for a month. But long story short, he broke thru my defenses by getting his parents to plead on his behalf. And he promised to be a better man (I can't believe I fell for that -__-") and proposed.

So now, I'm married for just 2 months. And there again, I found him chatting with a girl on Yahoo Msger. Nothing sleazy. Yet.

I'm no longer heartbroken. But I'm so mad with myself for being so stupid. GRRRRRR... And the worst part, is I can't divorce yet!!!

Now can someone tell me if I can make him sign a post-nup stating 75% of our HDB sales proceeds & assets will go to me if I ever find him doing similar stuff again?? Enforceable in Singapore? Yes, I do plan to go to a proper lawyer.

Ok. And yes, please slap me awake.

Thanks in advance *sigh*
 
Supernova, you either love him so much or truly believe he can change for the better. If you indeed love him or believe he can change for the better, ask him to get professional help for his inclination to stray, may be psychological... not an expert here, but is an option to consider.
Another option is to seek to nullify your marriage, though your situation does not fit into the stated conditions to nullify your marriage, but these conditions are not exhaustive so consult a legal counsel.
Final comment is what go is 75% of the HDB if you risk your future further ruin by his irresponsible behavior? Disease? Pregnancy....
 

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