I am a daddy....I just want a place to rant out because I am simply very upset and deep down very hurt.
I am married for 10 years with 2 kids aged 7 and 8. Me and my wife are the same age.
As of now, everyday we are still leading a normal life and we still have like sex once a while.
One day my wife suddenly spoke to me that her love for me is not as great as last time and that she thinks we are together because of commitment. I guess it's really true that maintaining a marriage is tough. We all know married life get monotonous (the world just goes by around work and kids). We lost our initial "making each other's heart race" kind of feeling for many reasons mainly because our priorities changes throughout time. I still love her alot and trying my best to hopefully revive the kind of love we had but she does not seem to put in effort. She knows that I am the one who is loving her more than she loves me. At the same time she is a very strong headed person who is so independent. *sigh*
She said I am a good man (i.e. Father/husband) and I am deeply affected. Why does it always have to happen to people who are "good". Is it because we are boring? And it's easy and I have seen slot of threads that said "it's not his fault but the issue lies with me"!!!!! She just feel I deserve a better woman :'( I mean I am not those entirely boring kind. I do enjoy clubbing and being notti at times but I set my priorities right. I never want to look for affairs outside or ONS.
The feeling of losing her and having a broken family one day scares me and I am been so miserable. I am scare to openly talk about it because I really dont know how to react if she thinks a divorce is the better way out. You know how it sucks when things seems fine but yet its not entirely. Everyone kept saying we have such a beautiful family. Honestly we have what many would want in a family. 2 beautiful kids, financially very stable etc
Wonder how many individuals have such feelings that the love for one another is no longer as strong as before.
I am married for 10 years with 2 kids aged 7 and 8. Me and my wife are the same age.
As of now, everyday we are still leading a normal life and we still have like sex once a while.
One day my wife suddenly spoke to me that her love for me is not as great as last time and that she thinks we are together because of commitment. I guess it's really true that maintaining a marriage is tough. We all know married life get monotonous (the world just goes by around work and kids). We lost our initial "making each other's heart race" kind of feeling for many reasons mainly because our priorities changes throughout time. I still love her alot and trying my best to hopefully revive the kind of love we had but she does not seem to put in effort. She knows that I am the one who is loving her more than she loves me. At the same time she is a very strong headed person who is so independent. *sigh*
She said I am a good man (i.e. Father/husband) and I am deeply affected. Why does it always have to happen to people who are "good". Is it because we are boring? And it's easy and I have seen slot of threads that said "it's not his fault but the issue lies with me"!!!!! She just feel I deserve a better woman :'( I mean I am not those entirely boring kind. I do enjoy clubbing and being notti at times but I set my priorities right. I never want to look for affairs outside or ONS.
The feeling of losing her and having a broken family one day scares me and I am been so miserable. I am scare to openly talk about it because I really dont know how to react if she thinks a divorce is the better way out. You know how it sucks when things seems fine but yet its not entirely. Everyone kept saying we have such a beautiful family. Honestly we have what many would want in a family. 2 beautiful kids, financially very stable etc
Wonder how many individuals have such feelings that the love for one another is no longer as strong as before.