(2010/10) Oct 2010 BTB
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pipi> oh man... tell yr HTB that u're not your sister-in-law and therefore yr family have different expectations.
For me, my mother is taking 8 tables (for show) all the angpows will be returned to pay off the tables as she knows that i'm the one paying for the whole wedding.
Pin Jin + Si Dian Jin will be paid by HTB's family. Think my mommy taking $8,888 in cheque and returning $8,000 for Pin Jin.
So actually its essentially only $888.
For me, my mother is taking 8 tables (for show) all the angpows will be returned to pay off the tables as she knows that i'm the one paying for the whole wedding.
Pin Jin + Si Dian Jin will be paid by HTB's family. Think my mommy taking $8,888 in cheque and returning $8,000 for Pin Jin.
So actually its essentially only $888.
pipi> for GDL stuffs, u can buy on ur own… no need to involve in-laws… it’s juz that it shld come from the groom’s side…
as for si dian jin, it depends on ur in-laws if they want to gv… but usually will gv some esp during the tea ceremony… for “mian zi†mah…
usually if tables r ardy given to bride’s side then no PJ will be given lor…
but if ur parents insist, perhaps u can tok to ur htb telling him to juz prepare an auspicious no. (e.g. $888) then ur parents to take the end digit… either $88 or $8 and return the rest…
that time, for my bro’s wedding also like that… they only took the “wei shu†instead of all the PJ…
wiwi> from my understanding T&T dun hv hotstamping on cards lor… not sure abt Nagamas leh…
yah, that’s wat my htb said so also… cos is 3-folds so dun want to do inserts…
the price for T-dragon given by pan pac is normal print on cards leh… dun hv hotstamping… hv written email to enquire quotes liao but no response from them yet…
not sure if any1 has used the other vendor which pan pac has recommended too…
as for si dian jin, it depends on ur in-laws if they want to gv… but usually will gv some esp during the tea ceremony… for “mian zi†mah…
usually if tables r ardy given to bride’s side then no PJ will be given lor…
but if ur parents insist, perhaps u can tok to ur htb telling him to juz prepare an auspicious no. (e.g. $888) then ur parents to take the end digit… either $88 or $8 and return the rest…
that time, for my bro’s wedding also like that… they only took the “wei shu†instead of all the PJ…
wiwi> from my understanding T&T dun hv hotstamping on cards lor… not sure abt Nagamas leh…
yah, that’s wat my htb said so also… cos is 3-folds so dun want to do inserts…
the price for T-dragon given by pan pac is normal print on cards leh… dun hv hotstamping… hv written email to enquire quotes liao but no response from them yet…
not sure if any1 has used the other vendor which pan pac has recommended too…
@DS_gerl
Can you share wif me your quotes once u got reply from other source? Hot stamping better or normal print? Hot stampin will leave a mark behind the print rite? ours is Tri-fold so if hot stamping will it leave marks on the cover of the cards if prints on the whole page?
Can you share wif me your quotes once u got reply from other source? Hot stamping better or normal print? Hot stampin will leave a mark behind the print rite? ours is Tri-fold so if hot stamping will it leave marks on the cover of the cards if prints on the whole page?
avatar> u wanna do normal mani/pedi or gel nails?
for normal mani/pedi, i usually hop ard... but recently found 1 manicurist who is quite gd at far east plaza but she's leaving that shop soon...
if for gel nails, u can try Cynthia, whom some of us here has ardy booked her for our AD
she's home based.... personally, hv done some of my gel nails with her and she's gd... u can chk out some of my photos in fb...
wiwi> u mean u r not given the other contact from pan pac other than T-dragon?
PM me ur email and i will send to u...
pipi> dun be too stress and despair... things shld work out fine when both parties sit down to discuss and compromise...
for normal mani/pedi, i usually hop ard... but recently found 1 manicurist who is quite gd at far east plaza but she's leaving that shop soon...
if for gel nails, u can try Cynthia, whom some of us here has ardy booked her for our AD
she's home based.... personally, hv done some of my gel nails with her and she's gd... u can chk out some of my photos in fb...
wiwi> u mean u r not given the other contact from pan pac other than T-dragon?
PM me ur email and i will send to u...
pipi> dun be too stress and despair... things shld work out fine when both parties sit down to discuss and compromise...
@ DS
This feeling is awful. It's like 1 gun shooting at me from my parents, and the other one from HTB. I told him to ask FFIL when free to meet up to discuss on banquet and GDL, and tell him nothing else and he promised! And yet he told me he have told FFIL wat happened. He didn't even think of my feelings. Both guns shooting at me and I still hv to be 和事è€. Now FFIL must have a v bad impression for my family. While ppl at my side feels that FFIL is too miser
This feeling is awful. It's like 1 gun shooting at me from my parents, and the other one from HTB. I told him to ask FFIL when free to meet up to discuss on banquet and GDL, and tell him nothing else and he promised! And yet he told me he have told FFIL wat happened. He didn't even think of my feelings. Both guns shooting at me and I still hv to be 和事è€. Now FFIL must have a v bad impression for my family. While ppl at my side feels that FFIL is too miser
Yeah.... Today is exactly 4 mths to my actual day!!!!
DS_gerl: home based ah? at where? Can i have her contacts? Btw, usually how long can the gel nail
last? if I can do it 2 days before my AD, maybe i might do it in Malaysia since I'm collecting my gowns.
Pipi, don't get so stressed over the wedding... Things will sort out eventually.
DS_gerl: home based ah? at where? Can i have her contacts? Btw, usually how long can the gel nail
last? if I can do it 2 days before my AD, maybe i might do it in Malaysia since I'm collecting my gowns.
Pipi, don't get so stressed over the wedding... Things will sort out eventually.
@ Deb
I'm really feeling v stress...with tears really to flow out anytime. I juz called my mum earlier, telling her me & HTB will arrange another meet-up for both sides to discuss. My mum straight away tell me my dad already not happy, wat's there to discuss. Tell her me & HTB being sandwiched, not good that the msg is being passed around like that so a meet-up is better. She juz replied me see how 1st...
I'm really feeling v stress...with tears really to flow out anytime. I juz called my mum earlier, telling her me & HTB will arrange another meet-up for both sides to discuss. My mum straight away tell me my dad already not happy, wat's there to discuss. Tell her me & HTB being sandwiched, not good that the msg is being passed around like that so a meet-up is better. She juz replied me see how 1st...
@ Deb
I dunno how my in laws feel. I dunno if there's a need for me to call my FFIL to check. But @ the moment my parents are not unhappy with the arrangement. My thinking is, to let them sort it out soonest possible b4 I proceed with others. Coz if the negotiation fails, I will juz call up the respective personnel to cancel...
I dunno how my in laws feel. I dunno if there's a need for me to call my FFIL to check. But @ the moment my parents are not unhappy with the arrangement. My thinking is, to let them sort it out soonest possible b4 I proceed with others. Coz if the negotiation fails, I will juz call up the respective personnel to cancel...
@ Deb
Problem here is, HTB is not happy with my parents. Dun think he's gtg to help in talking to FFIL. Last nite he was boiling hot, but tell me FFIL is v calm and listen to wat HTB said. Do u think HTB will help? For the whole morning he didn't even send me a sms...he's pretty mad this time, while I'm feeling really sad
Problem here is, HTB is not happy with my parents. Dun think he's gtg to help in talking to FFIL. Last nite he was boiling hot, but tell me FFIL is v calm and listen to wat HTB said. Do u think HTB will help? For the whole morning he didn't even send me a sms...he's pretty mad this time, while I'm feeling really sad
avatar> she is home based in yishun… u can chk out her blog at http://cynfulnails.blogspot.com
for gel nails, it can last as long as ur own nails grow out… so dun hv to worry even if u r doing it a few days prior to AD
hv not done my nails in msia b4 so dunno hw’s the quality and prices r like… maybe u can ask ur BS if they hv any recommendations?
deb> u can chk out the website for manhattan cards @ http://www.wowmanhattan.com.sg
if u apply the card b4 31 dec, u will get a $50 cash rebate upon approval.
the best part for applying stan chart cards is they gv u a higher credit limit and hence u dun hv to up ur credit limit b4 ur AD... and u can also get some more ppl to apply the manhattan card and request hotel to split the bills accordingly to enjoy more cash rebates... (e.g. each person charge $3k and rebate $300)
for gel nails, it can last as long as ur own nails grow out… so dun hv to worry even if u r doing it a few days prior to AD
hv not done my nails in msia b4 so dunno hw’s the quality and prices r like… maybe u can ask ur BS if they hv any recommendations?
deb> u can chk out the website for manhattan cards @ http://www.wowmanhattan.com.sg
if u apply the card b4 31 dec, u will get a $50 cash rebate upon approval.
the best part for applying stan chart cards is they gv u a higher credit limit and hence u dun hv to up ur credit limit b4 ur AD... and u can also get some more ppl to apply the manhattan card and request hotel to split the bills accordingly to enjoy more cash rebates... (e.g. each person charge $3k and rebate $300)
@ Deb
HTB say my parents v calculative, money grabber. FIL wanna give pin jin le but my parents not happy with the figure. But they aren't. I'm the only daughter, they want the best for me. A nice figure for the pin jin will give 'face' to both families...not tt my mum is gtg to take the full amount
HTB say my parents v calculative, money grabber. FIL wanna give pin jin le but my parents not happy with the figure. But they aren't. I'm the only daughter, they want the best for me. A nice figure for the pin jin will give 'face' to both families...not tt my mum is gtg to take the full amount
pipi: how much are ur parents holding out for?
$$$ is the main factor why ppl quarrel, if not resolved amicably ties can sour in no time. best is both of u talk to both sets of parents to get them to compromise on a figure which they can accept.
ur future in laws dunno how much ur mum is gonna take, so u cannot blame them for thinking that way. if ur parents really want the best for u, they shld not be so uptight over the amount of PJ they receive at the expense of ur happiness.
sometimes retreating a bit can let u see the bigger picture.
$$$ is the main factor why ppl quarrel, if not resolved amicably ties can sour in no time. best is both of u talk to both sets of parents to get them to compromise on a figure which they can accept.
ur future in laws dunno how much ur mum is gonna take, so u cannot blame them for thinking that way. if ur parents really want the best for u, they shld not be so uptight over the amount of PJ they receive at the expense of ur happiness.
sometimes retreating a bit can let u see the bigger picture.
avatar> not sure if entitle for sup cards holder...
the rebate shld be for next bill
pipi> wat is the amt ur parents r asking for PJ?
if the amt is not huge, perhaps both u and htb can fork out that amt first? anyway, ur parents will only take a small amt from there rite?
the rebate shld be for next bill
pipi> wat is the amt ur parents r asking for PJ?
if the amt is not huge, perhaps both u and htb can fork out that amt first? anyway, ur parents will only take a small amt from there rite?
@ Thomas, DS
I dunno how much is the figure they're looking at..they didn't let me know. HTB only tell me my FFIL gave $1.2k for the elder DIL 4 yrs ago, and DIL's parents returned $1k to them
I dun mind to fork out the money with HTB, but HTB is not willing to fork out a cent since FFIL is giving PJ
I dunno how much is the figure they're looking at..they didn't let me know. HTB only tell me my FFIL gave $1.2k for the elder DIL 4 yrs ago, and DIL's parents returned $1k to them
I dun mind to fork out the money with HTB, but HTB is not willing to fork out a cent since FFIL is giving PJ
pipi: cannot use their DIL's case to compare, everyone has different expectations. ur parents might have felt offended with the amt (assuming ur FFIL is offering the same too?) so thats why they are holding out for more but how much more? perhaps u can find out from ur mum first before u call for a meeting, otherwise no point.
no offence, ur HTB doesn't seem to be the type who compromises too. if all are so rigid, nothing can move from there honestly.
no offence, ur HTB doesn't seem to be the type who compromises too. if all are so rigid, nothing can move from there honestly.
@ Thomas
My dad is angry coz FFIL uses the past experience from the DIL.
HTB is kinda selfish type. He did mentioned to me if FFIL dun intend to give PJ, he dun mind coming up with $1888 (sounds great!) for my mum. But now since FFIL say will give PJ and my parents not happy with it, he's not willing to do so le. Y can't they understand it's for the sake of 'face', at least if the relatives ask abt it, both families also got 'face'. >.<
My dad is angry coz FFIL uses the past experience from the DIL.
HTB is kinda selfish type. He did mentioned to me if FFIL dun intend to give PJ, he dun mind coming up with $1888 (sounds great!) for my mum. But now since FFIL say will give PJ and my parents not happy with it, he's not willing to do so le. Y can't they understand it's for the sake of 'face', at least if the relatives ask abt it, both families also got 'face'. >.<
@ Deb
I'm trying to le...really. I'm also someone kinda short-tempered, becoz of this I keep myself dxxn cool when I msn him. I'll see wat my parents say tonite when I'm home.
I'm not trying to be rude here, but most Teochew want 'face' for this. So for my parents, they do expect my FFIL to know wat to do when they're also Teochew
I'm trying to le...really. I'm also someone kinda short-tempered, becoz of this I keep myself dxxn cool when I msn him. I'll see wat my parents say tonite when I'm home.
I'm not trying to be rude here, but most Teochew want 'face' for this. So for my parents, they do expect my FFIL to know wat to do when they're also Teochew
@ Deb
I know. B4 this I often heard ppl say, marriage is not juz between the 2 couple. Now I understand le...
HTB sms me to check with me on the banquet stuffs, I also tell him not to be angry coz it's gtg to be settled among them. He told me FFIL wants my parents to cool down 1st then arrange for them to meet. Wonder how long will it takes...
I know. B4 this I often heard ppl say, marriage is not juz between the 2 couple. Now I understand le...
HTB sms me to check with me on the banquet stuffs, I also tell him not to be angry coz it's gtg to be settled among them. He told me FFIL wants my parents to cool down 1st then arrange for them to meet. Wonder how long will it takes...
Pipi> if yr parents wants PJ, and FMIL is only willing to give a certain amount... then why don't u yourself top up the rest and get over the whole matter?
Afterall you know that your parents will return a certain figure.. if its just the face of exchanging $$ then top it up and get it back later?
Afterall you know that your parents will return a certain figure.. if its just the face of exchanging $$ then top it up and get it back later?