Hi fellow brides of 2009- need ur advice.
I had my ROM last year(2009), had my PS at Taiwan last year(2009), we will be holding our Banquet this year (2010)Nov. My FMI requested for a Ti Qing session soon. This is a part we try to avoid, thinking of the awkward moment we might be facing when Pin Jing is being asked.
Behind the sense, my FB n I had already decided a certain amount for Pin Jing (S$3888), as we are both hosting our wedding on our own w/o any help from our parents as both our parents are no longer working, separated and has no saving. There are a few questions I want to ask about Ti Qing.
1. Ping Jing – I’m very sure that my mum will answer “give as u please†if she will be asked upon the amount of Pin Jing she wanted. Afraid that she may have any disappointment when she recv the Pin Jing, is best to tell the amount beforehand. I asked my FH to voice up “S$3888 ok?†if required. Do u think is ok and w/in S’pore range?
2. Normally we need to return partial of the Pin Jing to the groom’s family, how much to return? Is returning S$888 ok?
3. Tables for bride side – as both of us are the host of the wedding banquet, if my mum asks for a certain no. of tables, does that mean that the Ang Pao will be given to her? We are afraid that we can’t even up the price if she has to take the Ang Pao.
4. 4 Dian Jing – Instead of the 4 Dian Jing, I actually wanted Phoenix bracelet instead. Does it look “cheapo†to have just one item compare to 4 items from 4-Dian-Jing?
5. Gao-Da-Li – What to ask? No. of boxes of cakes, Roasted pig, what else?
6. Should I ask about what MIL want during Ti Qing? Eg. Jia Pao Sea (shoes for MIL), sister-in-law’s cloth or dress.
Appreciate your reply. Thanks