daphne -
Yup, i agreed with caitlyn, you need not have to tell your IL how much your mum bao. Cos to be frank, my IL also dun bother, i dun think they will bao for my JM, cos i am not returning to my IL house for tea cermony, i will hv the tea cemony in my hse, then to the restaurant @ 11am, the tea cermony will be in the rest for my IL and their relative. Cos they also simply dun bother.
So me and HB planned the day sch and they are ok.