Dabee..
yes i have eaten..
Of coz i do understand what u mean.. i mean i too have seen a fair share of unfillial kids man! like my aunties case lor.. i mean after they get my grandparents to sell off their flats.. 2 of them took all the $$, at that time, they still coupling.. so they took the $$ to buy their house now.. both are 5 rooms flat... & guess wat?? they pushed the grandparents to my parents house!!
then my grandpa was sick with cancer, as it was a long term illness, my folks help to clean & bath him leh... coz he was bedridden, none of my aunts came to visit him.. its until he was very severely ill, got admitted hospital, everyday I would follow my mom go hospital to stay & chat with him.. but they still nv go, it was until the doc called to gather all family members as he cannot survived liao.. then they go... & they stay for a while only.. can't wait to go home.. so my mom pester for them to stay on... but the youngest left, after she left... after a while my granddad passed away...
the old folks in his room ask my mom if she is the eldest daughter & she said yes.. the old folks said.. ur dad loves u the most.. he always talk abt how he had mistreated u in the past but its only till now that he knows ur the best.. with those words & tears in my mom's eyes.. then i realized why there are no complaints from my mom... I always feel that she had been taken advantage of..
then my aunties push my granny to my mom, i got so pissed!! I tell them that i'm gg to sue them! i mean how can my mom be the one taking care of both folks & they just get the $$ & scram!! then they say to let my granny do rounding, staying in each of their houses monthly!! I told them that monthly is too fast & all those travelling will tired my granny out... so i suggested half yearly & they said no way!! its too long... so now we decided on 3 months... looking at my granny now.. i feel so sad that i had to send her back after 3 mths...
i am talking about both my mom & I will have to work, only my granny is alone at home, I give her $$ & my hse keys for her to have the freedom to go for walk & to buy lunch.... (in fact she loves to stay with us) but i worry for her as no one is at home, wat if she will to fall? so everyday i will call home to check her out..
bear in mind, both my aunts dun have to work, they are full time house wife, their hbs are bosses of some companies... so they are rich & free but YET they dun wanna take care of my granny... when my granny goes to their houses, during weekends i will drop by.. i was SHOCKED to see my granny treated like a maid, she is supposed to mop the floor, clean the house etc... can u imagine that!! during dinner, she is not even allowed to sit with them... my aunt, my uncle & their 3 kids will occupy 1 table & when they had finished dinner, with the miserable food left, then my granny take over to eat!!
There are alot of things which i cannot see eye to eye with but i had no choice! unless i really strike TOTO lor... then i will bring my granny to stay with me & my mom dun have to work to take care of her!!
bear in mind... my mom is not my grandparents real child, she is adopted..