feelingalone
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My husband (30+) and I (20+) have been together for the past 9 years. ROMed in 2013, and moved into our new BTO in Aug last year. It seems now we are on the road to a divorce.
It started about 6 months ago when he suddenly became cold to me. We talked about it and he brought up our biggest problem - intimacy. We have yet to consummate our marriage. I don't think I hate sex but I feel very uncomfortable with him touching me. It feels like I'm being molested. Maybe it has to do with the way he touches me - groping my below when I'm about to fall asleep or me waking up to him rubbing my nips. He started doing this years ago and I've begged him many times not to. To no avail.
We don't have a lot of normal physical intimacy, close to none after we moved in together. Normal as in kissing, hugging, cuddling, holding hands etc. Many times when he starts his touching in the middle of the night I tell myself I have a duty as his wife so I just close my eyes and try to bear with it. But natural instinct makes me push him away.
Anyway things didn't change after the first talk and after the second talk it was evident that he did not want to put in anymore effort into this marriage.
I became a housewife after we moved in together so right now I still do all the housework and cooking his dinner while he works to pay for the house and the bills. We barely talk 5 sentences every day and it's becoming tiring to have to pretend we're ok in front of my family.
Pretty sure his concern is the same as mine right now - where to stay. We have only stayed here for about a year. He probably can't go home since he quarreled with his family I think (refused to tell me anything) and I'm not keen to move back home either. I spent alot alot of effort on the house and would really hope to continue staying in it.
I know he has a valid reason for immediate divorce. If he decides on that, what will happen to the house? Back to HDB? With him paying majority of whatever we've paid so far, will he be able to "make" me transfer it to him or will the judge "award" it to him? Can I do anything to be able to continue living in it (eg getting a family member to buy it or something)?
It started about 6 months ago when he suddenly became cold to me. We talked about it and he brought up our biggest problem - intimacy. We have yet to consummate our marriage. I don't think I hate sex but I feel very uncomfortable with him touching me. It feels like I'm being molested. Maybe it has to do with the way he touches me - groping my below when I'm about to fall asleep or me waking up to him rubbing my nips. He started doing this years ago and I've begged him many times not to. To no avail.
We don't have a lot of normal physical intimacy, close to none after we moved in together. Normal as in kissing, hugging, cuddling, holding hands etc. Many times when he starts his touching in the middle of the night I tell myself I have a duty as his wife so I just close my eyes and try to bear with it. But natural instinct makes me push him away.
Anyway things didn't change after the first talk and after the second talk it was evident that he did not want to put in anymore effort into this marriage.
I became a housewife after we moved in together so right now I still do all the housework and cooking his dinner while he works to pay for the house and the bills. We barely talk 5 sentences every day and it's becoming tiring to have to pretend we're ok in front of my family.
Pretty sure his concern is the same as mine right now - where to stay. We have only stayed here for about a year. He probably can't go home since he quarreled with his family I think (refused to tell me anything) and I'm not keen to move back home either. I spent alot alot of effort on the house and would really hope to continue staying in it.
I know he has a valid reason for immediate divorce. If he decides on that, what will happen to the house? Back to HDB? With him paying majority of whatever we've paid so far, will he be able to "make" me transfer it to him or will the judge "award" it to him? Can I do anything to be able to continue living in it (eg getting a family member to buy it or something)?